Why are you here (at this board)? You want to find the path to all that you want. Yes? Or, if you know the path, you may have drifted off and you’re having trouble finding your footing again. So, you visit again, in hopes of being pointed back in the right direction.

So, here’s a reminder. (Not for newbies, obviously.)

Lest you forget (and who doesn’t?) it’s all about FEELING GOOD. Why?

Have you forgotten why you really want whatever you want – the new car, new house, new job, the great idea, the relationship, health, self esteem, achievement or recognition, the vacation, etc., etc., etc., etc.?

The essence of whatever you want – whether it’s a condition, relationship, activity, position, positive internal sense of self, better perspective on something, etc., etc., etc. – is,… a GOOD FEELING.

That’s what we’re all eternally after, with all our doing, thinking, praying, meditating, studying, pondering, scheming, analyzing, schmoozing. We simply want to feel good feelings,… and very good feelings.

Is that too mundane, too ordinary, too un-hip for you? Get over it.

Why do you want more money? Because it will enable you to do more of this or that? OK, but then, why do you want that? You want whatever you want because you simply want to FEEL BETTER, i.e., feel a good feeling. What do you hope having a lot of money will feel like? You’re hoping to feel more secure, freer, more able to do this or that.

Why do you want a certain relationship? Same thing. You’re hoping to experience more of the feelings you want – love, security, belonging, pleasure, joy, fun, play, well being and happiness.

Now, what does the Law of Attraction tell us? It tells us we ‘reap what we sow.’ It tells us, the inner = the outer. It tells us, how we’re feeling NOW is projecting out into the Universe and bringing its equivalents, in terms of experiences, conditions, relationships and circumstances.

LoA tells us Like Attracts Like. So, if we are upset we tend to get more things to upset us. But if we’re peaceful, happy, appreciating, being glad and feeling loved and loving, we tend to get more of the conditions, circumstances, experiences and relationships that are in harmony with feeling peaceful, happy, appreciating, being glad and feeling loved and loving.

Why do you think SOGR says:

“In the mental realm, enter at once into the full enjoyment of the things you want.”

It says this because this is an important key to making your life work. In essence it’s saying: Find you way to joy or peace or some other wonderful feeling NOW (enter at once). Don’t futurize the feeling. Don’t put off feeling good until some ‘someday’ when things are supposedly better. If you do you’ll just push away that ‘someday’ because, by Law of Attraction, you’ll be making yourself out of sync with what you want.

Don’t fool yourself. Don’t think, “Oh, I’ll just wait until I get ______, and then of course I’ll feel great.” No. Again, this will put you out of harmony with the good things you want. Being out of harmony with what you want will make it a struggle to get what you want, because you won’t be with the essence (the FEELING) of having them.

Find ways to feel good now, no matter what. Stop making excuses. They aren’t valid. Stop thinking you can’t determine how you feel. It’s not true. Stop blaming others or some condition for the way you feel. They and those conditions are not responsible for how you feel. (They may be responsible for other things – like, why the bills didn’t get paid, or the dent in your car – but they’re not responsible for how you FEEL.) Stop putting yourself down. It’s a mistake and it’s blasphemy. (You are a Child of God, remember?)

“We create our own heaven or hell. Your thoughts can imprison you or set you free. Complications, conditions or people do not upset you, but the way you think about them causes your upset. Freedom is not possible until we discipline and retrain our minds.” - p. 124 of Choose To Live Peacefully by Susan Smith Jones, Ph.D.

“If you say, “I just can’t help the way I feel,” you will only make yourself a victim of your misery ~ and you’ll be fooling yourself, because you can change the way you feel.
If you want to feel better, you must realize that your thoughts and attitudes--not external events--create your feelings. You can learn to change the way your think, feel, and behave in the here-and-now.” - from The Feeling Good Handbook by Dr. David Burns

“When you feel frustrated or upset by a person or a situation, remember that you are not reacting to the person or the situation, but to your feelings [beliefs] about the person or the situation.” - from The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success by Deepak Chopra

Joe Vitale has written books on how to succeed. Many of them have sold very well. They go into all these details of the processes, the understanding, the practices, the principles,… but he keeps coming back and saying, “But it’s just about being happy now.” All the other stuff is just meant to help a person get to the experience of being happy now.

Being happy. Feeling good, Being at peace. Feeling good. Loving. Accepting. Forgiving. Believing. Feeling good.

And stop thinking that someone else is going to come riding along and do this for you. They can’t. You have to do it for yourself. (Others can and do help, but it’s really up to you.)

