I am having some pleasant success with the Healing Codes which are just another version of energy healing like EFT and PSTEC.

So this morning when I woke with my usual dread of going to my son's hockey game and then to work, followed by Sunday home with the family and two more days of work, I decided to do my healing codes. The issue is that I won't have a day off and alone time at home til Wednesday. To me, this is 4 straight days of anxiety with no relief til Wednesday.

I know everyone will be nice. I work with friends who will laugh and make jokes. There should be steady stream of work to make time pass. Some will be boring for me but I arrange it in ways that make it easier to handle. There is nothing to fear.

I am angry that I am not doing what I want to do during that time. I can and am doing healing codes for the time issue.

Healing codes use a concept called a truth focus statement which is a positive statement about the situation that you want to change or heal. You are to repeat and focus on these while you do your energy work. They are a little "softer" than affirmations in that you phrase them in ways that make them believable for you and then if you wish, you may place trust in God or Source. So you needn't say.."I am happy at work" as if it is already true like you might an affirmation. It is more like an EFT statement.

They also seem to focus one virtues like patience, humility, unconditional love, forgiveness, peace, kindness, trust, etc...

So this morning I tried, "I need to feel calm about going to work and the hockey game. I want to make peace with my obligations. I am feeling better about leaving already. I ask God to help me feel safe and confident and happy everywhere I go."

But I feel I am missing an issue. For instance, I am not any happier to come home because it is a weekend and my family will be here. People are people and all a source of anxiety and irritation. I can't remember a time when they weren't...except online where for some reason they are a pleasure. But in person they interrupt the happiness...no matter how funny or nice or even beautiful.

Can anyone think of an issue I am missing or a truth focus statement that focuses on the virtue I am to be cultivating?


Thank you.

PS. I thought trying to heal the guilt that makes me do the things I don't want to do, but it seemed selfish just wanting to plow through life doing what I like and feeling good.

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Originally posted by annievt:PS. I thought trying to heal the guilt that makes me do the things I don't want to do, but it seemed selfish just wanting to plow through life doing what I like and feeling good.

I think this is the real issue, right here. If you don't believe in your RIGHT to be happy and your RESPONSIBILITY to feel good, then everything else will seem like an uphill battle. Try healing THAT and see what happens next.

Love and blessings,
Rachel

Rachel, I couldn't have said it better. That was exactly the thought and feeling I had. Annie, your right to good things is a worthiness issue and THAT is what needs to heal.

Have you listened to any of the archived calls on the HC website. Worthiness is an issue that comes up often. BTW, it is one I am working on healing also, which is why your statement resaonated so powerfully for me.

Sending you love,
Teresa

Someone told me once that one of the distinctions between an introvert and an extrovert are how they get their renewing energy. An extrovert feels so good being around people, they crave their company. That's what helps to bring their energy up. An introvert, on the other hand, renews their energy with their alone time.

With a husband a job and four? sons, alone time is rare. And it SEEMS like you can NEVER get enough. It would make perfect sense that your CMI would be focused on alone time and getting away from anything and any one that keeps you from that alone time.

There are gradations of how strong the needs are - so not all introverts need as much time as others.

And even introverts can be extroverted. In fact, many friends of introverts don't believe you ARE an introvert. So introverts find themselves arguing with people - trying to convince people what they want and need.

And introverts feel badly about wanting/needing alone time. Mostly, they have no desire to hurt the people who want to be around them, but end up hurting them anyway. Or worse, they hurt themselves because they don't allow themselves - for many reasons - the time alone that they need.

For a strong introvert, the pain of not getting enough alone time can be almost physical. It hurts. (And there really is no way to explain this to someone who hasn't felt it.)

Here are the questions I have now. If these feelings come from my thoughts, can I change these thoughts? "Should" I change these thoughts? Or can I allow these feelings to be there and arrange my life in a way that I get my time?

And here is something that I now know. The people around us who love us - love it when we are happy. We are happier when our kids are happy and healthy. Kids are happier when their parents are happy and well. (And yes, those happy feelings come from thoughts.) But with this in mind, I believe it is (not just that we are worthy of being happy) - it is our job in life to be happy. And it is our gift to the people we love and who love us - to be happy.

