I can hardly believe it! Yesterday we got the call that we have been approved for our mobile home! Now for the rest of the story.

We were driving to look at mobile homes in parks close by when my husband spied a mobile home sales site. He decided to check it out. I'm so thankful he did. The guy we met, Bob, has been an absolute dream during this whole process. Him and his associate has bent over backwards to help us get into our own home. But I'm getting ahead of myself.

A friend of ours told Don that he should consider buying a mobile home since they are much cheaper than a house, and, even with the lot rent would be within our means.

Don approached me with this idea and I agreed. Our plans were to buy a double wide. We applied for a brand new single wide instead. That didn't go through. But this was a blessing in disguise as it didn't have my garden tub I wanted or skylights and the living room was small and the kitchen didn't have the pull out shelves or pantry I wanted either.

Bob called and told me an older one just came on the market and would we like to see it. He warned us it is dirty and needs repairs, but they will be putting in brand new carpeting, cleaning it, and the repairs. Is that cool or what? They also will be putting the skirting on.

The older home has everything I wanted in my CMI and more! It has three bedrooms, two full baths, a large living room, a pantry in the kitchen It is energy efficient so that will keep the bills down. I also have my office. And it has central air, a plus for Don.

I loved it! I could, definitely, see the potential. I told Don to sign the papers on the spot. I just knew this is to be our home. I'm thrilled! There are some features missing though. It doesn't have off street parking or a garage nor does it have a shed.

Is that really all that important? We can always get a shed. Right? And the streets are wide so parking is not a problem. The park is not very nice-yet.

I guess my point here is, even if some things aren't exactly what you want, that doesn't mean they can't be. I will continue to see myself living in a great, clean, quiet neighborhood like where we are now.

Either way, up til now, I would never have been able to see myself owning my own home. Now, I will and it will be exactly what I want until I can have the, absolute, home I want down the line. I believe my Heavenly Father wants me there so it is all going to work out. Good for my businesses to grow?

There are certain criteria we have to meet. One is we have to come up with $1607 by July 1, two, Don has a judgment he has to pay off immediately or get it and a house, he has never owned, taken off our credit. And, last, but not least, we have to do apps for the park and have to be accepted. Bob didn't feel that should be a problem even though there has been a foreclosure on the house we live in and no lease with our landlady.

I would really appreciate prayers and blasts for this to all come through. Thanks.

Congratulations Clairetta. I am so happy for you. Things are working out well in this area. But then we all knew it would!

Wishing you many blessings Clairetta, I do hope all works out well for you and your lovely new home.

With kind regards from
Marina

Hi Clairetta

Great story! Just perfect, now let this happiness and excitement go into the universe and attract more of the same.

Abundance to All
Croz from OZ

great post....and congrats

Congratulations Clairetta,

With creative thinking and inspired action you are creating this house.

I am sure that with further creative thinking and inspired action that you will turn this house into a beautiful home.

You will continue thinking creatively and acting in a certain way that it won't be long before you have your CMI home.

YAYYYY!!!! I'm so happy for you Clairetta-you deserve EVERY happiness. I'm sure that with your creative skills you'll turn the place into a little Dream Home.

Best,
Julia

This is awesome Clairetta, your first home of your own. What an awesome stepping stone towards your ultimate CMI, remember every step takes us closer and every step moves us away from that which, up til now, was our way of thinking. Belief and determination always gives us what we are asking for, as long as we ask largely.

Thanks for all your encouragement and believing in me. I've never had this much support before. I, super, appreciate all of you.

We went to the home site on Friday. Bob set up our appointment for us to do our applications at the park. He told us, since we are buying from them, there will be, absolutely, no problems with our being accepted.

He also called the loan company, which has Don owning a home. His intention is to get it off Don's credit report so we can get our loan. He really went to bat for us and told them it was unfair for them to keep it on when it isn't my husband's mortgage.

