Life

Life. We don’t realize it. We go about living it without understanding that it could be otherwise. Why? Because we are blind but we think we see. And that’s a part of the problem: We think we see, or know. And as long as we think we know, we do not look for answers. Why look for an answer if we feel we already have it?

A rich man is explaining it to, slowly, so that I’ll get it. He tells me, “You believe many certain things. You believe you are capable, or you believe you are not. Or, you believe you are attractive or you are not. Or you believe something is hard or it’s easy, or life is hard or easy, and your life – what you experience – corresponds to what you believe. This is called the Law of Attraction, or the Law of Correspondence. It is also called the law of Cause and Effect or the law of Reaping and Sowing, but for you this doesn’t seem quite true because you cannot yet see how you are causing everything in your life, and you cannot see how you are reaping the benefits AND the ills that you experience.

And whenever it is not like you want it to be, you rail against it, or you get gloomy about it, but you do not see that it could be different and better. You WISH it could be better, but you don’t really BELIEVE it could be; you only believe it can be as it is – less than wonderful – and the law is, we get what we really believe.

Do you believe you must be forceful, mean, cunning or deceptive, in order for you to get something you want? If so, you will be it, and you will justify it to yourself. You may even seem to get something of what you want, but you will also get it back. Which is to say, you will get back some kind of meanness, deception, or the like. Life mirrors us. Once again, it’s simply the law – of Attraction or Correspondence, of Cause and Effect.

Another name for this law is the law of Like Begets Like. If we were to always treat others with wonderful kindness, this is all that we would ever get back. Oh,… I should add, we also need to treat OURSELVES this way.

That also is a part of the problem: We don’t know how to treat ourselves. Therefore, we mistreat ourselves. And then, when the world mistreats us in kind, we blame the world.

I suggest, the next time you are mistreated in any way, stop and only ask yourself, “How have I been mistreating myself or someone else in some similar way?” Somewhere in you there was the corresponding idea or belief. We are the masters of our lives, but we don’t know this. We rule our experience; we create it, and then go on to blame the world for what we get.

"Everything that irritates us about others
can lead us to an understanding of ourselves." -- Carl Jung

We command. The Universe delivers.

But very often we don’t realize we have made a demand. Sometimes, for example, we say, “I’m bored,” which is to say, we demand excitement. But we are not specific. So, what do we get? We get someone who criticizes us, or cuts us off on the road, or threatens us, or we get fired from a job or run up a stack of bills, and we get excited. But this is not exactly what we wanted. But at the time we commanded, we did not say what kind of excitement we wanted. And the Universe – being exquisitely efficient and effective – brings us excitement in the most expeditious way.

Be careful the next time you notice you are feeling bored. Try to be specific. Try to imagine exactly the kind of excitement you desire. Make for a correspondence that you want.

Or simply make your own excitement. Look and find something to be interested in, something to get excited about that you want to be excited about. Design your life exactly. In this way you create what you want, instead of attracting something you don’t want.”

Phil

My dear friends,
you did a mirackle for me. I am truly happy, my last meetings with my ex-husband has shown me that I am blessed that he left me.
We are in the process of splitting of our properties. And I can leave him with almost nothing. Should I do this?

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Originally posted by Natalia:
... my husband found another younger woman which cooks good and left me with my son. I go crazy, and close to death, Deeply depressed and can not make me to get back to that happy life with SOGR. What i did wrong? I am blamed in greediness and that I 've forgotten my family with my bysiness. Help me if you can with advise
Natalia

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Natalia, I can certainly understand your feelings right now. And grief for what's lost is natural, so please don't beat yourself up about it.

I've been through something similar and learned a LOT from it with time, so perhaps this article I wrote for The Certain Way while the experience was still rather fresh will be helpful for you. I hope so.

Click here to read what I learned from my own experience.

(It starts with a story about others and you have to get about halfway in before I describe what had just happened. The first part is necessary to "frame" the rest.)

Natalia, I am sorry that your husband left you and that you are deeply depressed.

I know what it is like because I have been there. Same thing happened to me and I am a great cook. It has nothing to do with you. When you marry a cheater, he is going to cheat on you.

I only learned about SOGR after the divorce, and we did not have any children so that is different. But I was depressed and so far down that I did not even bother to get out of bed in the morning because .... what was the point of getting up? There was nothing there for me.

