I found these questions more difficult especially, why do people fail to impress their desires on formless substance. From a personal stand point, this week so far, my wife and I had a great meeting with a literary manager regarding our screenplay. However, sales were down for me this week in the sales work that I do.

I became frustrated with this result. I did re-listen to the assigned labs 6&8 and I think the answer is because I have to change my thinking. Change the point of view.
See the good that is happening and translate that good into the sales in the meantime. Keep the vision clear of success regardless of appearances. Does that sound about right?

If you have the written copy of SOGR re-read chapter 8 paying special attention to the second paragraph, there I think you will find your answer.
Chapter eight, for me, was worth reading more than once.

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I found these questions more difficult especially, why do people fail to impress their desires on formless substance.

Richard, I believe that is because the traditional society (as in: scarcity thinking) has taught us to stop dreaming.

When mom is telling her young boy that there are other things than being a pilot, she is protecting him from disappointment. And killing his dream at the same time.

Speaking of time, I do hope you take your time to go through the lifelabs. It seems only yesterday since you started

God bless you,

Caroline
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I am going through life labs at non hurried pace. It wasn't yesterday when I started, Caroline.

Thanks, Caroline. I did mix it up better and slowed the study of things down and it has helped a lot. I am still in the first month. Last night while listening to the CD something clicked for me as to what I need to do next.
My personal desire wasn't being fulfilled.
thank you for telling me to slow it up.

Hi Richard,

I found these questions more difficult especially, why do people fail to impress their desires on formless substance.

In the study of SOGR and the Law of Attraction,the problem with us is not our inability to impress our desire on the formless substance but our RESISTANCES.Many at times when the good intentions comes from within-from our TRUE BEING,we sometimes couteract them based on either our experiences or what we know for sure that is logical.
Rebecca said we should be unreasonable while impressing our desires,then allow the formless to do the job.Our part is to have a desire ,it is the formless to carry out the final task.

Many blessing.

When I first started, my CMI was mostly related to my business.

I wanted the studio full of happy, buying customers. I wanted to be able to leave to go on a family vacation (I envisioned a cruise) with the full knowledge that all would be well without me.

Since then, a miniature version of that has come true, (I took one evening off) and lots of other wonderful things as well. I know this works because I have seen it in my life.

But now I'm scared.

The more I believe in SOGR, the more nervous I get about clarifying my CMI. I realized yesterday that I'm afraid that what I manifest will come with unexpected problems or sacrifices will be required to receive it.

I've tried writing my objections down. It really doesn't make sense to be scared. Nothing bad has happened as a result of the other things I've manifested.

But still, when I start to think seriously about clarifying my CMI I get nervous. I tried using EFT and that helps, but I'm not an expert in it yet. I thought that maybe I should start smaller in order to make the dream less intimidating.

Here's an example of what goes on in my mind: Hmmm, my tires are starting to look worn. It would be lovely to have some better tires. But that would cost money, and there are so many other things I need to spend my limited money on. Even if I was able to get them at a very good price, that's less money to spend on something else. *stop, breath* I'm very grateful that I haven't had a flat yet, and that overall my car is in excellent shape. Also, If I do have a flat, there is a good used tire shop very near, and I also have a serviceable spare in my trunk. I don't need to worry about my tires.

I see now that I need to stop and breath a bit earlier -- how about right after "my tires are starting to look worn"? And just continue with "it would be lovely to have a brand new set of good tires for my car. It would probably drive better with new tires, the all wheel drive system could grip the road better. I would feel safer and more in control with good tires and a well cared for car. I really like my car and I'm grateful to have it. I'd like to keep it in tip top shape."

Did I just solve my own problem? I think so, but I'd love more input from the peanut gallery -- oops, I mean the forum.

Ok, I've put that modified CMI about my tires into my phone notes. As I was writing, I realized that I need to put it into the present tense. As in "I feel so much safer and in control with good tires and a well cared for car."

Dr. Alexandra Gayek of the Science Of Being Well network asks "What are you willing to do to be well?".

My thinking is that you would have less fear in your life if you had new tires. My question to you is what are you willing to do in order to have new tires?

Hmmmm...

That's the sort of thinking that triggers nervousness. What do I have to give up in order to have new tires? Do I give up paying my taxes on time? Do I give up the advertising that I'm sure is important to bring in new income? Do I give up that vacation I still haven't planned?

I'm trying to avoid thinking in terms of lack, and just focusing on what I want/need and being open to possibilities. I did just get an unexpected gig that will pay $250 dollars at the end of next month, but the last time I bought new tires for this car it cost $700.

