Lately i've been really feeling bummed.. things appear to be not going right, relationship, work.. i'm pretty sure it's my ego at work cause i have lots of mixed feelings and emotions.. it's getting to a point where i find it a hard time to focus.

what can one suggest to keep on moving forward?

thank you

Some days are like that and it is easy for feelings to pull us down. What always works for me (besides prayer) is writing my gratitude journal.
No matter how horrible my life is, there are always tons of things to be grateful for. And writing them down, putting them into words, is a great way to turn your thoughts into more positive feelings.

God bless you,

Caroline
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Originally posted by infinite.asset:
Lately i've been really feeling bummed..

what can one suggest to keep on moving forward

This may sound like a ‘long way around’ to get to the solution, but please try to bear with it. It actually goes to the source or cause of your ‘bummer’ and acts to relieve it there, making any ‘work’ you need to do almost negligible or nonexistent. (The ‘work’ is just understanding. The understanding dissolves the ‘bummer’ feelings, without effort.)

Try to realize this: The ‘bummer’ feelings you are experiencing are only the result of your ‘point of view’ or how you’re currently perceiving conditions. This is important to understand because, once you do you will clearly realize that the conditions have absolutely no power to make you feel one way or the other.

When you realize conditions have no power to make you feel one way or another it causes an ‘inner shift’. Once you realize conditions have no power to make you feel any particular way, your mind will automatically expand and begin to look for the solution elsewhere, which is exactly what needs to be done, because that’s where the real solution lies – somewhere other than the conditions.

Here is how some others put it:

“We create our own heaven or hell. Your thoughts can imprison you or set you free. Complications, conditions or people do not upset you, but the way you think about them causes your upset. Freedom is not possible until we discipline and retrain our minds.” - p. 124 of Choose To Live Peacefully by Susan Smith Jones, Ph.D.

“If you say, “I just can’t help the way I feel,” you will only make yourself a victim of your misery ~ and you’ll be fooling yourself, because you can change the way you feel.
If you want to feel better, you must realize that your thoughts and attitudes--not external events--create your feelings. You can learn to change the way your think, feel, and behave in the here-and-now.” - from The Feeling Good Handbook by Dr. David Burns

“When you feel frustrated or upset by a person or a situation, remember that you are not reacting to the person or the situation, but to your feelings [beliefs] about the person or the situation.” - from The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success by Deepak Chopra

“I can't emphasize this strongly enough... If you haven't been able to feel how you want to feel,... then you are being victimized by your own disempowering thoughts, beliefs and attitudes.” - Mike Brescia, President, Think Right Now International

Now, here is something VERY important: Don’t go start ‘beating yourself up’ about any of this. Yes, it’s your beliefs or way of thinking (not the conditions) that are causing you to be ‘bummed’ but you didn’t consciously buy into those beliefs. Sure, you have them now, and so you experience the bad feelings they produce, but you acquired them innocently. (Most of the beliefs we have – whether they are empowering or limiting – we got before the age of 5.)

Your ‘job’ is to simply be willing to ‘swap out’ beliefs that no longer work for you, and replace them with more empowering beliefs. In this case, you simply need a more empowering way of looking at your conditions. Once you gain that, your ‘bummer’ feelings will just naturally ‘evaporate’ and you will likely experience calm or ease or a nice relaxed feeling, or even better.

So, to get to this ‘aha’ kind of understanding that will allow you to feel ease and relaxed,..

So, it seems a first good step is realizing what the quotes above are saying: Conditions don’t CAUSE us to feel one way or another. WE cause ourselves to feel how we do about conditions. When we change how we think about conditions, we automatically FEEL differently about them.

So, what can you think that would let you feel better about the conditions?

At this point let me try to help further by pointing out a fundamental fact: WE are not our conditions. Why is this important to note? Because, one of the ways we get to where we feel ‘bummed’ about conditions is, we IDENTIFY with them. But WE are not the conditions we experience. We only EXPERIENCE them.

Conditions change. They go from good to bad, or pleasant to unpleasant and back to pleasant, etc.

In our life experience we move through myriad conditions and experiences. But WE are not those myriad conditions and experiences. We merely EXPERIENCE them. Do you see the separation between the two – between Who We Are and What We Experience?

Realizing this ‘distance’ – between us and conditions – should help to ease the ‘bummer’ feeling, because it releases our IDENTITY from them. Get clear about this: YOU are not what you experience. You only experience what you experience.

Now, another thing to help you release the ‘bummer’ feeling: Get to realize and identify more with Who You Really Are. You may not know Who You Really Are right now (practically no one does, at least not completely) but the more you do, the better you will naturally feel. Why is this so?

Because, Who You Really Are is practically unlimited. Certainly, Who You Really Are is absolutely deserving and worthy and capable of having a wonderful life. So, how can you get in touch with or recognize Who You Really Are? That, to me, is what this study is ultimately all about.