And stop thinking you have to prove these principles to someone else before you can apply them. Stop thinking you have to make the naysayers believe.

“You are the only one who creates your reality. For, no one else can think for you. No one else can do it. It is only you. Every bit of it you. No one else needs to know this. It is not necessary for even one other person to understand these Laws of the Universe,... for you are the attractor of your experience. Just You!” Abraham-Hicks

More A-H:

“The way you are responding emotionally to what you’re living right NOW, is what equals your future attraction, creation, and allowing.”

“Things will constantly change to match the feeling you have inside."

“All you have to do is get into vibrational harmony with your desire, and your desire must be given to you - and the Universe will find endless ways of bringing it to you.”

May you, more and more, and more and more easily, find your way to experiencing wonderful feelings, more and more, and more and more often. They make everything richer and worthwhile.

Phil

Thank you, Phil

I just wanted to say what a great post that is. I came across the book about a month ago and have been putting it to use in everyday life. However, in the last week I had already started to veer off course a little and thought I would come and read the forums to get myself back on track. Your post was there as a reminder just when I needed to get back to basics, Phil. I have been finding myself feeling a bit blue in the last few days but I know it is up to me to make me feel happy, and to do it NOW, not later. Thanks for an inspiring post!

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Is that too mundane, too ordinary, too un-hip for you? Get over it.

LOL It IS all about FEELING GOOD Phil!!

Thanks so much for the reminder, good to know that I'm on the right track, because I've been feeling wonderful.

Yes Phil, it is all about feeling good.

And sometimes Phil, when we discover why we haven't been feeling 100% joy-filled, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 52 weeks of the year we experience a little remorse, or grief.

AND THAT'S OKAY.

IT'S OKAY TO FEEL SAD SOMETIMES.

It is not obligatory to walk around with the corners of our mouths attached to the corners of our eyes ALL THE TIME.

AND IT'S OKAY!

It's just as important to know it's okay to feel sad sometimes.

Feeling good is more than being happy (or pretending to be happy).

Feeling good is ACCEPTING YOURSELF - ALL YOUR MOODS, ALL YOUR UPS AND DOWNS - ALL YOUR IMPERFECTIONS AS WELL AS PERFECTIONS.

FEELING GOOD IS SAYING I'M NOT PERFECT AND THAT'S FANTASTIC!

I had a situation the other day that is similar to what you are talking about here. I got really really upset and frustrated with my children and obviously it attracted more of what I was feeling. But I was surprised at how quickly it came back to me. After having over 6 hours at the emergency room to think about the events that led me to that point I couldn’t help but think that my frustration and anger had caused me to be there and If I hadn’t gotten so upset I probably wouldn’t have been there. I am still feeling the effects of this as I caught a cold while in the waiting room.

Like attracts like I get that. But with negative thoughts or frustrations you can attract a fight with your wife, a sore back, a cold, or someone else being mean to you. It can be anything. So with positive thoughts and feelings you will bring positive situations In your life. People will be nicer to you, your wife will appreciate you, or your kids will do there chores without you telling them. Is it your CMI that gives that positive feelings or thoughts direction? You want something specific and you imagine it and feel it and keep joyful and full of positive feelings and emotions. So to make your CMI stronger or more powerful think of something that makes you really happy and joyful and ecstatic then think of your CMI and that gives it more direction? For example I want my business to take off. I think of something that makes me so happy and makes me feel great and I think of my CMI with that type of feeling does that give it more direction and make it come quicker?


Bill
www.thurstoninsurance.com

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Originally posted by Phil:

Now, what does the Law of Attraction tell us? It tells us we ‘reap what we sow.’ It tells us, the inner = the outer. It tells us, how we’re feeling NOW is projecting out into the Universe and bringing its equivalents, in terms of experiences, conditions, relationships and circumstances.
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LoA tells us Like Attracts Like. So, if we are upset we tend to get more things to upset us. But if we’re peaceful, happy, appreciating, being glad and feeling loved and loving, we tend to get more of the conditions, circumstances, experiences and relationships that are in harmony with feeling peaceful, happy, appreciating, being glad and feeling loved and loving. ....

Find ways to feel good now, no matter what. Stop making excuses. They aren’t valid. Stop thinking you can’t determine how you feel. It’s not true. Stop blaming others or some condition for the way you feel. They and those conditions are not responsible for how you feel. (They may be responsible for other things – like, why the bills didn’t get paid, or the dent in your car – but they’re not responsible for how you FEEL.) Stop putting yourself down. It’s a mistake and it’s blasphemy. (You are a Child of God, remember?)