He also told me to call him with the information so we can get the bill taken care of for the judgment against Don. I called him with that information on Saturday.

He will be calling them tomorrow and is expecting the letter to remove the mortgage tomorrow.

I'll keep you apprised as this unfolds. I still keep seeing myself in our mobile home doing the things I will do when we are living there. Actually, in my mind, we are already there.

Sorry for bumping this up to the top, but I just needed to let you know. Our dream home is not so much our dream home after all.

We just discovered there is mold within our walls and termite larva have been found in our master bath. The wood is rotted out under our skylight. Our insurance is about to expire or is expired. Don just didn't have the money to pay for it. Now he is sick. I've been feeling poorly myself. We also have a leak from our middle bathroom skylight.

We also found out there were things that were supposed to fixed before we moved in that was never done. Then the company, that sold it to us was stealing from their customers and went out of business last December. They started up a new one, but we don't know what name they are under now. We do have a resource though. He is the one who helped us get it. So I'm calling him A.S.A.P. to see if he knows what our options are.

Either way, we are going to have to move out of here. I'm deathly allergic to black mold. And we have black, green, orange and brown mold.

Our truck broke down so we can't use it to move so we'll have to find another way to get this done.

Believe it or not, I'm not upset just wondering where this journey is going to take us. One thing is for sure. I need to get my cats somewhere else first.

I know how you feel, we also have to have our basement gutted because of mold from water damage. thankfully we can seal off the basement from the rest of the house. We do not have any side effects that we are aware of with that mold, but I do wear a mask when we go down there to clean out the stuff down there before the men come in to gut the place.

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Originally posted by penwright1029:
Sorry for bumping this up to the top, but I just needed to let you know. Our dream home is not so much our dream home after all.

We just discovered there is mold within our walls and termite larva have been found in our master bath. The wood is rotted out under our skylight. Our insurance is about to expire or is expired. Don just didn't have the money to pay for it. Now he is sick. I've been feeling poorly myself. We also have a leak from our middle bathroom skylight.

We also found out there were things that were supposed to fixed before we moved in that was never done. Then the company, that sold it to us was stealing from their customers and went out of business last December. They started up a new one, but we don't know what name they are under now. We do have a resource though. He is the one who helped us get it. So I'm calling him A.S.A.P. to see if he knows what our options are.

Either way, we are going to have to move out of here. I'm deathly allergic to black mold. And we have black, green, orange and brown mold.

Our truck broke down so we can't use it to move so we'll have to find another way to get this done.

Believe it or not, I'm not upset just wondering where this journey is going to take us. One thing is for sure. I need to get my cats somewhere else first.

Did you not have an engineer inspect the property before purchase?

No. If you noticed in my previous posts, we only had the money to pay for our deposit and lot rent and the move in.

Besides, they were supposed to have taken care of that. Don signed an agreement with them for this reason.

To our knowledge, they had done what should be. Apparently, they didn't meet up to their side of the deal. This is a lesson for us as first home buyers.

Hi Clairetta,

I think that it is time for you to take responsibility for your life, your health and your prosperity! Relying on anyone else to pull you through this, including Don, is not going to happen! Both you and he should have realised that you had a mold problem before this and could have taken action to correct it!

I know that you pride yourself as not working outside the home - but you're not making any money inside the home, something isn't working and the definition of insanity is to keep on doing the same thing that isn't working!

By the way, my wife is now retired, but she is now 71 and had worked outside of our home throughout our marriage including working with me in our printing business for the past 13 years! Throughout our marriage there were times when we wanted to increase our income I would take on a part time job! There is no such thing as a menial job if it will help you further toward you CMI!

Hi Clairetta,
Would have could have should have...no point in doing that to yourself and beating yourself up with it. You did the best you could with what you had, trusted that everything was okay, and proceeded from there. If hindsight was foresight, we'd all be geniuses.-LOL!

