Can I get support here? My father has cancer. It is due to his stupidity and stubborness, which I condemn, and which I know is not good for me, as I don't want to see so much pain for him and the family.

Doctors said the cancer was caused by emotions. I know our thougths and emotions are very powerful. They can heal or they can destroy. At this stage, I am not accepting too much of his cancer and therefore I am blaming.

His son, who is a doctor, decided to have fast operation for him to prevent spread of cancer. I was very against it, but if they decided this way, I had no choice. I believe in natural therapy. But my father has no faith, no religion. I don't think he is strong enough to heal all by himself.

I don't want pain for myself, so I reject the whole thing so much. Can someone suggest me what to do? I have emotional problem too. I can't meditate.

I ring my friends too. But they can't help much. I feel so full inside. I don't know how to handle the whole thing as an onlooker, which I would really like to achieve. Can I get support here?

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Dear truewealth,

Wow, I would say just put yourself in your father's shoes for a bit & feel how it feels to him to get such a potentially terrifying disease and then to feel how his own son blames him for getting it on top of that. That's a heavy burden you place on your father's back.

I can also understand that this is a hard thing to take in - the fact that your father has cancer.

Be kind to yourself in your thoughts, be kind to your dad in your thoughts.

And remember: if your father is not into religion or practice a particular faith..then I would say he doesn't necessarily know about the connection between emotions and disease.

Blessings

Hi truewealth,
You've definitely come to the right place for support. My husband was diagnosed with cancer in 2007 and again in 2008, and the wonderful people on this forum supported me the whole way. He is alive and well today, and I thank the Universe every day that we share our lives here on this Earth.

The best thing you can do for yourself and for your dad is to find a way to get okay with the situation. Once you find peace-and believe me, you REALLY CAN, even with your dad being sick-you will be the most help to him and to your family.

KNOW that cancer is not a death sentence, but lots of people believe that it is, and they do not see the mind-body connection at all, including most of the medical profession. I am amazed that your dad has a doctor that does, that's wonderful!

Thank God my husband did see the connection,refused conventional treatment, but rather, did acupuncture and Tong ren along with Essiac tea and Johanna Budwig diet. Other friends that we have prefer conventional treatment, and we have watched them fade away from chemo and radiation knowing that there's a better way. I had to get okay with their choice (read: LOTS AND LOTS OF EFT) and not judge them for it. It was really hard at first. Then I came to understand that most people are just programmed that way,to unquestioningly obey authority and their doctor, and despite my husband being walking living proof that you can heal yourself without conventional medicine,(and he had stage 4 cancer!!) they still choose painful chemo and radiation. We have two friends going through this right now. All I can do is love them unconditionally and respect their choice.

Keep sharing, writing, and talking, pray for acceptance, we love you and are here for you.

Peace,
Julia

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I feel so full inside. I don't know how to handle the whole thing as an onlooker, which I would really like to achieve.

Truewealth,

It seems to me, it’s possible a part of you is being upset because you believe that is how a good person would be. And you want to be a good person. But I believe a person can be good and feel at ease and at peace, in your circumstance.

Do you think it’s possible for a person to be a good person, and at the same time be calm and at peace, in your place, as an onlooker?

Phil

Dear ones

My father has decided to go for operation. But he does not have too much faith in getting well as he is in his seventies. He also does not believe in his own power of healing himself, though he got positive results till now from natural medicine.

I prefer to see him use natural medicine, but I cannot program his mind to always focus on positive things when he is on natural therapy. He may waver with his faith in himself, may waver tremendously with changes in people's mood and affairs around our world. It will be very difficult for him to reverse what he has caused for a long period of time, and it will take a long time for him to learn of all these.

I am also confused with which therapy is best for him, as the operation will be quite large for his age. I will support him with nutritional vegetarian foods as most meat based foods are acidic. I don't think he will reverse his thoughts to hope, faith and trust overnight. And I have much compassion for him, though he caused his own problem. I also made similar stupid mistakes in the past, and I could not heal myself if I kept condemning myself. But I had strong faith in what I believe in, and he doesn't.

