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Originally posted by annievt:
NO worries. He's a good guy. Just wonder how you counteract someone with such strong and clear goals and visions.

Well, my point was kinda that you don't need to.

Spot the scarcity thinking there - Annie's life is a tiny resource, to be fought over?

People out in the world have desires for all of us - look at all those advertising men wanting you to buy their stuff 24/7! But no-one can make us do anything against our will, and yes I will say even at gunpoint - we have a choice.

People have the God-given free will to obsess about who they like (Matt Smith for me thanks!) and the individual involved has the free will to choose not to let it affect them.

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It makes me feel like I have been living in everyone else's stream and I am just flowing along letting them manifest me and my life to accomodate them.

I've got to get some clearer goals before he sweeps me away and I end up married to a red neck. Can't have that.

"Got to"? Only if you say so!

You're in charge here!

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Originally posted by Liesbeth:
I'm in a business venture with my father. It was his idea and is was a very good idea.
But from the get go, he started envisioning failure. It was all he talked about. This could go wrong and then that would happen etc etc.
He put loads of energy in this doom scenario.

And yes, it happened exactly as he envisioned it. He is almost happy it happened. He says, he now doesn't have to live with the tension of waiting for disaster to struck. Because it did.

Quick reply back to your original post: I was reading this article on Oprah's site, it suggests asking the person with the negative expectation to write down just three things they'd like (of a positive nature of course!) and pinning them somewhere you can both see them... the other person doesn't have to believe, though it might help them see things differently if/when these things occur.

And in the meanwhile, every time you see their three hopes, you think "I love you, (their name)"...

It sounds reasonable to me, so passing it on fwiw.