Phil

I feel ME's post reflects what Rebecca posted on May 9th:

Could you allow yourself to just feel as irritated as you do? I mean, instead of fighting (resisting) it, could you just let it in and let yourself actually feel it?

And a little more?

And even a little more?

When you do this -- let go of resistance -- notice what's there INSIDE that feeling of irritation. Just be still and notice.

Then see what happens.

Many blessings, and, of course--
EXPECT Success!
Rebecca

ME:
It's just as important to know it's okay to feel sad sometimes.

Feeling good is more than being happy (or pretending to be happy).

Feeling good is ACCEPTING YOURSELF - ALL YOUR MOODS, ALL YOUR UPS AND DOWNS - ALL YOUR IMPERFECTIONS AS WELL AS PERFECTIONS.

FEELING GOOD IS SAYING I'M NOT PERFECT AND THAT'S FANTASTIC!

One's life is not going to pot because we've not "happy" every moment. What's important is recognizing what Rebecca and ME is saying, letting go, and you'll be back where you want to be.

SharonSS

Yeah Sharon!
I had a great experience with this today - because I have been feeling down lately. I had read Rebecca's post that you mention and I had thought about that.

I've always believed it's important to allow ourselves to feel sadness, anger, frustration...whatever... when we experience it - and I had wondered about that in the context of SOGR and Rebecca's post about allowing the feelings reinforced my original belief.

Then today when I wrote my first reply to Phil's original post here, I experienced a huge shift in my energy, and I started saying: "Yeah!"

Then I went to the gratitude and and posted something about it there on the same topic and by the time I was finished I was in better spirits than I have been for weeks.

Allowing myself to fully experience the feelings and being grateful for my ability to FEEL such a range of emotion opened my energy and when I went out this evening people remarked that I seemed "up".

I was "up" and I'm still "up". I think this has been one of the greatest "aha's" I've experienced since starting SOGR.

...and, with this shift came an interesting money making possibility!

****By the way: Rebecca's posts on this subject are in the Course for Practical Geniuses Forum, so all you lurkers reluctant to drop the dime for the course, listen up! Time to sign up and get into it 100%!!!

I think what matters is not whether you feel a little sad or even a little irritated or angry from time to time. Or even if you go through spells where you feel blue or even elated. Like others, I think all our feelings enrich us and make our life experience fuller and more meaningful. And all feelings can be dealt with constructively. "It's all good," as Jamie Fox likes to say.

I think what matters is your general consistent mood. I think what matters is your usual day-to-day realm of feeling. Is it up or not? Is it eager or not? If it’s not then you are probably perpetuating beliefs that prevent it from being up.

It seems to me that most everyone has what can be called a ‘baseline feeling experience’ a usual day-to-day realm of feeling they experience. Sometimes you feel a lot better than this baseline and sometimes you feel a lot worse, but generally you return to a sort of ‘baseline feeling mood.’ To me, it’s this baseline mood that you can positively and deliberately affect by practicing ideas you’re learning about.

Maybe you have a belief that makes it hard to let go of resentments. Or maybe you have a belief that you’re somehow not as worthy or deserving as another. Or maybe you have a belief that you’re not likely to create a wonderful life for yourself. Or maybe you’re a habitual worrier. Or you’re habitually stressed and out of touch with your feelings. These are the kinds of beliefs that would affect your general mood and prevent you from generally feeling really good on a day-to-day basis.

Now, even if your day-to-day mood is not that great right now, the question to ask, I think, is, could it possibly be better? I don’t mean ‘through the roof.’ I mean, could your day-to-day mood be better,… calmer, happier, kinder, more optimistic or hopeful? It is possible, on a day-to-day basis, you could feel better about yourself, if you just changed some ideas you have of yourself or others? Could you, in your day-to-day living, be living from a higher, more worthy sense of yourself? Could you, in your day-to-day assessment of yourself be more appreciative, encouraging and kinder to yourself? And with your circumstances, is it possible you could have a more constructive outlook? If so, might these be things that would lift your day-to-day mood?

And if your day-to-day mood were better, do you think you might attract better things into your life?

Phil

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Originally posted by Phil:
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I mean, could your day-to-day mood be better,… calmer, happier, kinder, more optimistic or hopeful?
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And if your day-to-day mood were better, do you think you might attract better things into your life?