Hi, Ancient Soul, I think what you mean by peace is something that he can hold onto while he is sick. Something that can soothe him whether he gets well or not. I don't think he can take in so much now. He is just not ready for it. For ordinary people, what they fear most is death and pain.

My brother has scheduled fast operation for him, fearing that the tumor might get out of control. This is what my father fears as well, and it will become his reality. To heal the mind takes a long time, a lot of practice, a lot of trials and errors and a lot of patience. He is not ready for that. For him, may be operation is good to remove the physical tumor and then heal the mind later with hundreds of dozens of doses of forgiveness, letting go, sharing, heart to heart communication. To ask someone who has no background in all of these when he is declared terminally ill is just too much. He needs a skilled practictioner to guide him through all the steps.

Hope I made myself clear up till now, as a lot had happened during the day.

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Hi, Ancient Soul, I think what you mean by peace is something that he can hold onto while he is sick. Something that can soothe him whether he gets well or not. I don't think he can take in so much now. He is just not ready for it. For ordinary people, what they fear most is death and pain.

No, I meant that peace is something that YOU can hold onto while he's sick. Start taking care of YOU and be good to YOURSELF-that is the greatest gift you can give your father right now.

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For ordinary people, what they fear most is death and pain.

From what I’ve read, studies show people actually fear public speaking and being socially ostracized more than they fear death. It’s one reason why people will go to fight wars. It seems that generally, people would rather face the possibility of the pain and death in war than the rejection of their peers or authority figures.

This may even have something to do with why your father rejects spiritual ideas so strongly. Authority figures (parents, teachers, political leaders, etc.) may have so ingrained in him a non-spiritual view that questioning that view is more painful than physical pain, and possibly even death.

Phil

Hmmmm......

I have found that the only person that I have any control over at all is myself! Now at the age of 69 I find that I am stronger and healthier than when I finished Marine Corps Boot Camp at the age of 18. I am finding that more people are asking for my advise; when I give my advise I don't worry about whether they take it; some do and some don't!

I do wish your father well; and wish you well also!

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Doctors said the cancer was caused by emotions. I know our thougths and emotions are very powerful. They can heal or they can destroy. At this stage, I am not accepting too much of his cancer and therefore I am blaming.

Well, since your father's life is HIS business and not yours (no matter how much you either love him or condemn him), and since you understand that your thoughts and emotions are powerful, wouldn't it make sense to let go of trying to change him and focus on shifting your own thoughts and emotions so that YOU don't create something for yourself that you'd rather not experience?

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My brother has scheduled fast operation for him, fearing that the tumor might get out of control. This is what my father fears as well, and it will become his reality. To heal the mind takes a long time, a lot of practice, a lot of trials and errors and a lot of patience. He is not ready for that. For him, may be operation is good to remove the physical tumor and then heal the mind later with hundreds of dozens of doses of forgiveness, letting go, sharing, heart to heart communication. To ask someone who has no background in all of these when he is declared terminally ill is just too much. He needs a skilled practictioner to guide him through all the steps

Yes, I think you will do best by getting yourself at peace with yourself and how you feel about the situation. Let the doctors do what they are best at. If the tumour is too advanced, a physical operation and chemotherapy may be required even though it is painful.but the doctors will surely assess whether he is fit for chemotherapy at his age.

A skilled practitioner is a good idea to help him through the emotions. I would think that helping yourself so that you can be at your best to offer him support is really important too.

Whatever you decide, do know that you will have great support here!

I agree with all that has been said before. The only person you have any control over is yourself. You are not responsible for your father's condition and you can't change his health or his thoughts. What you can do is change your own thoughts and feelings to reflect what you want to manifest.

Try this: imagine how great it would be if your father spontaneously recovered without the "long process" of changing his thoughts and feelings. Would you be willing to accept that? What if conventional medical treatment healed him. Would you be willing to accept that?

