Hi everyone...

I'm not new to Practical Geniuses, but I am starting the course all over again. I'm at a point in my life where I need to refocus (again!).

Amazing things have happened in my life up 'til now when I've really been in tune with gratitude and the certain way. And then I get pulled away and things change.

Here's a question I have: Has anyone else dealt with someone very close to them who absolutely doesn't believe 'this stuff'? Someone who actively disputes it? To what extent does that pull you off course, and what's a good way to deal with a doubter in close proximity?

Any input gratefully received!

And I've never actively posted in the PG Forum on my other trips through the course... plan to do so this time!

Kris in Grapevine, Texas
(who can't seem to lose the 'in England' tag)

I find that it's hard to focus on your true goals when around negative people. This is especially true about relatives, as they can really make you doubt your dreams, if you let them. Jesus Himself said that a prophet is not honored in his hometown.

I guess we can't let ourselves get off course too much, no matter what.

Hi Kris,

I had a similar experience a few years back when I was first learning some of these principles, and I was with someone whom did not believe in them either. The mistake I made was trying to convince someone else who was not ready to hear it, or experience it in their own lives. It seemed like the more I tried to convince my significant other, the more resistance it created.

I have since learned that we should never try to change someone else, even when we think it’s best for them. There seems to be this law in physics, that whenever we try to change someone else, we then create an equal and opposite resistance in the other direction.

Once I let go and just lived my life the best I could, and let this other person live there life, it did initially cause a separation, because it seemed like we were at odds with each other at that point. So I ended moving to another state so that I could follow my passions, and spent time working on myself.

My new way of thinking has now caused a change in this other person too, and now she has become interested in the very things that I was initially trying to share with her in the first place, and now our friendship has grown to new levels again. She actually comes to me now for advice on these very principles.

I have learned to lead through example, rather than trying to convince someone else that I'm right or have a better solution.

Matt

I can't help but think that I'm the same boat sometimes. However I have also been very aware of creative thinking and competitive thinking. I find that whenever I think that somebody else needs to follow or be involved or even understand my line of thought I think of as competitive. So in my creative thought I think not of how anybody thinks or is involved. It is whatever I can create and offer to that "formless stuff". So if it is to help someone then I create it and offer it up. But I feel I shouldn't try to change peoples viewpoint or involvement. If they want to come along they will come of there own accord and they will of their own accord be involved or interested because it is of there initiative and choice.

At the end of the day if I (you) are successful and there lifestyle is that much better than I (you) have achieved more in their enjoyment and happiness and we are as a result fulfilled. It is better to live in the moment and enjoy the journey and allow our desires to come to us than to impress our will and intentions (if only a little bit) upon others.
Pete

Bill, that was really helpful... thanks for taking the time to respond!

For me at the moment, it helps that my husband is in England while I'm in Texas for my own son's high school years. It's an odd situation, but it's easier to distance myself from his unbelief than it was when I was there.

The thing is, I know this works! There are several major things that I've 'manifestoed' myself! For one reason or another, I just get off track and away from it. Maybe get lazy would be more to the point. I'm most often tuned in to gratitude, but efficient action escapes me a lot of the time. That's why I'm refocusing (again!).

Funny, now that you mentioned manifesting things, my youngest son who's not quite 17 picked up on that quite readily when he was first driving. I mentioned the concept to him once, and then I'd be saying 'Don't you need to be in that other lane to exit?' and he'd say 'Don't worry, Mom. I'm going to manifest myself a space.' And it worked again and again. That was probably more than a year ago, so I'll have to bring it up with him again. Maybe he can work on manifesting himself a scholarship!

Anyway, finding like-minded souls always makes a difference. I appreciate your input, Bill, and hope to hear from you again soon.

Kris in Grapevine, Texas

My wife doesn’t understand and doesn’t want to. In fact up till now I encounter resistance at every step. I have 4 boys oldest being 15 now and she has got them teasing me at times saying I am going to manifesto something. I have used the term manifesting and they have changed it to manifesto.

If they do not want to try to understand or talk about it then I won’t. I will show them when I get rich and have everything I want I will go back and tell them I did my manifesto.

Seriously, I will keep that part to myself or at least not talk to them about it. If I need help or want to discuss it I can go to the forum.

If you ever need someone to talk to you can email me or call me I would love to discuss stuff. Just send me a PM

Bill

www.thurstoninsurance.com