Phil

Greetings Phil,

Regarding your final question, I would say: absolutely YESSS!
(better mood & feel good = less resistance and more of simply allowing your CMI to happen!)

Regarding your first question, based on my daily motivational & nutrition coach experience, your daily food is greatly influencing your moods!
(very beneficial: fasting/purifying with fresh juice, veggie salads, seeds, nuts, fruits; simply forget about sugar/dairy/meat/fat/starch/hormones loaded foods or alcohol ... 60+ minutes exercise daily and good sleep also affects the moods ...)

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Originally posted by Phil:
...Maybe you have a belief that makes it hard to let go of resentments. Or maybe you have a belief that you’re somehow not as worthy or deserving as another. Or maybe you have a belief that you’re not likely to create a wonderful life for yourself. Or maybe you’re a habitual worrier. Or you’re habitually stressed and out of touch with your feelings. These are the kinds of beliefs that would affect your general mood and prevent you from generally feeling really good on a day-to-day basis.

Now, even if your day-to-day mood is not that great right now, the question to ask, I think, is, could it possibly be better? I don’t mean ‘through the roof.’ I mean, could your day-to-day mood be better,… calmer, happier, kinder, more optimistic or hopeful? It is possible, on a day-to-day basis, you could feel better about yourself, if you just changed some ideas you have of yourself or others? Could you, in your day-to-day living, be living from a higher, more worthy sense of yourself? Could you, in your day-to-day assessment of yourself be more appreciative, encouraging and kinder to yourself? And with your circumstances, is it possible you could have a more constructive outlook? If so, might these be things that would lift your day-to-day mood?

And if your day-to-day mood were better, do you think you might attract better things into your life?

Phil

I understand what you're saying Phil. Do you understand what I'm saying?

Whatever the belief is that we have that brings us down has to first be accepted... (i.e."I have this belief. It brings me down. That's okay. I am human.") ...to be changed if we are going to raise our baseline mood.

We are complex creatures Phil, and we come to this board with a full set of baggage - some of us may have lost a suitcase or two on a couple of flights. The baggage influences our baseline mood.

What are you going to do about the baggage that keeps weighing you down? Are you just going to attach strings to the corners of your mouth, or are you going to accept that you have this baggage, it brings you down and THAT'S OKAY.

Then when you're ready to put down the bags you can do so with more ease and grace and a higher baseline mood.

What concerns me is that many people walk around pretending to be happy and grieving inside - and it's the internal on-going, never-accepted, never-released grief that brings them down and repels their good.

These are the people who commit to doing the exercises, get a big boost (financial or emotional), then fall down again - because the core grief has not been accepted, met head on, understood and released.

If they can starts by acknowledging and accepting the grief they are automatically going to feel better.

The grief can come from so many places/causes: loss of a loved-one, loss of a job, loss of an illusion...loss of a career, a house, loss of ambition...if we just pretend this doesn't exist and put on a happy face, yes we will attract good for the moment, but there will be no long-lasting flow of good - unless the good we attract is so good it helps us access the tools we need to handle the deep grief...

I use the plural pronoun 'we' here because I'm talking about everyone who is working this program, and I include myself on that list. I'm not a detached guru spouting wisdom. I'm here to learn and grow.

I'm with you ME. What you resist, even subconciously, persists and grows!

I believe in a process called "Praise God for EVERYTHING"...even the bad. That means accepting it's there for a reason. Then you're mood becomes joyful, and then things start changing for the better cause you're joyful and giving God something to work with (faith, trust, joy).

It's exactly that that is helping me heal from a cold/sinusitus and has me in a good mood while I'm at work, and not resting in bed as I would have preferred.

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What concerns me is that many people walk around pretending to be happy and grieving inside - and it's the internal on-going, never-accepted, never-released grief that brings them down and repels their good.

ME, who's choice is it if they choose to carry grief around? Have you not answered your own question here.

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Originally posted by TerryF:
"ME, who's choice is it if they choose to carry grief around? Have you not answered your own question here.

Astute observation,TerryF!

I think though that ME's point is that we should be aware of conflicting beliefs/feelings. Meaning we say "oh I feel great" but inside there's that little voice that says "liar". Acceptance does not mean focusing on the negative, it means acknowledging it so you are free to choose to focus on the positive end result you want. If you ignore it, it sabotages all your attempts at positive thinking & believing.

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Originally posted by Nirakia:

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Originally posted by TerryF:
"ME, who's choice is it if they choose to carry grief around? Have you not answered your own question here.

