"Can someone here solve my dilemma?"

Good Grief! I can't believe this thread is still going. Your dilemma has been solved -
STOP whining.
STOP your negative thinking.
STOP messing in other folks business.
PICK any two suggestions offered here in this forum and GET BUSY building your cracker and bread fortune.

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Good Grief! I can't believe this thread is still going. Your dilemma has been solved -
STOP whining.
STOP your negative thinking.
STOP messing in other folks business.

Shagaia,

I say this with the kindest intention.

Isn't this is exactly what you are doing by posting this?

whining and falling into negative thinking by pointing out someone's lack of understanding or getting it?

One thing I've learned is that the posts are not just about the person at hand or those who have responded.

The posts are a storehouse of education where many of us have can learn from. This community is so much bigger than we can imagine.

I am not just talking about the number of people participating, but the difference it is making that we will never ever see.

In my opinion if it takes 130 posts for this person to get it then that is ok. We are never one step ahead if someone is one step behind.

Through patience, love and kindness our job is to always walk beside someone until they get it. Even then, we continue to walk with them indefinitely.

There is no rush on the creative plane. Infinite patience produces infinite results.

Appreciation from the Heart,

Richard De Haven

I agree with Richard De Have 100%. If this thread can bring more encouraging enligtening statements or teachings from people responding, I am happy to do that. What I am reading here is a very big accepting heart, and very nuturing. I believe a lot more people want correct attitudes in times of difficultes which is the time which requires a lot of love and wisdom.

I am also fed up with obsessing with someone and what they are doing. My focus goes with that someone instead of what I want to do with my life. This is pretty easy to remember in times of ease but when difficultes arise, it requires a lot of practice.

I can now see that, even often times I forget, my negative reactions are based on how I look at myself, how I value myself, thereby people around me are reacting the way to mirror my weaknesses. May be she is teaching me something, and I need to be thankful for that. Someone said God only sends us angels...but I think we need to be smart enough to dig it out. And self realization is never an easy task.

May be by changing the thoughts about myself, I will attract less of this type of people. I don't really know. Just a thought. So in the end, I still need to see my own treasure, know my own value, recognise the worth of myself, which is a moment to moment monitoring of thoughts. At the present moment, even though I don't have a lot of enlightening moments and lessons out of this incident, I know I am trying my best without wanting to hurt anyone at all.

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May be by changing the thoughts about myself, I will attract less of this type of people.

by changing our thoughts we attract people with the same uplifiting attitudes.

You may also end up attracting the same person in your life but your thoughts and energy could be bring out the better in the other person.

This actually happened to me. I was being negative and judgemental toward a person and it was creating lots of draining experiences.

As soon as I began to change my perceptions and thoughts about the person over time our relationship changed. My energy was bringing out the best energy in her.

Like energy responds to like energy.

Appreciation from the Heart,

Richard De Haven