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Originally posted by Sharma:
Hey Caroline!

Sounds like you have had an epiphany and it is a huge weight off you mind.

I am so glad.
Pauline

Pauline, thank you and yes you are right. I have been sending out job applications this past month but very few of them made me feel good. I got rejections on all of them.
I also got rejected on my dream job. And this was good. Because I had prayed for it and I did not get it. So God is saying to me, Caroline this is not for you.
No job. OK I can live with that thought

You know our thoughts is never just one trail of thoughts. It is a box full of mumbo jumbo and this and that and the other. So here is one of the "others".

In the past few weeks I have been thinking a lot about my food supplements and personal care business. Supported by High Class Training by two people who are earning at least a 6 figure income. They are also incredibly nice and so are the people that I meet there. Long story short, I used to be moderately successful in this business but never so successful as to quit my job.
A small group of successful people have put their heads together and they created a system. A system that I can use to introduce new people to the products. But without selling. It is a fun new and creative way and so SOGR. No competition just giving away loads of free information. LOL asking me to talk about one of my favorite topics, that does not sound like *work* at all!
What if? What if I used this system. That others have already been successful with. Even if I am really bad at it. Pauline that thought won't leave me alone and keeps on popping up!
And while this thought was not leaving me alone, I sold a product to my friend because she asked for it. Now this thought will *never* leave me alone LOL

There are more thoughts like those on studying. What to study and why? Because it interests me or because it can help me climb the corporate ladder or do you have any idea how many topics could interest me and how many courses are available out here? Trust me - you do NOT want to know the answer to that question.

And of course there is the regular reminders from mom in the background. She tries to get into the foreground by sending me letters and emails but I won't let her. Informing me that I will never amount to anything so I might as well go into this program for the mentally incompetent now that it is still free.

And then there are the regular reminders of my friends who wish me to be happy.

Guess those 5 are the main threads in the mumbo jumbo.

God knows I need help. So he sends me this book at the right time. It is a legal thriller and there is this lawyer who is pulled away from his regular duties and finds himself tempted to stay out there and defend a man that might need some protection because they are all out to get him and he is not strong enough to stand up for himself. Which gets him to asks all sorts of questions about his life destiny. (I am not a lawyer but here is where his story and mine come together). I am sure you know about the battle to become partner and how others hold power over whether or not you reach that stage and you have to lick a lot of muddy boots to get there.
Which reminds me of the things I hate about jobs. Rejection. Office politics. Not being my own self. Hiding my own self because if they knew who I really was, they would know I do not belong in that office chair but nobody would know what to do about it except fire me to get rid of this difficult problem as soon as possible.

Of course there were also happy times. When I was riding on momentum and enjoying my job. But underneath always this job insecurity and the fear of rejection. And the only way to survive in that jungle out there would be to become really good at office politics. I do not want that! Over the years I became somewhat better at playing by their rules but I hate to be thrown to the lions again and again.

Knowing without a shred of doubt. That is not what I want.

Tada. So now I know what I do want.

I will leave the door open to new jobs applying to me. But my focus will be on running my own business. Which makes other decisions a whole lot easier.

God bless you,

Caroline
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Which reminds me of the things I hate about jobs. Rejection. Office politics. Not being my own self. Hiding my own self because if they knew who I really was, they would know I do not belong in that office chair but nobody would know what to do about it except fire me to get rid of this difficult problem as soon as possible.

That's why I am self employed! Now, the next step is to have the business run without me!

Caroline, when people find SOGR a good fit, it usually means they have seen beyond all the smokescreen(stuff that they think they want, but only they don't satisfy them) and I think you are already on the way to that dream, and when you start to see opportunities popping out every where, you know you are on the right track!

Easy does it!

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Which reminds me of the things I hate about jobs. Rejection. Office politics. Not being my own self. Hiding my own self because if they knew who I really was, they would know I do not belong in that office chair but nobody would know what to do about it except fire me to get rid of this difficult problem as soon as possible.

