Need some help from SOGR about a life situation. I guess this is a variation of the what to do about others situation.

I am having an argument with myself and really am not sure if living in the certain way means letting EVERYTHING go by. Never participating in a process.

My son was on a school sponsored trip and students consumed alcohol. The teacher took it away and did not follow the school's policies (I cannot absolutely know that is true). The students were allowed to participate in a competition when they clearly should not have.

Had my son not been along, I would leave it to itself. So my question is, is it counterproductive to ask the teacher about the situation? I want to know if my child is in the care of a teacher, he is going to be safe at all times and that discipline will be maintained.

Or do I just privately discuss expected behavior with my son and let it go?

When do you insert yourself in the process in a positive way? I know someone will have some good answers.

My thought is if I focus on what is wrong, I get more of that. But, the old self says, if everyone just lets everything go, how will there ever be change or improvement?

Conflict.

Hmmmm.....

I think that you should get involved; but I would talk to the principal rather than the teacher. Handle it as fact finding; let the principal determine if the teacher followed the school's policies or not.

This is a minor child, I am assuming, in which case, of course you must be involved, the child is your business.
Go to the school and talk to the parties involved and as you say, find the truth, or the answers that you need to allow yourself the sense of security you would expect for your child.
Looking for a 'solution', is very proactive.
Get the good answers that you need first, and then you will probably know what action you need /or don't need to take.
Just focus on the solution.
Bea

I was leaving the school today and bumped into the teacher, so I just asked her if I could ask what happened. She was very forthright and I am glad I went with an open mind and heart. She handled the situation perfectly. Unfortunately, in this case, two administrators let these students off the hook, opposing the teacher's desire for these kids to be held accountable.

My son is 15 and I assured her that if there was ever a need for me to be aware of his behavior that I would want to know.

Unfortunately, one of the administrators is one who I referred to in an earlier post who I mistakenly said I had made an enemy. Rebecca's gentle truth that I could not make anyone an enemy was helpful. Unfortunately this man is not very open. That's my perception. :-) It is also a reality.

So, as I have pondered the situation, my mind went back to an early problem, where I had desired for these men to show a little mercy. I have decided to see this as a situation where that is manifesting. And I hope that a privilege another son (17)is asking for, will be dealt with mercy.

I have battled with my thoughts and feelings and come to the realization that I can love what is and I can be grateful. And so I am. Thanks for your responses. I would still like to hear anyone's thoughts on it.

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really am not sure if living in the certain way means letting EVERYTHING go by. Never participating in a process.

That would NOT be my understanding. As with ANY kind of action, it's just a matter of getting your own feelings/energy aligned with the outcome you desire (your CMI of how you'd really like things to be). And then you can take inspired action -- and come from a place of power.

For me, inspired action is always in SUPPORT of something and never in reaction or opposition. By that I mean, I choose to be FOR something rather than AGAINST something. (Remember how Mother Theresa famously said she wouldn't march in an anti-war rally but if invited to a real PEACE march, she'd show up? Same principle.)

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Originally posted by Rebecca:
As with ANY kind of action, it's just a matter of getting your own feelings/energy aligned with the outcome you desire (your CMI of how you'd really like things to be). And then you can take inspired action -- and come from a place of power.

For me, inspired action is always in SUPPORT of something and never in reaction or opposition. By that I mean, I choose to be FOR something rather than AGAINST something.

Thanks Rebecca, as I have been pondering this situation again this morning, I am startled at the emotions that are surfacing. This morning I have felt an actual emotional pain surrounding my heart, a welling of grief, and other things. I almost said negative emotions, but they are just emotions. And as Phil said in the Paradox post, I realize that this is a situation that is likely triggering something from a completely different place.

I am so grateful I have a good working knowledge of EFT, so that I can investigate and let it go. And also do the turnarounds from The Work. There is a part of me that wants to sit in the negative and hurt someone. That surprises me too. I choose not to do that.

Instead this is what I wrote in my gratitude log this morning.

I am grateful I can feel, even when it hurts. I am grateful, I can see injustice, so I will want to be just. I am grateful that I can forgive when I am ready. I am grateful for loved ones to ease the pain. I am grateful for peace when I choose to experience it.

I already see the comedy of the injustice. That is my perception. Perhaps it is completely just. More work for me to do. I use the word work lightly. I prefer peace, so that is the direction I will head.