When you come to IDENTIFY with Who You Really Are you will naturally feel wonderful feelings. And you will naturally realize the great power you have (power you can't use, if you don't know it's there).

So why do we ever feel bummed? Because we’re identifying with our BELIEFS – what we believe about things – conditions, events, experiences, etc.

Who We Really Are has the capacity to acquire beliefs, but Who We Really Are is NOT the beliefs it has acquired. Therefore, if a belief we have is not working for us, we simply need to recognize this and let go the limiting (bummer causing) belief and replace it with a better one, one that will naturally allow us to feel better and thereby naturally allow a good resolution to the unwanted condition, circumstance, experience, event, etc.

To give an analogy: Who We Really Are vs the Beliefs we have is like the difference between a computer and the software it runs. The computer is not the software it runs, but the results the computer get depend on the software running in it.

The results you experience – the feelings you experience, as well as the circumstances that your beliefs have brought about – are not YOU. Just as the results of a computer are not the results of the computer, but are the results of the software running in the computer. Faulty software = faulty results. Better software = better results. Faulty beliefs = unwanted results. Better beliefs = better results.

Does this help? Do you feel better and more in control of how you feel?

If so, do you see how understanding alone is empowering and changes everything?

"You are choosing your creations as you are choosing your thoughts. Entertain a wanted or unwanted thought and you feel a wanted or unwanted emotion. Choose to change the thought and you've changed the emotion and the creation.

Things will constantly change to match the feeling you have inside." Abraham-Hicks

Phil

GREAT reply, Phil!!!

Just what I needed today!

THANK YOU!

Thanks guys!!

Phil - That's a good pick me upper!

appreciate it

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The results you experience – the feelings you experience, as well as the circumstances that your beliefs have brought about – are not YOU. Just as the results of a computer are not the results of the computer, but are the results of the software running in the computer. Faulty software = faulty results. Better software = better results. Faulty beliefs = unwanted results. Better beliefs = better results.

Wow thank you so much for this quote I love it and am updating my software right now. I am going to print this off to read alot. many blessings to you.

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Originally posted by infinite.asset:
Lately i've been really feeling bummed.. things appear to be not going right, relationship, work..

Key word: appear. That is why gratitude is so important even when things seem bad. I am finding that being grateful in ALL things, makes them improve or resolve much more quickly. When we get bogged down in negative emotion, we are blinded to the solutions. When we are grateful, the answers seem to magically appear. Or the moment passes.

When I'm frustrated, impatient because something isn't happening fast enough and BUMMED, one thing I keep in mind is what so many teachers have taught ... (I'm using my own words here, so not exactly eloquent

... it's usually just prior to your greatest breakthough, achievement or the realization of your goal that it seems everything is going to hell in a hand basket. Turmoil, tragedy, everything "seems" to be going wrong, until something happens .. and what we've been hoping, working and moving towards, finally is realized.

Another thing I've been taught is that it's usually just prior to the point of realizing the dream that most people quit. They get tired of waiting, struggling and hoping and walk away from the dream, when it's just a few steps away.

When I get bummed, I've learned to tranlate it into "Woo Hoo, I'm almost there!" because why else would it be happening unless I'm just steps away? First, we have to believe. Second, we have to trust, and third, we have to understand that it WILL arrive, only not in the time we decide.

The ONLY way to fail is to give up.

Here's a little something from Abraham-Hicks. I have it posted on my bulletin board just above my desk...

"There is not anything that any of you want--whether it's a material object, a state of being, a relationship, a circumstance or event... there's nothing that you have ever wanted or anybody you've ever known has ever wanted -- that is for any other reason than you think you will feel better in the having of it.

And when you show yourself that you can feel better just because you've decided that you want to feel better, and that you have the power to choose a thought that feels better, now, you're on your way.

And there's nowhere that you cannot go along this Emotional Scale.

And when you make it up there into the consistent range of feeling pretty darn wonderful, then wonderful things become the basis of your experience."

The following nugget has really resonated with me on LifeLab 7 regarding a negative thought or feeling -
"Would I be willing to have this thought manifest into solid form or a real effect in my life in the next three minutes?"
This where I can choose to shift my focus, faith and feeling.
Hope this helps as well - - - :-)

I know you posted this back in October so it is my hope that things have improved and you are feeling better about things.

One thing that works for me is to sit down and write a list of 11 things that are going well in my life. You can make the number whatever you want, I happen to like the number 11 so that's the number I like to use. I like to write it out but you could also speak it if that feels better to you. What I find is that by the time I'm to #5 or so on the list I'm already feeling better about my situation, whatever it may be. This helps because it takes your mind off of what's not working or what's causing difficulty and gets you refocused on how much is already working and going well in your life.

I hope this helps!