What if, no matter what, YOU could feel great about the situation. What if you could be grateful for your father and for whatever learning he is receiving for himself through this experience. What lesson is in this for you? How grateful would you be if you could manifest a healing for him purely through the power of attraction?

Try this: Take a step back and see yourself as watching a movie of your father. Would talking to the screen change the plot? Could you appreciate the the talent and sacrifice of the actor even though you know you can't effect the outcome? Can you see the powerful lessons contained in the story and apply them to your self?

As long as you see this as something bad in your life that someone else caused, you will tend to be resentful and over-controlling.
As soon as you accept that all the experiences in your life are for YOU. (You chose this movie.) You can take steps to make piece with them, learn from them, or notice that you don't like them and manifest something different.

Love and blessings for yourself and your father,
Rachel

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Originally posted by Rachel:

As long as you see this as something bad in your life that someone else caused, you will tend to be resentful and over-controlling.
As soon as you accept that all the experiences in your life are for YOU. (You chose this movie.) You can take steps to make piece with them, learn from them, or notice that you don't like them and manifest something different.

But I did not choose his illness. He chose this himself. If I went somewhere else and dumped him, I would feel bad even though there are heaps of life saving crusades to be done apart from supporting him. I am still struggling with making peace with supporting him or going somewhere else and do something else.

I see him as a poor soul that needs a lot of guidance and support. But its up to him to take them and digest them. He may introspect during his spare time about how he created his illness. He is just too far away from the path of self improvement, creative nature of thoughts, a spirit encased in a human body, etc. Therefore he is a very young soul.

I believe God is fair. If he needs to understand something, that something will be available. Ask and you will get. If he had not asked for self improvement for such a long time, this is what he created. That's why I feel sorry for him. His consciousness is very poor. To take good care of myself, I have to do a lot of meditation so that I can be at ease with myself.

I don't feel good dumping him. Anyhow, even if he did not die from this illness, he/we will die from drought, shortage of water, shortage of food, swine flu, earthquakes, hail storm, and all kinds of natural disasters. Our world is changing fast. I think for the moment, just try my best and see how he turns up.

And, I did see it as something bad that someone caused. Cancer is bad. It is caused by my father. I could not turn it around right now.

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I see him as a poor soul that needs a lot of guidance and support.

That’s how YOU see him.

Isn’t there something in the Bible that says we’re supposed to see others (and ourselves) NOT as we appear to be, but as we WANT to be?

“Let the weak say I am strong.” Joel 3:10

When Jesus healed the sick, did he do so by seeing them as “poor souls”, as you say, or by seeing them healed?

Just a thought.

Phil

Hi Truewealth;

I think that what you can give your father is love and understanding. He is where he is by choices that he has made, you won't be able to alter the choices that he will make in the future (only he can do that)! All you can give is love! Spend as much time with him as you can, but understand that you have your life to live also!

Hi Truewealth,
I can feel your pain -as I have a sickly mother living at home with me- but it seems to me that you are taking everything on your shoulders, you are trying to figure out and/or control the whats, whens, wheres and hows. You don't know for sure how your father may be transforming emotionally right now....Lester Levenson was send home to die and he went on to double his years as well as bring the Sedona method to the world. I wish your father well but take care of yourself; you know better you are aware, let go & let God.

Maria

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But I did not choose his illness. He chose this himself. If I went somewhere else and dumped him, I would feel bad even though there are heaps of life saving crusades to be done apart from supporting him. I am still struggling with making peace with supporting him or going somewhere else and do something else.

I know. I'm saying that the above statement is not an objective fact. It is what you believe to be true. I'm saying that this experience is in your life because you manifested it. It's funny how easy it is to see lack of personal accountability in someone else. You say that you believe in it, but you refuse to accept your life as your creation.

Your life is YOURS. If there is something in your life that you don't want in your life, it is within your power to change it, or simply avoid or ignore it. Other people in YOUR life are simply behaving in the way that YOU have manifested.

I don't blame you for not seeing this. It can be a radical paradigm shift. However, I'm just throwing it out there just in case.

Love and blessings,
Rachel