So.. time to move on. I do agree with Tom that it's time to pull yourself up by the bootstraps and take care of YOU, and not depend on Don. Besides, it's YOUR job to take care of YOU. I've had to come to terms with this myself, because my husband is unable to work. I see from your new picture that you want to be let out of the cage. You are the one that holds the key to do that. I strongly suggest again trying out the support groups that we talked about before-the love from those folks will get you through it all.

Good luck Clairetta, you're in my thoughts and prayers.

Lotsa Love,
Julia

Tom, how wonderful for your wife that she has such a loving supportive husband, such as you. And how great you were so educated and to have an entrepreneurial spirit to have your own business for the last 13 years she worked.

Actually, I have been looking for work. I just haven't found anything yet. And as far as my health is concerned, I feel fine today. I just had a small bit of congestion yesterday.

While I appreciate your great wisdom, here on the forum boards, I some times wonder if you see the whole picture or understand what a person goes through in transition.

I just signed up for Al-Anon for adult children of alcoholic parents and another organization, I can't reveal, on someone here's suggestion. I feel I need to get to the deep seated reasons as to why I don't gain as fast as some other people do. I stayed in denial most of my life saying that everything will be fine, even to the point of not taking care of my needs first. It is the way I was brought up-meet others first, which is why I'm drawn to people like Don.

This is all going to change. Yes. I know I need to do this, but when it is all I've known most of my life, from being a young girl, at 11, who had to tend to her mentally challenged brothers' needs from birth, and also my little sister, at the age of 14, to being a single mother, who, she and her daughter were abandoned by her last husband in a state she didn't even know.

I had no skills or education, to speak of, but I got up every morning and hitch hiked, with my daughter to a neighborhood to knock on doors asking for work. I always got it, whether it was cleaning a home or a car. It made no difference. I was working, so therefore, had a place for us to sleep at night.

There were times when, at a later time, I worked two, some times, three jobs to take care of us. To this day, my daughter thanks me for doing whatever it took. Then I got us, with God's help, to New York by traveling to Ohio, where I met a couple, who needed a live in baby sitter and housekeeper. I took care of their home and children. On the side, I cleaned other people's homes besides. From there, I moved to Poughkeepsie where I was given the responsibility of supervisor of a cleaning crew the very first night I started. After injuring my shoulder, I signed up for a program, where I got a grant, to go to college.

I attended for a short time without receiving my diploma, but this is where I learned my talents as an artist and writer. Moving back to our home state, NE., I continued to care for my daughter by working odds and ends jobs.

In 1993, I learned of a program for displaced home makers and once again attended college. Again, I didn't graduate because I couldn't pass their typing or computer test. From there we moved here to MN. where I became an on-site caretaker.

Within a week, I was promoted to on-site resident manager because I had taken it upon myself to get involved with local authorities to clean the buildings of drug users, drug dealers and prostitutes. With co-operation, of some of my residents and law organizations, I set about to clean up the neighborhood and was very successful in doing so within two years. This has been one of my great accomplishments, of which I take great pride in.

By the time I left, I had business owners calling me, daily, thanking me for cleaning up their neighborhood, and the fact that they could feel safe again. I even had the local police department congratulating me for my hard and, some times, dangerous work with the results no other manager, including the owner, had been able to do.

From there, I went on to another on-site management position where I would be expected to stay up all night cleaning vacancies, then meet with painters and carpet cleaners to let them in and then monitor their work. Some times, I would be up until 5, then back up at 8 to let the painters, carpet cleaners and appliance delivery service men into the apts. Throughout those days, I also had the responsibility of keeping the outer areas mowed and cleaned, and in the winter, was out at 3 A.M. shoveling snow. Within my other tasks were to show apts. to prospective residents. I also had to call and set appointments for pest control, deliveries and maintenance. On occasion, I would fix things myself.