But that is in the past. Today I am in a much better place. Read my post in Let's Talk It Over! (In a muddle with LL22 thread) to see more about that.

My ex is still with her and he also left with most of the money. Moved into what appears to be my dream house. I could choose to look at it with wishful eyes. But my house is a much better place. Because I am happy and excited about the new day and the day after. I am building my own life and I have so many crazy dreams that I doubt if I will have time to do it all. I am grateful and happy and excited.

He is living with a nagging and jealous partner and doing a job where all around him people are being fired and he cannot afford to leave because he is mortgaged all the way up to the neck. To pay for the dream house. And he may suppress it but he knows that he is the guilty party. And he has been suffering cluster headaches since the last year of our marriage.

I would not trade my salary & house for his, and he is earning more than 4 times my salary. He has all the things but I have all the thoughts. And it is getting better all the time because I feel better, my financial situation is getting better, my relationships with other people are improving, SOGR works and it will work again for you too.

Don't worry too much about the little time out. Lick your wounds, and give yourself time to heal. Feel free to email me any time.

Caroline

Natalia,

First may I say how sorry I am for your husband leaving you for another woman. It breaks your heart. But perhaps it is for the better, the best thing, that in the future you will realize, could happen to you.

To get over it, you might want to do a couple of things which are very difficult right now.

One is to give thanks, as Mr. Wattles says.

The other is to sing. Out loud.

Thank God for this disception, this leaving, this failure, this having to live on your own now and being misunderstood by others. Thank him for it all, and then put it in His hands and leave it behind you. Remember what Mr. Wattles says about the dead burying their dead.

Sing. Get up in the morning and sing. Sing through breakfast and in the shower and going to work and at work and at lunch and all through the day. If you cannot make noise, sing in your head and heart. It will bring you to happiness and joy again.

Wonder

Natalie,

Happiness and good fortune aren’t always easy to recognise. Sometimes it takes a change of attitude, thinking or perspective before the value of something the universe has given you is revealed.

A serious problem appearing in your life can be the very lesson you need to realize your purpose. How many rich and successful people do you know that can trace the beginning of their success back to something bad that happened in their life?

In contrast to your husband betraying you I have the exact opposite problem, which has now been settled in such a wonderful SOGR way. I was the businessman in our family and I constantly despaired at my “dumb” wife “holding me back”. If it hadn’t been for me being so busy I would have definitely gone out and found a “smarter” model.

As time went on and my SOGR vision for a life with fewer struggles came about I sold my business and became more relaxed about everything, including my wife. I was surprised when a short while later my wife expressed a desire to run her own business but accepted this in true SOGR fashion and we bought her the small business of her choice.

Since then life for us has become FANTASTIC. I found true happiness (and humility) teaching my wife the things I had learnt in business. She has become transformed into this dynamic business woman with a business she just loves. And we are now making more money with her business than we did with mine. Go figure.

But imagine the outcome if I had believed in my misfortune of having such a “dumb” wife. I could have become depressed and despondent for years. However the SOGR changed my thinking and what I considered to be bad turned out to be the best gift the universe could have given me.

My point to you Natalie is that, as Phil says in his original post, “We are the masters of our lives, but we don’t know this. We rule our experience; we create it, and then go on to blame the world for what we get.”

COAT

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Originally posted by Natalia:
I put into practice the principles of SOGR. I could monitor the increased amount of money coming to me. I was happy and shared this with my family. I didnt' see betrayal of my husband and son behind me. When I worked hard, my husband found another younger woman which cooks good and left me with my son. I go crazy, and close to death, Deeply depressed and can not make me to get back to that happy life with SOGR. What i did wrong? I am blamed in greediness and that I 've forgotten my family with my bysiness. Help me if you can with advise
Natalia

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The methods of SOGR work for HAPPINESS as well as material or financial riches. You can now apply what you know towards you being happy again.

(Remember certain guidelines though, like, it’s not up to you the HOW. Focus on the WHAT. And, get into the mood of fulfillment. Use your feelings and imagination to create the mood of happiness and having wonderful relationships, and having your life work in a BALANCED way.)

Take from the experience you are having now. Do not just muddle about depressing yourself. Learn and GROW from this experience. USE it to become a wiser, stronger, better, more balanced YOU.