See, I'm pretty sure that focusing on numbers and lack is not the right course. I don't think I have an issue with not working hard enough, or being willing to sacrifice. I've done both of those plenty my whole life.

What's worked for me so far is relaxing, feeling good, and holding my vision.

Did I misunderstand you?

Thanks for the input. I look forward to your reply.

Love and Blessings,
Rachel

For me when I think that I need new tires I go to Costco, I have found that tires are less expensive there and the same quality. For me it is worth it to have peace of mind; and I can be much more creative with a peaceful mind. Perhaps you only need two now and two latter.

I feel that you are a creative person and that your business is progressively doing better; you might be able add other lines to the business such as event/party planning. No reason not to do all of the things that you want to do including having new tires!

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That's the sort of thinking that triggers nervousness. What do I have to give up in order to have new tires?

Hmm, interesting that you saw "what are you willing to do" as "what are you going to have to give up."

Well, if you want to look at it that way, it just means what limiting thoughts and beliefs are you going to have to give up?

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Who knows what could happen? Last night I went to a rodeo with three friends. As we approached the ticket window, a woman walked up and handed me a ticket. She said she had four tickets but only three people had been able to make it.

So I said thank you. I went to the rodeo just because I wanted to, without thinking much about the ticket, but prepared to buy one, of course.

My three friends DID buy theirs (I offered to share but they said, no, she gave it to YOU).

Now a rodeo ticket is not a huge expense but it's still nice to receive it as a gift, and I felt very appreciative. I also wondered why she walked up to ME out of the hundreds, perhaps thousands of people preparing to buy tickets. I find that just so fascinating; this sort of thing happens to me all the time.

(I mean, it happens a LOT. It's almost mind-boggling the stuff people have just GIVEN me in the last couple of months.)

It's got to be the THINKING because at this point I just generally do have a happy, expectant, worry-free attitude regarding material abundance and it keeps showing up in all kinds of ways. People just GIVE me what I want or need at the moment. I keep being amazed.

If I needed tires, I could go buy them. But I wouldn't be surprised if they showed up some other way either.

Just some food for thought.

Oh, and of course, that woman could NOT have given me the ticket if I hadn't taken the action of actually going to the rodeo!

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Originally posted by Rebecca:
Hmm, interesting that you saw "what are you willing to do" as "what are you going to have to give up."

Well, if you want to look at it that way, it just means what limiting thoughts and beliefs are you going to have to give up?

I noticed after I wrote it that I had distorted it a bit. If giving up limited thinking is all I have to do, I'm on board. That's what I was trying to say, myself.

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Originally posted by Tom Strong:
you might be able add other lines to the business such as event/party planning.

I suppose I'm a bit sensitive about suggestions that I'm not working hard enough. I've always been an enthusiastic worker and a top producer. I've also usually felt that I could or should be working harder, (hence the sensitivity.) Now that I run the business my intent is to work ON it and not so much IN it. But there's very little that I'm not capable of doing myself if no one else will. We already offer a LOT of related services (including wedding/party planning.)

Now that I've read over my reply, I suppose it sounds a bit whiny. Tom didn't say I had to do the work myself, although I certainly could. I almost wish now that I hadn't posted this thread. I've ended up arguing for my limitations. NOT my plan.

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Originally posted by Rebecca:
Now a rodeo ticket is not a huge expense but it's still nice to receive it as a gift, and I felt very appreciative. I also wondered why she walked up to ME out of the hundreds, perhaps thousands of people preparing to buy tickets. I find that just so fascinating; this sort of thing happens to me all the time.

(I mean, it happens a LOT. It's almost mind-boggling the stuff people have just GIVEN me in the last couple of months.)

It's got to be the THINKING because at this point I just generally do have a happy, expectant, worry-free attitude regarding material abundance and it keeps showing up in all kinds of ways. People just GIVE me what I want or need at the moment. I keep being amazed.

If I needed tires, I could go buy them. But I wouldn't be surprised if they showed up some other way either.

Just some food for thought.

Oh, and of course, that woman could NOT have given me the ticket if I hadn't taken the action of actually going to the rodeo!

Yeah, I've noticed that I often get things free or discounted AFTER I've decided to buy them. I'm sure part of it is just "being at the rodeo." But part of it seems to be acceptance that you can have that thing (if you're willing to buy it, you've accepted that you deserve it.) This is a phenomenon I've noticed before, but it only seems to work when you already believe that you have the resources.

