Do you want to slow down your joyful manifestation process, slow down the process of wonderful things coming into your life? Do you want to miss the countless opportunities to feel a good feeling as you glimpse and experience the infinite, wonderful miracles that abound every day in so-called ordinary life, both in you and around you?

Then do this. Simply find some little thing that could bother you, and let it bother you. It doesn’t need to be any big or important thing. It can be a tiny little thing, like the weather not quite as you want it to be, or a grumpy co-worker or rude stranger. It doesn’t even have to be personal. Why, you can just MAKE it personal. And don’t worry about needing to put too much effort into this. Any little thing will do just nicely. Just so long as you let it annoy you a bit, irritate you a bit, or anger or upset you to some degree.

Did you find something? Are you feeling at least the slightest bit irritated or upset? Excellent!! You’ve done it!! Hat’s off to you.

Ah, but you say you don’t notice your life getting any the worse? Don’t worry. Don’t be so impatient. Just keep on in this way and it’s GUARANTEED. You see, it’s a Law of the Universe. Whatever you reap you will sow. Yes, it may take a little time, sometimes, to reap the full harvest of your little irritations. You just need to be ever so slightly patient.

Soon enough, if you keep on in this way, you will get to experience what you’ve set into motion. And, amazingly, it can manifest in the most unusual ways. A slight remark turns into an argument. The waiter just can’t seem to get your order right. You misplace your keys. Your back starts to bother you. The tax return you’re expecting turns into an audit. Ah, so many possibilities.

But then, that’s not what you want. What you really want is quite the opposite.

So, what’s the no-brainer thing to do?

Do the opposite. Find anything to feel good about. Find some thought that helps you feel better. It doesn’t matter what it is that helps you feel genuinely better. Just keep finding things that help you feel better.

It doesn’t have to be a big thing. It can be a little thing. It doesn’t have to be important. Just find something,.. things, thoughts, ideas,… that spark a good feeling in you.

Even in the middle of things you don’t like, you can find a thought or thing to focus on that will begin to give you a good feeling. And, if you continue in this way,… you move things around,… for the better. And things start to happen. Even if you can’t see them. Things start to change. For the better.

"It is never too late to find a good feeling place about anything. Things will constantly change to match the feeling you have inside."

Phil

This is wonderful, Phil...very tongue in check and very effective that way! I enjoyed reading this. It came at a very good time for me.

Since quite a while I am 'tired' of why I over-react as I do to just really unimportant little happenings be that from objects or humans. It is also a good reminder that while we are taking care of our 'larger picture' that the 'smaller picture' is equally important.

Thanks for posting this!

Hi Phil,
Well, that describes me in a nutshell before joining SOGR, and it used to be my normal mode of thinking. Needless to say, I was quite the "Crap Magnet" as Sandu calls it. (LOVE that expression, it's so right on.)

I'm so glad that today, I can definitely do the opposite. Today it's a no-brainer to do so, but it USED to be "the hardest work in the world" as Wally puts it until the NEW thought process became normal.

Thanks again for such a clever post,
Julia

Well, I can testify to the power of focussing on the good...or is that blast?

I had two stressful things lined up for today and both have been sorted out... of course, my focusing on the positive was basically just blasting and being too busy to focus on the bad. Hehehe

I've heard it said that there are two kinds of experiences in life - those that give us fulfullment (pleasure, joy, etc) and those that have something to teach us. The way I like to think of it is there are things that are part of the process of getting us what we desire and the other stuff (that requires an insurance claim or going cap in hand to the bank, a change in our plans, etc) is just things that happen.

If you travel faster in your car you will get to your destination quicker but if you focus on the extra flies splattered on the windscreen you're not watching the road properly.

Funny thing is I've been irritated on and off this week with the bank, with an appartment I'm taking on, to the point of distraction but reading your post Phil I just can't get into an irritated mood on demand right now to try it out

So I suppose its the irritation autopilot that we don't even notice switching on we need to be aware of.