Once again, take control of yourself. Direct your inner powers of thoughts, beliefs, imagination and feelings, towards the life you want, personally, physically, emotionally, spiritually, as well as financially and materially.

As you take steps towards this wonderful balanced life, you can rest assured that the Universe will ‘take steps’ towards you, or, in other words, work with you to manifest your heart’s desires.

Fully and freely forgive yourself. And if you feel any resentment or other bad feelings towards anyone, freely forgive them too.

We always do our best. We’ve always DONE our best (even if it doesn’t appear so). So, don’t be recriminating about whatever you’ve done. Don’t belittle your achievements. Just work to balance them with the rest of your life.

Remember, the first law is simply to love.

At least, this is what seems to be, to me.

Phil

I put into practice the principles of SOGR. I could monitor the increased amount of money coming to me. I was happy and shared this with my family. I didnt' see betrayal of my husband and son behind me. When I worked hard, my husband found another younger woman which cooks good and left me with my son. I go crazy, and close to death, Deeply depressed and can not make me to get back to that happy life with SOGR. What i did wrong? I am blamed in greediness and that I 've forgotten my family with my bysiness. Help me if you can with advise
Natalia

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Originally posted by Anne T:
'There are so many volunteers working for this new school. Some already for years. If I am going to make an income, they will not accept me.'
(And I am pretty sure about this, because in the Netherlands there is a lot of negativity about the rich, about commercializing things.)

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So what are we going to do Anne? Say we cannot do it because we live in this country? Of course not!

The other day I saw a job opening with a bank and my heart jumped and grabbed it. My brain tried to tell me that I was too old and with the wrong experience. My heart shared my enthusiasm, added the Orlando training to my resume and that is where I will be, listening to Harv while the application results land in my mailbox.

This is the first time that I added some of this kind of seminar training to my resume. Broke another negative thought like "you cannot do that because they will think ...." I am flying as high as I can on eagles wings and if some of my countryfolk are too deeply rooted to follow me there, that is too bad. But it is such a wonderful view up here

High salaried people at volunteer organisations, won't be acceptable as you said. But multiple streams of income means that this does not need to determine the size of your personal flow of wealth.

Yesterday I was on a shopping spree. Bought a nice suitcase, no wait, bought TWO. It is going to be the first time that I check in at the airport with two suitcases, and I don't need to bring that much stuff so they are going to be 60% empty. But I know that they will be FULL when I fly home again.

I have a dream and it is my garden - changing from Weed Walhalla to Beautiful Blossom. I found a great bargain on the rododendron (bought 2 again) and paid for them with the gift cheque that I received for my volunteering duties. I never knew that we would be receiving gifts - I only decided to share my time and talent to help other people.

I also opened a new savings account with 1% higher interest. Drove around in a brand new car which was not my property but while I rented it (through Greenwheels.nl) it was at my disposal and I loved every minute of it. Let someone else do all the boring maintenance and insurance stuff!

And early this morning I received the first order from Canada. This thinking stuff sure is working nicely to help me becoming all that I want to be

Caroline

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I know you're right that I should market what I am good at.

But I discoverd I have a big blocker here.

Do you have suggestions?

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Anne,

If you’re good at public speaking, then maybe look to expand on this. What about becoming a talk show hostess, or doing a radio program at some local college?

Sometimes I think about trying to do 15 minutes of stand up comedy. Why? Because it scares the you-know-what out of me. (Wanna little excitement? Try this one on for size.)

My point is look to ways to expand your speaking strength. Maybe there’s a company that would love to have a spokesperson and you could ‘hire out’ your speaking services. Maybe you could start a Public Relations firm.

Play with the idea in general, I think. Have more fun with it. Think outside the box.

What if you could speak on any subject, other than the one you’re involved in? Is there anything else you’d love to talk about? (And again, if you do a talk, record it in case it turns out to be a ‘good one’ that you can transcribe or put on a CD.)

Maybe I’m barking up the wrong tree here (boy, is that an archaic saying, or what?). Just tossing out ideas.

Phil

(LL 19+)

Thanks for your suggestions, Phil.

I know you're right that I should market what I am good at.

But I discoverd I have a big blocker here.