I'm doing it again -- focusing on limitations. I'm going to go do something feel good -ish like post in the gratitude journal or something.

Love and Blessings,
Rachel

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Originally posted by Rachel:
Hmmmm...

That's the sort of thinking that triggers nervousness. What do I have to give up in order to have new tires?
Rachel

I'm a little confused Rachel. Why would you have to give up anything to get your tires? Treat it like everything else you do. See the tires you want, enjoy them completely, and watch for opportunities to show up that magically provide them.

Rachel,

It’s my understanding that what we experience tends to follow how we feel.

It’s also my understanding that how we feel is a consequence of how we think about whatever we think about.

If these ideas are true then the only thing we need to do is find a healthy way to feel good about whatever it is we are thinking about.

If these ideas are true, then it seems it would work if you simply affirmed something like:

“Everything is working out wonderfully.” And then, imagine and feel how you’d feel, if somehow you just ‘knew’ or accepted the idea that somehow, everything is working out wonderfully.

I just had an event that if I just responded to what it looked like I wouldn’t feel good. But this idea occurred to me. So, I imagined how I’d feel if I knew everything about it was working out wonderfully. Well, I’d feel wonderful of course, and so I felt my mood rise.

Well, it just so happens that things actually did just work out wonderfully.

And here’s something else I’ve pondered before: Ultimately EVERYTHING works out just fine.

Since that’s true, we might as well ‘get into the flow’ and just keep remembering to feel what it’s like when we know everything’s working out just fine.

Phil

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By Rachel; Now that I run the business my intent is to work ON it and not so much IN it.

This is the premise of Michael Gerber's great book "The E-myth". And you are right, I don't want you to do all of the work yourself. And I think that you are developing your instructors to carry more of the load.

When my wife and I ran our printing business my job as manager was to make sure that the customer service people were taking care of the clients, that the press people (both offset and digital) were putting out jobs on time and with a high degree of quality, that the graphic designers produced great art for our clients and that the diret mail department got the mailings out on time and on budget! I would work outside of the shop developing new clients; every time I went to a chamber of commerce mixer I brought back a new client. Our company served over 1500 clients per year; I took special care of our top 20! I also kept my eyes and ears open for new equipment and new ways to serve our clients!

Hope this helps!

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Yeah, I've noticed that I often get things free or discounted AFTER I've decided to buy them.

Part of that is the awesome power of simply MAKING A DECISION.

And part of it may be that once you've decided to buy something, you've let go of at least part of your scarcity thinking -- that part that's SCARED to let go of money.

Thanks all!

Dawn, you're right of course. I just got tripped up by that "what are you willing to do" stuff. I got a little scared.

Phil, I love the "everything is working out wonderfully" thing. It's vague enough not to trigger any specific worries and positive enough to boost my mood. Perfect!

Tom, thanks for sharing your experiences. Recently, I've actually been "working" much less. I still go to work, but I spend a lot of time there just doing feel good stuff like doing life labs, talking to staff and students, and just hanging out. I do worry sometimes that I ought to be doing more, but this actually feels a bit like the vacation I keep postponing. I'm resting, without completely abandoning my normal duties. I'm just not stressing so much about generating new business.

Rebecca,
The scarcity thinking is still something I don't quite get. I made a lot of money last month, but I'm not sure what to do with it. I've actually been saving it because I might need it for payroll this month. I need to pay my taxes, but I haven't done that because it would use up most of what I've accumulated. I'm also planning to do re-do some of my signage, and I don't yet know how much that will cost. Although, most of the things I wanted money for, I have recently made arrangements to get in trade. So, what am I worried about exactly?

Should I really just spend it all and trust that there will be enough to pay the staff later? Can that be right? I don't want to be stupid...

Again, thanks all for your input.*breath* I'm sure everything will work out wonderfully.

Love and Blessings,
Rachel

I haven't read responses on what to do with what you have coming in, but you could certainly allocate percentages to go certain places. And each time you have good months, allocate more of those percentages to each place. Most people with lots of money certainly do budget or allocate that money. They don't just use it all completely up. I am sure you know that though.

Hi Rachael;

Putting money aside for a future payroll or unexpected expenses is always a good idea; and helps create a more relaxed feeling! But tires are one of those expenses.

BTW; I knew a production manager once who spent a lot of time in his office reading Playboy! He had already created a smooth running operation, he had great people to keep it running smoothly and was available if an emergency happened. Did he get paid to read Playboy; or did he get paid because he always had a smooth running operation?