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Originally posted by JediMaster:

...So I suppose its the irritation autopilot that we don't even notice switching on we need to be aware of.

Exactly! ...how to control that irritation auto-pilot?

I find 20 minutes of meditation at an early point in my day helps wonderfully. I say 'early point' because if I do it before breakfast and shower I just fall back to sleep!

Greetings Phil,

OK, we can do the opposite to improve the feelings, but what about our belief system?

Can you instantly change your beliefs?
(to be aligned with your CMIs/wants/needs ... 'cause you get not necessary what you want/say/dream, you only get what you believe it true for yourself at the core of your being ... right?)

I've just had a thought this morning, is it negative feelings per se that hold us back or rather is it resitance to them that wastes so much mental energy? Of course since what you resist persists that is only going to magnify the effect.

So for example if you're not in a "good mood" today for whatever reason - certain things didn't happen to plan, didn't get that contract, client hasn't paid in time, plumber didn't turn up or just got out the wrong side of bed, maybe its better to say yeah I'm having a bad day but that's absolutely fine and just relax into it letting the "bad feelings" pass naturally without trying to make them go away. The situation isn't bad, it just is.

Perhaps its feeling that some work needs to be done today to make things happen (as I've been thinking all morning) but not in the frame of mind to do it - rather than feel guilty say fine! I'll be "idle" for a few hours visualise my cmi and do it later on or tomorrow.

Perhaps even these feelings are a tap on the shoulder from the universe to say "Hey! Isn't it about time you took a break to meditate on your vision"

Yeah, I am thinking about what both Sandu and Jedimaster have said here.

First, what Sandu says about our core beliefs. Wally does say it is the hardest work we'll ever do (i.e. staying focussed on our CMI, seeing TRUTH regardless of appearances). Our core beliefs are the major factor shaping our thoughts (perspective, vision) - changing core beliefs is hard work. It takes incredible mental effort to pull one's self out of a negative or scareCity core belief, and once out of that place - to stay out.

Phil does make a very good point though on starting to change that by changing our focus from the irritations to the gratifications.

Meditation helps here.

Jedi Master's suggestion that we accept bad feelings rather than resist them is also an interesting point because - as he says, what we resist we are giving attention to and what we give attention to grows.

I do experience that when I go with bad feelings and just accept that I am in a slump, it's easier to laugh about it than when I think/say: "Oh this is bad I need help" or words to that affect.

We all get slumps (bad days, or a series of bad days!)

One thing I've noticed is that when I come out of a slump I am usually light years ahead of where I was (in terms of thinking, daily action, life style, goals, relationship, etc.) when I went into it.

Bad days and slumps can be better handled when we recognize 'it's all relative'.

I am in a bit of n emotional slump right now, yet within the context of that slump I'm meeting CMI targets. The slump is also making me look more closely at my action, and that propels me forward - though the propulsion can only happen if I let go of the place I am in.

Clinging to a place that APPEARS to be comfortable (even though it may be very wrong for you) can block the propulsion and that can cause stagnant energy - and we all know what stagnant water smells like!

Letting go of APPARENT comfort, taking RISKS, these are a couple of ways of changing core beliefs.

(Got a little off topic, but it's all relative!)

Phil I love what you wrote. Thanks for the topic.

Alison, I am about to get on a plane and have a quick comment to this:

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We all get slumps (bad days, or a series of bad days!)

Here is one thing I have learned pretty well through my reading and practice here. A "bad day" is just a label. We can choose how to label our days (and everything else). How about saying that they are all good days and some are better than others? Everything we think, do and say is our choice so I thought why not choose to see it differently. I have loved where this has led! You might too.

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Originally posted by Dave M:
Phil I love what you wrote. Thanks for the topic.

Alison, I am about to get on a plane and have a quick comment to this:

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We all get slumps (bad days, or a series of bad days!)