Thoughts / anxieties like:

'This is for a good cause, there shouldn't be money involved. Or at least it must not be going to me, but going to the cause.'
And:
'There are so many volunteers working for this new school. Some already for years. If I am going to make an income, they will not accept me.'
(And I am pretty sure about this, because in the Netherlands there is a lot of negativity about the rich, about commercializing things.)

I will have to find a way to make it acceptable to make money. (Acceptable for my own inner feelings. Because than I am able to react to negativity, be strong and calm.)

Do you have suggestions?
I would be gratefull.

(Though I will be gratefull anyway, ofcourse (LL19 )

Greetings,

Anne T

Hi Anne,

You wrote:

“I find that it is easy for me to speak about this. Even in front of large groups. Easy to know what I have to do. Easy to know how I want to contribute. It all comes naturally. It is no effort for me to come into action.”

Is it possible for you to get more out of this? Is it possible, for example, for you to record your talks? Maybe, with a little editing, these talks could become books or ebooks you could sell. Or the recording could be turned into CDs you could market and sell?

One of the paths to wealth is simply finding ways to expand our contributions. If you are giving successful speeches, could you possibly expand by writing and recording and marketing your speeches?

The basis for many millionaires is finding ways to market valuable information.

Phil

Hi Phil,
I just finished printing out your two positings, on Life and Uncertainty, because they really started me thinking.

Life threw several really heavy things at me recently, which sent my life reeling. I found myself as down as I usually am cheerful. Total turnaround.

Your thoughts have given me starting point from which to examine these events; both as to unconscious demands on the Universe, and needing a clearer vision.

Gotta look at my expectations, and be sure they are both positive and clear. I will be watching my thoughts much more closely now.

Thank you so much.

Classylassie

Thanks Phil.

I do needed your wisdom. You're right about not being very clear on what I want and knowing the reason why.

I haven't been on the forum a few weeks. Had a bit of a dip. Being depressed about things not going as a wished. But here I am.

The fact is, my life is already very ideal. I have all the freedom I wish for. I do work that I really enjoy. It's just that it isn't bringing me money. And I did all the lifelabs, visualizing me doing the same, but WITH an abundant income. But this hasn't bring forward more money yet.

On the other hand. There is no problem with money yet. So it is OK. I have my faith back, I am not so depressed anymore. I have confidence that when I really need it it will come.

What I did receive this week was another kind of treasure. I learned about an initiative in the Netherlands to start a new form of education - exactly the way I strongly believe education should be. And there is even a group starting in my town!

So now I found something I have a really clear idea about. I find that it is easy for me to speak about this. Even in front of large groups. Easy to know what I have to do. Easy to know how I want to contribute. It all comes naturally. It is no effort for me to come into action.
I have a bussy life but I find it is no trouble at all to do this extra things.

This is really a very precious gift.

I feel no money worries now.

I guess that was the extra time that, although I was bussy, I still had to spare: all the moments I worried about money I now use to work for this new good cause!


Greetings,

Anne T

I love the discussion in this post. Thank you for starting it, Phil. I think your stress on the importance of clarity in what we intend to attract is really important. I also think it is tremendously important to truly FEEL in the present what emotions we will feel once we have attracted the life we wish to have. I have been told that feelings are much stronger than thoughts; therefore, it is tremendously powerful to add positive emotions to our visualizations.

Laughter & light,

I wish to put my 5 cents in too...
I believe strongly that when we think to be knowing something we will just know THAT and produce THAT over and over. It is better to not know but plan for something to happen as best imadination dictates.
With that comes to being alert to question just about everything in our minds!!!! Whatever one thinks or believs in ...just all of it. All of it is an previous"program" we play over and over ...untill we see what that program is and can abandon this.
By questioning everything we give space for the Divine substance to work within, and we remove ouerslves from standing in the middle of our way.
To look for good questions is the best to get the answers that we seek.
Everything beginns with the question. ex Is there something I dont know here?" Is there something I don't see here"? Is there something I presume here....whatever as a sign of humility before the Divine happenings inside of us.
Answers stand at the end of the same circle

To Anne T:

(In case you're still interested in a reply.)

Generally, the feeling I get from your questions is uncertainty. I get the feeling you have really only a relatively general idea of what you want. Being vague will make even the easy difficult. (Read that again, examine your experience, and you may see it's true.)