I've been shy and I've been outgoing. I've been nerdy, and I've been glamorous. I've resented workplace "politics" and I've learned to love those I work with. It's all about being yourself as exuberantly as you can be, while truly trying to understand those around you. This course teaches the same things. We are advised to feel good as much as possible, and to stay in the creative plane.

I'm not saying that being self employed isn't a good thing. More power to anyone who loves it as much as I do! But I didn't really "get" how to run my business until I learned the principles above. At the risk of being egotistical, I'll say that I am very popular with my customers, my staff, my colleagues, and the community in general. It's not because I "play politics." It's because I am energetic, enthusiastic, and truly interested in giving people what they need and want. I don't worry about what they think of me, I care about them. I focus on doing my job well, and being happy.

Believe me, I sure didn't start out that way. I used to be painfully afraid of being unattractive, odd, incompetent, or otherwise unworthy. I always wondered if people were sneering at me behind my back. I was pre-emptivley judgmental of anyone I perceived to be beautiful, popular, or rich. I was the type who sat at the lunch table with all the other misfits pretending that we didn't like the popular kids. We didn't like each other either. SAD. Fortunately, I kept searching for things I loved and tried to be good at them. Gradually, I started to take the focus off of wanting others to like me, and onto doing things I loved and being around people I liked. That was the beginning of creating the truly blessed life I now enjoy.

I'm still learning, but I believe Rebecca when she says the true secret is feeling as good as possible as much as I can. It's working so far!

Love and Blessings,
Rachel

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Originally posted by Kevsky:
That's why I am self employed! Now, the next step is to have the business run without me!

Oh thank you Kevin for reminding me! Forgot about that part though I paid my business coach a lot of money to teach it

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Caroline, when people find SOGR a good fit, it usually means they have seen beyond all the smokescreen(stuff that they think they want, but only they don't satisfy them) and I think you are already on the way to that dream, and when you start to see opportunities popping out every where, you know you are on the right track!

Easy does it!

It sure does. I know I am getting into the flow because everything seems to be more easy and more fun to do.
Thank you for encouraging me

And best wishes on getting yourself out of your business

God bless you,

Caroline
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It is amazing how things started flowing just as soon as I figured out what I want

All these certain way activities just appear in my brain and without a doubt, so they are easy and fun to do.
Even some things that - up to now - I used to avoid. They are no longer "shoulds" but "efficient actions to get out with the old so the new can flow in much quicker".

God bless you,

Caroline
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It is amazing how things started flowing just as soon as I figured out what I want

Hi Caroline,

I have just been reading this thread with great interest in your thought processes. I think in the end it comes down to following what makes you happy. Those things you just know and feel are for you and part of you and your expression in the world.

Believe me, I have been down all those paths you mentioned and still get detoured into them. When you are following your passion (like Julia) things fall into place, people appear and ideas pop into your head. Then these internal debates about job or your own business or which course to take for what purpose all go out the window.

Though one thing I am certain of for you (if I may be so bold): you shouldn't do the free course for the mentally incompetent - how can you when you are so opposite to that?

With courses I have found the best way to decide is on what makes you excited and happy and nothing else. If it costs money the money will come or you will be given a scholarship or something free will happen etc - don't even think about it. If there is something that makes you happy like this then that course will appear in the right place and time etc. Believe me - it has happened to me so many times. And don't be affected by others wanting you to justify your choice with stuff about whether this course will lead to paid work etc. It is totally irrelevant. You do it because you love that particular thing and the universe opens a channel. These channels don't have to be fought for or even thought out in your own mind first.