Here is one thing I have learned pretty well through my reading and practice here. A "bad day" is just a label. We can choose how to label our days (and everything else). How about saying that they are all good days and some are better than others? Everything we think, do and say is our choice so I thought why not choose to see it differently. I have loved where this has led! You might too.

hah! Well then, when the more challenging days come along they are our REALLY GOOD days because we only get those days because we are so good at handling them....

Interesting thread indeed!

I think what jedimaster said probably run closest to my own experience. but for me, I take it one step further by acknowledging that feelings originate from my thoughts. Thoughts consistently held to become beliefs, which generate feelings whenever some thing triggers and activate these thoughts.Hence, given that we are constantly thinking thoughts at any one point in time, it only seems possible that I do not control any of my thoughts passing through my mind, I can only decide which ones I want to pay attention and hold on to, and then the feelings I want will happen naturally.Trying to control my feelings is to me much like trying to prevent a car going at a fast speed from hitting an obstacle if it keeps going in the same direction. What happens if you break hard at a fast speed? You take the risk of losing control of the car.So, the best option it seems to me is to gently shift the direction of my car towards where I want to go, and away from the approaching obstacle. Of course, if you "wake up" and realize the situation with little time to avoid the obstacle, you may need to take drastic action to prevent an accident.

When I am in a mental slump, the illusion I encounter is that my feelings are in control, and I let them run my thoughts, i.e. I allow my feelings at that moment, to determine how I think. that is when my meta program is so important. Meta program is like a master program that controls all my other little programs. That is why it is so important for me to read, hear or give myself little mental exercises throughout the day to instill Wally's wisdom in my mind, to lay that foundation for the meta program to take over should my little programs go awry and try to sabotage my good thoughts.

What I found is that the more I try to control ANYTHING that happens to me, the less I am likely to be able to do anything about it.The more I spend time trying to figure out why i am feeling a certain way, the more resistance I experience.

So what do I do? I relax and let go of ALL self criticisms that are probably happening if I let these feelings stay in my mind.Letting go and refocusing on something else to just change the physiology of my mind. That little change is subtle. Sometimes I feel better almost immediately and the change is instantaneous. Other times, however, nothing appears to happen, and the feelings seem like it doesn't want to leave. I notice that in situations like these, it is very frequently my need to control and change my feelings that leads to being self critical and that amplifies the whole bad feelings. Instead, if I were simply to let go of my need for control(which comes from my competitive mind), and I acknowledge that a higher power is in control,it is easier for me to interject empowering thoughts to break the momentum of these unhappy thoughts. The important thing is that I stay with it even though nothing seems to happen because the truth is that I am creating little ripples of thought waves that grows bigger with each action of belief and becomes strong enough to change totally the thoughts that I desire to eradicate.

Hmm seems like a rather long explanation for just saying "get out of my own way!" thanks if you have read through it though

Blessings

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OK, we can do the opposite to improve the feelings, but what about our belief system?

Can you instantly change your beliefs?
(to be aligned with your CMIs/wants/needs ... 'cause you get not necessary what you want/say/dream, you only get what you believe it true for yourself at the core of your being ... right?)

Greetings Sandu,

Can we instantly change our beliefs? For me, the answer is ‘sometimes.’ I’ll give an example.

A man was enjoying a quiet bus ride on a Sunday when suddenly a man and a couple children got on, and the children ran wildly up and down the aisle while the man just slumped into a seat. This went on for awhile, with the children bumping other riders and knocking a paper from one, generally acting apparently ‘out of control’ while the father just sat, apparently lost in his thoughts.

Finally, not able to ‘take it anymore’ the first man went to the father and, with as much self-control as he could muster, said to the father, “Sir, maybe you haven’t notice, but your children seem a little out of control.” The father, seeming to be coming out of a daze remarked, “Oh yes. I’m sorry. You see, we’ve just come from the hospital, where their mother has just died, and I’m just at a loss what to do.”