Astute observation,TerryF!

I think though that ME's point is that we should be aware of conflicting beliefs/feelings. Meaning we say "oh I feel great" but inside there's that little voice that says "liar". Acceptance does not mean focusing on the negative, it means acknowledging it so you are free to choose to focus on the positive end result you want. If you ignore it, it sabotages all your attempts at positive thinking & believing.

Morning, Nirakia,
Yes, I am aware of that, however, for every little voice that does speak up to say, "liar, poser, fraud, you can't do it, you aren't this or you aren't that" there will be a little voice, perhaps fainter, initially, that is saying, "sure why not, go for it big guy, I know you can do it." I am not suggesting that any of the 'little voices' be ignored, so-called negative or otherwise. I am simply saying you, me, everyone has the choice of which voice we listen and respond to. Self-talk (those 'little voices') are nothing more or less than thoughts being vocalized, albeit within. The 'little voice' the one that says, "go for it" the one that is in alignment with your desires, if you choose it, will eventually grow stronger until it is the dominant voice.
I am saying everyone has conflicting thoughts, it is a natural thing with all living creatures. So, you can acknowledge or ignore some thoughts or all thoughts, the fact remains, the choice is always ours what thoughts we choose to focus and act upon.
My initial point in responding to ME's post is her contention that so-called negative thoughts will come back to haunt us unless acknowledged. So called negative thoughts will always occur whether we aknowledge them or not. Why shouldn't they occur, we are not perfect. They are simply reflections or choices we are offered along the way. ME also mentions "baggage" and the same thing applies. Acknowledge it? Sure, why not? But to focus on it and carry it around like an 80 lb. pack, I don't think so.

Yeah, it gets heavy

hi everyone

My own observation of Rebecca's suggestion to go within our feelings is simply that by doing so, we go BEYOND our individual labels of good or bad, positive or negative. Our feelings simply IS. Our thoughts are the ones that give meaning to it. See within it and you may discover something totally different from what you thought. and you would only know if you try it and see what happens.

Blessings

Terry
I'm talking about feelings, not thoughts.

I'm not talking about the voices inside that bring us down, rather I'm talking about unacknowledged, unaccepted feelings - and the accompanying pretense that those feelings don't exist.

This is quite radically different from the voices in our heads that tell us we can't do something, etc.

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Originally posted by Kevsky:
hi everyone

My own observation of Rebecca's suggestion to go within our feelings is simply that by doing so, we go BEYOND our individual labels of good or bad, positive or negative. Our feelings simply IS. Our thoughts are the ones that give meaning to it. See within it and you may discover something totally different from what you thought. and you would only know if you try it and see what happens.

Blessings

Yes Kevsky - and in order to do that we must acknowledge that the feelings exist and accept them, and yes, get on with whatever it is we want to get on with.

Yes, it's the negative self talk/labels sometimes associated with the feelings that bring us down rather than the feelings themselves.

For example: Feeling sad ain't necessarily bad, it's simply feeling sad.
Feeling tired isn't bad, it's just tired.

I agree with ME. Unless we get to the core issue of what is holding us back, the negative beliefs, feelings, etc., then we end up not resolving them. I don't think just walking around with a smile on our faces is going to meet that need.

There are some deep issues that keep surfacing unless we meet them head on, and then we can finally step up to the plate and believe for whatever it is we want.

With EFT, one of the wonderful parts of it is, we get to the core of what is keeping us down, back or in a funk. While it is true it helps to keep an upper lip when things are down, there are times when we aren't going to be totally happy.

That's why I rely on blessings, not just feelings. Feelings can, some times, throw us off the track. With feelings, we kid ourselves into thinking we've got it all together, when, in fact, we don't.

I'm speaking from personal experience. As someone, recently, pointed out to me, my art is not being made because of my beliefs that no one would want to buy it. All this time, I thought it was because I didn't have the space and can't see as well. But those can be changed or alleviated. There are ways that these things can be dealt with so that I can design again.

Again, yes, it's all a matter of choice. We all know that, but, in the end, do we really want to keep telling ourselves everything is ok, when, in fact, we don't really believe that?

Why is it that some come here and go gung ho and receive their dreams in no time at all, and then others struggle so hard? Where does it say we aren't supposed to ever look at our situations and do something about them.

When I was a child, one statement always came up. Don't be an ostrich burying your head in the sand. We have to get to our core issues in order to come up and out of where it is we are at the moment.