Some of my own examples: 1. A friend who is always finding free stuff on the web sent me the link for a service where you can get points for opening ads by email and then you can use these points to send free sms's from your computer as if it is from your own phone (first benefit). I don't actually read all the ads but I do open them to get the points. In 2004 I opened an ad for a free lecture on Executive/Life Coaching. I was drawn to it even though it hadn't really interested me before despite me being a psychologist. From that I did a course and got some of this work through a friend. Then last year a high paying client appeared without me trying and the thread continues in a very happy way. 2. In 1995 I was lying in bed looking at my wardrobe and wondering how I could fix the wooden drawer at the bottom. A few days later I found a leaflet in my letter box for a local evening college. On the back page was an ad from the woodcarving teacher for private introductory woodwork sessions. I had to do it. I only made a simple joint, but I drove away so happy. This led me to enrolling in the teacher's 2 year certificate class in decorative woodcarving. We were the first class and this was the only course of it's kind in the Southern Hemisphere that he wrote himself and then published a book about. It was a fantastic experience and I met the most wonderful people through this. I moved to a shiftwork position at work so I was free to go to this class every Tuesday for the whole day. In 2008,+ when I came back to SOGR and I was thinking about what makes me happy, since I wasn't and I remembered my woodcarving days. This led me to look for a cabinet making course near to my home. I found one and went to see the head teacher who suggested I do shopfitting instead as it combines joinery and building. As soon as I made enquiries I 'happened' to run into some friends I hadn't seen in years who ended up offering the use of their father's workshop nearby, since sadly he had just passed away. Since I have no garage and a I live in a small flat on the top floor this was a godsend. I am now in 2nd year of shopfitting and loving every minute. Again I have the most wonderful classmates. So many times people have asked me why I am doing this since it doesn't seem like a good career move for a psychologist.

Now I just say, 'because it makes me happy'.

I so hope for you, Caroline, to be led only into those things that make you happy.

love from Pauline

Pauline,
That is a fabulous story! It illustrates the power of SOGR beautifully. Thanks for sharing!

Love and Blessings,
Rachel

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Originally posted by Sharma:
Though one thing I am certain of for you (if I may be so bold): you shouldn't do the free course for the mentally incompetent - how can you when you are so opposite to that?

Yes you may, Pauline, I appreciate your feedback and your input into my thought processes.

As for this free course, that is my mother's thought and I suggest we leave it with her. It is about her and not about me.

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With courses I have found the best way to decide is on what makes you excited and happy and nothing else. If it costs money the money will come or you will be given a scholarship or something free will happen etc - don't even think about it. If there is something that makes you happy like this then that course will appear in the right place and time etc. Believe me - it has happened to me so many times. And don't be affected by others wanting you to justify your choice with stuff about whether this course will lead to paid work etc. It is totally irrelevant. You do it because you love that particular thing and the universe opens a channel. These channels don't have to be fought for or even thought out in your own mind first.

Oh I love this! And my heart jumped right out into my brain to answer all my vague ideas about courses. This must go first and this is also something else that I am interested in and a whole bunch of "useful" courses just fell from the decision board. Pretty soon they will be all forgotten
I believe it is ok to leave a few on the Maybe Board. Cannot help myself, there are so many interesting things in this fabulous world.
I know it is smart to start with just one but that does not mean I can never get to the other ones.

Thank you for sharing your success story with us. These are so important to keep us going when faith and our natural strength seems to drop a bit. And I am happy for all the situations that "happened" for you. You earned every bit of that "luck" with your smart thoughts.

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I so hope for you, Caroline, to be led only into those things that make you happy.

love from Pauline

Thank you, Pauline.
I trust that my heart knows what I want. And as long as it makes me feel good, whatever I do, must be attracting good things.

Yesterday I had some (free!) training on my home business and many of the things that were shared, reminded me of the reasons why I got into it in the first place. Made me truly excited. And there is ample opportunity for personal growth. Just try to give a bit more in use value each and every day and I will always remain enthusiastic. PS that is another word for "happy" lol

God bless you,

Caroline
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Originally posted by Caroline_:
I believe it is ok to leave a few on the Maybe Board. Cannot help myself, there are so many interesting things in this fabulous world.
I know it is smart to start with just one but that does not mean I can never get to the other ones.
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Caroline, you NEVER have to limit yourself! You are super smart and can do ALL that you want to do. Many people learn best when they study more than one thing at a time. In fact, I've had some of my best insights when comparing several courses of study that are only loosely related. It's amazing how deep understanding can jump from the pages of one book and be completed in another one. This happens to me all the time, and it doesn't seem to matter whether the content is related or even serious. You can do this reading a novel and watching a movie in the same week. I used to find wisdom from taking a yoga class and then playing an online game. The two experiences complemented each other to show me something I wouldn't have learned from either one. Amazing! Also, I never did it on purpose. It just happened as a result of ideas mixing up in my head. I bet this has happened to you lots of times. Did you ever notice it? Very cool.