The first man’s irritation vanished completely, as his perception (belief) of what was happening changed totally. Now, with insight into ‘why’ the children and man were behaving as they were, he felt only compassion and love for this man and his ‘rambunctious’ children. (I’m paraphrasing from a story I read in a book.)

The point is, when, for whatever reason, we get to see why people behave as they do – when they seem to be behaving badly – the insight can create an instantaneous change in our beliefs about the behavior.

Of course, once we get this sort of realization we can extrapolate it and apply it to most any situation involving others (or even our own) irrational or otherwise ‘less than ideal’ behavior. It can cause us to have a meta-belief change in how we view ourselves and others. With understanding and insight we may find it suddenly easier to be kind when others are ‘at odds’ with us or others.

But then, judging from your past posts, I think you already know this.

As for being able to suddenly change our beliefs so that they fully align with our CMIs, I think the answer is, it’s possible. Why do I think this? Because, I think it’s a similar matter as the above story, or what the story points to. That being, a sudden shift in our perception can cause a major shift in our beliefs; a meta belief shift.

Simple, we just need to come to REALIZE that we really CAN have what we want. This kind of shift in perception (belief) can occur in a moment. For example, we might come to experience some event where we are ‘taken by surprise’ and we act beyond our previous limiting idea of ourselves in some important matter. And, when that happens, we might then come to fully realize that there is much more to us than we previously were able to believe. I’m sure there are many examples of this.

Thank you for bringing the subject up. It gives me another way to approach changing my own meta-beliefs.

Phil

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Originally posted by Phil:
Simple, we just need to come to REALIZE that we really CAN have what we want. This kind of shift in perception (belief) can occur in a moment.

Special Thanks Phil,

In every true, sincere prayer
we simply change our mind to realize and accept our desire accomplished, with happy feelings, upgrading our belief system, trust and faith, with deep gratitude giving thanks for the Divine Connection / Fix, without to even know how/when/"all the details" will be implemented ...

(God is changeless of course, we simply upgrade our thoughts, trust, have faith and accept Divine Solution, in Divine Order, by Divine Timing ... or something even better! ... right?)

Best (SOGR) Wishes Phil ,
we all love your topics & real life examples, creating good forum addiction ...

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Originally posted by Sandu-CanDo!:
Greetings Phil,

OK, we can do the opposite to improve the feelings, but what about our belief system?

Can you instantly change your beliefs?

this depends on where your belief system is based on.

The story of the baked ham comes to mind.

I was getting the ham ready for the oven, as I was cutting the ends off my little daughter asked me, "mommy, why do you cut the ends off the ham?"

"I don't know honey, my mother did that so I just do what I saw her do and believe it's the way it is done." I replied,

The next day I was talking to my mother and told her what her granddaughter asked me, and I asked her why did she cut the ends off the ham. I laughed as she replied, "my Mother did it that way so I just believed that it was the correct way to cook a ham."

Fortunately, my grandmother was alive and well and living in a retirement villa, so I called her up and asked her why she cut the ends of the ham before baking. Her answer had me in stitches...

"Dear, we didn't have a lot of money back then and the ham was always so big, too big for the pan so we just cut the ends off since we couldn't afford a bigger pan."

So...take a look at where your beliefs come from and make sure they are your own and are based in YOUR truth.

I read this just at the right time. Thanks again, Phil.

Without going into much detail, (believe it or not, I can do that) today is a great example of what could have been one where I would fuss and be upset because of a mistake I made, which could have cost us a financial set back.

But, with this fuel for thought, I have decided, instead, to let this go. I blasted the people involved and myself. And I've given it to God. Now I'll just let things go and get on with my plans for a terrific day. The sun is shining and it is a gorgeous day for a walk. And that's what I'm going to do. After such a long winter and cloudy skies, this is a great reprieve.

Thanks again, Phil.