It seems to me you need to be more certain of WHY you want to create or have what you want. Certainty will erase doubt and give you great power. If you are certain of what and why you want what you want then, to me, you will be able to do the following fairly easily:

Write for yourself the DETAILS of life, if you were living it IDEALLY. Imagine, for example, you are writing a long letter to a close and completely trustworthy friend you haven’t seen in a long while. Imagine this person really wants to know exactly what you are now doing (ideally) as you are living your ‘dream come true’ life. Tell this imaginary friend how exactly you live your Monday, and your Tuesday, and so on. Tell this imaginary friend how you are (ideally) spending you time or your plans, say, for the next few weeks. Where do you wake up? What do you do (ideally) when you awake? Where are you? What are your surroundings? How do you spend your first waking hour? What is going through your mind? How are you feeling? Are you with someone? If so, what is the relationship? Do you have several relationships? What are they? What are your feelings in these relationships? What are the basis of each of your relationships? How exactly do you spend your time each day? Typically, what are you doing at, say, 3 PM on Thursday? Or does this change each week? Physically, how do you appear? What is your health like? What are you capable of? What skills, knowledge and talents do you have? Do you have expertise at something? What? Why is this important to you? How do you have fun? How do you relax? What do you do to stay in shape? What foods do you enjoy? What are your meals like? What is your emotional life like?

If you really know what your ideal life would be like, it seems to me this would be a fairly enjoyable little exercise to do. If it seems hard to do, I suggest the ‘hardness’ of it is a sign that you need to get clearer about what you really want your life to be like.

Also, try not to be afraid when doing this. Try to imagine your life as you IDEALLY would want it to be.

(I suggest you do this for yourself, and not share these thoughts with anyone, at least for the time being. This is just for your personal clarification. I think it could be damaging to share your fondest hopes and aspirations, unless you are already very strong within yourself.)

I find that when we are really clear about what we want, the clarity creates a wonderful magnetic power. It’s like the difference between normal or dissipated light and the power of light focused like a laser beam. It’s the difference between steam just boiling away in some pan, and steam put to use to run some machinery, like a locomotive. Clarity is incredible power. Clarity will make you naturally more effective or efficacious. Clarity can make the difficult easy. See for yourself. It will also draw to you more exactly all the persons, events and circumstances that best suit your ideal life.

Just an idea.

Phil

Thanks, Phil for this post.

I saved it /printed it.

Like Ross I thought: interesting, the warning about unsecified boredom.

I also read and liked the other post: Your money worth.

I wonder, Phil,
are you already mastering this, or still practicing?

Both ways, you might be able to give advice?

I posted a question March 15:

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Hi everybody,

I am doing so fine in attracting all kinds of nice things in my life.

I am even attracting a lot of nice things in the lives of people around me.

It's just not money.
I have a clear idea about really wanting a lot of money.

I feel confident it can happen and I am sure I don't have to do 'difficult things' 'hard work'.

Am I wrong here? Should I take more action?
That's not my desire.


Is the time not right? Is it coming this year alright but not now?

I want a new car. Want to work less hours so I can take a puppy, bring it up and make long walks with this dog. I want to own an RV so I can travel my country and europe whenever I feel like it. I want to hire someone to help me in my business and in the house.

Now I might be able to afford this right now, but it will take all my savings.

Considering 'pay first' - can I just go ahead and trust that the money I will need in the future will come to me in time?

Is the money not yet coming in because I don't need it right now?



Please give me your thoughts on the matter.

Thanks.

Anne T

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I just can't find the answer yet.

What am I believing that is standing in the way of my success?

Maybe you have some suggestions?


Anne T

Very encouraging post there Phil - interesting take on boredom - I've been complaining of same recently. Sometimes I cave in and conclude it must be just me that's boring - not the best look, or feeling rather.

I'll now put that reactive energy to use - more focus on what one desires as accurately as possible eh ?

I'm lucky in that people don't "mistreat" me as such, but for a long time have had little accidents (I mean very minor, scrapes, nicks etc) when I've slipped into negative mental attitudes, 'specially toward a person rather than thing. I get jolted back to another reality - a regular Zen slap to the face.

The work of staying mentally on track is very hard at times I find, but at least we're becoming aware of a new way to proceed.

cheers, Ross

Awesome! Thanks Phil. LOA rules indeed