Love and Blessings!
Rachel

Rachel, thank you for your advice but you are wrong here in assuming that I am limiting myself because I think I can only manage one course. I could take 20 and pass all exams with flying colours. However, since I am very UNlike "many people", I choose to do just the one here.

God bless you,

Caroline
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Caroline,

I love your enthusiasm and joy evident in your previous post. Whatever you are doing is obviously right for you because it makes you feel so good.

I likely read too much into the quote: "I know it's smart to start with just one." It just sounded to me as though you felt limited by what others thought was smart. I certainly didn't mean to suggest that YOU thought you could only manage one course.

Anyway, thanks for giving me the opportunity to express my crazy ideas, even when they are way off base!

Love and Blessings,
Rachel

Hi Rachel,

With all our good intentions and happy thoughts, we still misunderstood each other. Not a problem! of course. I will do my best to express myself more clearly next time.
It is a great reminder how miscommunication can occur especially when only words are used.

I love words! They are fabulous! But without facial expression, tone of voice, body language, they can lead to the wrong conclusions. Must be why lawyers need to go to school for so many years LOL

I love lawyers! Especially when I don't need them hahaha.

It is getting late, I think I had better go to bed before I use more words

God bless you,

Caroline
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Last Friday, I made a business presentation. I got some positive feedback from it and some negative feedback.

I just discovered that I was carrying all these thoughts in my head. Amazing how my mind can come up with these great ideas even when I am not looking for answers. Or maybe, especially when I am not looking for answers.

I am going to ask my coach how she would respond to that negative feedback so I can learn how I can do a better presentation, next time.

God bless you,

Caroline
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I got some positive feedback from it and some negative feedback.

Caroline, how are you judging which was positive and which was negative?

Rebecca, I am judging negative/positive by my gut feeling. How her words made me feel inside.

God bless you,

Caroline
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I am grateful that the lady who gave me the negative feedback. No that was not negative. It was a positive thing because I learned from it.
I am happy to report that I spoke to her recently and she said she loved our new product!

God bless you,

Caroline
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I love it, Caroline! Sometimes we're so quick to call something negative when, really, we're just too close to it in the moment to see clearly.

Good for you!

Loving it here just as well, Rebecca. And after I posted another interesting thought hit my airwaves:

Just becaus a person says No - that does not mean anything negative at all! All it means is that my open door is not good for that particular person at that particular moment. And they are not saying No to me.

I know I am not saying anything new here. It is just that my smart brain decided to give itself a refresher course on priorities and stuff

God bless you,

Caroline
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I am so proud of myself!!!!

In June I made the decision to go in a Certain Way (in the meaning of: choice, direction, but also with more faith and determination) as I posted also in this topic.
And I took a few actions to support my decision. I stretched myself outside the comfort zone.

Today I looked at this month's Newsletter.

My name is at the very top of my country's
Recognition List for the month!

So you may all SOGR your hearts out in your own destinies while I do my own private little Happy Dance

And save the pdf to my harddrive so I can print it and add it to my promotion folder.
That is one of the many many things this wonderful company has taught me in the past. Advertise your products. And advertise yourself so people know who you are and why they should trust you.

Little PS. The names are in random order, I guess I am at the top because I was the first to meet that qualification in that month.
No competition.

It is nice to be recognized and have my personal business milestones celebrated publicly

Ok I will stop writing now or I will get so excited about the many reasons why this is great that I might explode *lol*

God bless you,

Caroline
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Why Caroline, thanks for that wonderful update! You go girl!