I held that position for almost seven years. At some point, my body started showing the results of back breaking work. So now I'm not capable of working like then. I can do some of it, but not for the long periods nor at the pace I did. So I've been looking for something other than physical or cleaning work. Understand, this is where my best skills were. It's difficult to see myself in much of anything else other than food service or cleaning. I don't consider any work as being too menial for me. I just know and understand my shortcomings and have to work within them. This is not to say I can't learn something new. I can and have. I'm just not sure in what avenue I want to go. I am self taught on the computer. I know and can learn new software programs, how to reformat my hard drive, how to build a web site and blog with wysiswyg programs, email and other things as well. I don't, however, know Excel or Quark, which a lot of places here want from an employee.

Maybe I should write a book. I have had a lot of adventures and experiences some could glean from. I would have to learn how to get an e-book published. I don't think I'd go for a regular book.

I agree with you, on another point. I do need to start thinking of myself and taking care of me.

As far as the guys staying with us? That is not my decision. I don't know how things go in your home, but in ours, he makes all those decisions, and I'd better not counter demand. That does not go well with Don. With him, his word is law.

Well. Now that I've put it all out there for the world to see, I hope I've cleared up some questions as to why I don't seem to do as well as other people here. In my mind, yes, it's true, I should be farther, but, in some instances, I've come a long way. And I prefer to focus on that rather than the negative of where I, supposedly, should be. I believe, when I signed up here, I read that we all go at our own pace.

Oh, and Don is the one who decided to cover our skylight with plastic. Over time, it became moldy, not when we first moved in. I just found this out today. So it wasn't this way when we moved in.

By the way, whenever my friends and I talk, they can't get over how healthy I am, considering most people, my age, are on some kind of medication. I'm not. New people are always in awe of my age. They just can't believe it.

Anyway, Blessings to you and your lovely wife.

Hi Clairetta, I read your posts all the time, and even though I don't post as much as I would like, I think about you all the time. I think your story is amazing, and the idea of a book or e-book is a good one. Hey, start writing it now so you can see how it turns out!


Anyway, a wave of love and support coming at you from the north!

Sincerely,
Juno

SOGR, Chapter 10: page 35

You cannot retain a true and clear vision of wealth if you are constantly turning your attention to opposing pictures, whether they be external or imaginary.

Do not tell of your past troubles of a financial nature, if you have had them. Do not think of them at all. Do not tell of the poverty of your parents or the hardships of your early life. To do any of those things is to mentally class yourself with the poor for the time being, and it will certainly check the movement of things in your direction. Put poverty and all things that pertain to poverty completely behind you.

Hi Clarietta,

Again you went on the defensive when someone gave you a suggestion. People don't need to know your past, yours isn't the only sorry story here. When advice is given, it's given in the spirit of the NOW to help further you.

In the thread Discuss the Book, you mention having posted too much in the It's All Relative thread. And here you are again. You're going in circles - circles that you think someone else is going to get you out of.

My suggestion: focus on reading SOGR with a goal of at least 20 times along with Rebecca's course. From your posts, I can't see where you're applying anything in the book.

May you be blessed with all things good,
Sharon

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From your posts, I can't see where you're applying anything in the book.

May you be blessed with all things good,
Sharon

That's sounds a bit harsh to me Sharon. I see a lot of great posts that Clairetta has had, just lately going through a tough time emotionally. I see a story of a woman who has had a great deal of courage and has overcome some amazing odds. I got a lot of inspiration reading her story. True,I agree that it's good to not tell one's story in a negative way, because it will continue to be your story. I have found it best to "rewrite" it in a positive way. I have done this rewriting of my own past myself. We all slip into the pity pot sometimes. Heck we all can get stuck in an emotional rut, yours truly included. Heck, if I posted half the head trips that my mind goes through on a daily basis, folks would probably tell ME to SHUT UP!LOL! I think that just having the courage to post on these forums is wonderful-lots of people study and do the PG course, but don't take advantage of the wisdom offered here through shared experience.

Love and Light,
Julia