(Thanks for lending me your soapbox, Fountainbleu.)

And another thing. Selfish is a term others lay on us when we are not doing what THEY want us to do. And then we bought it and labeled ourselves selfish. Then we got really good and called ourselves selfish ANY time we did something that made us happy - didn't even wait for someone else's opinion.

I knew a mom who used to hide from her kids in a closet under the stairs. She had a chair and a reading lamp. She could hear what was going on, but she needed the time. Kids are all alive and well today...

Rachel,

I think you PERFECTLY tagged Annie's PS.

Leslie,

I thought that was a nice piece on introverts vs extroverts, and how we re-energize,... except you said “introverts feel badly about wanting/needing alone time.” To me, that's not true. I think I'm an introvert and I feel FINE with wanting alone time. What makes me feel bad is DENYING myself this time. (Which I don't usually do. In fact, I'm good at getting many bits and pieces of 'alone time' throughout my day, as well as more extended periods.)

Also, I think it's excellent that you pointed out that when we are happy, we help the people around us to be happy, virtually automatically,.. so, we REALLY need to do what we need to do to be happy.

Annie,

I agree with the others. You seem to have Self Worth issues.

To get to the root of your Self Worth issues (beliefs) try reading the following, and see how far you can go in agreement with it.

We ALL experience our beliefs. Do you agree?

At any moment, we can know what we're believing by noticing how we FEEL. Do you agree?

Fundamentally, we ALL want to feel good and wonderful feelings. Do you agree?

Since, how we FEEL comes from what we BELIEVE, the truth is, we all want to believe the ideas that can generate or support good feelings. Do you agree?

Thus, if we're not feeling some feeling we want to feel, we MUST be believing something that we don't really WANT to believe. Do you agree?

If you are NOT feeling good, it means you MUST be believing something you really do NOT want to believe. Do you agree?

So, what is it that you are believing, that you really do NOT want to believe? And,...

What is your rationale for CONTINUING to believe something you do NOT want to continue believing?

Do you AGREE with rationale that makes you continue to believe something you do NOT want to believe? If so, why?

The way to dispel a limiting (bad feeling creating) belief is to bring it to full consciousness so that you can examine it “fully in the light of day” or, in other words, intelligently, instead of adhering to it blindly.

When you get to the 'bottom' of it, Self Worth issues are just belief issues. They are NOT issues about what is true or false. They are simply issues of what you BELIEVE.

If you dispel the beliefs that make you feel bad, your Self Worth will automatically 'rise to the surface.' You will automatically begin to feel good about yourself.

Phil

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this is 4 straight days of anxiety with no relief til Wednesday.

Those 4 days are yet to happen. Experience them, THEN judge them.

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People are people and all a source of anxiety and irritation.

Instead of running from personal human interaction (it's inevitable - by now, that's sunk in, right?), stop, turn around and face it with your baddest do-your-worst game face on. Not free hugs at the mall, but it's an empowering step up from anxiety, which is enough for now, I think.

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Originally posted by Phil:
Leslie,

I thought that was a nice piece on introverts vs extroverts, and how we re-energize,... except you said “introverts feel badly about wanting/needing alone time.” To me, that's not true. I think I'm an introvert and I feel FINE with wanting alone time. What makes me feel bad is DENYING myself this time. (Which I don't usually do. In fact, I'm good at getting many bits and pieces of 'alone time' throughout my day, as well as more extended periods.)

Perfect. Thanks for this. Up till now, I have had moments of feeling badly. No more!

Another thing I think I'm beginning to see. If I feel - even for a moment - that I don't have enough alone time, I am coming from "lack" and we now know that "lack" is never the truth - always an appearance.

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Originally posted by annievt:
I am having some pleasant success with the Healing Codes which are just another version of energy healing like EFT and PSTEC.

I think this is TERRIFIC!!

I've read story after story, of the amazing healing effects of The Healing Codes.

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Can anyone think of an issue I am missing or a truth focus statement that focuses on the virtue I am to be cultivating?

For me, one thing you seem to DEFINITELY be missing is, you seem to constantly STATE things as if they are FACT when they are only YOUR perspective. And so, in essence, you set yourself up to come to some mental/emotional dead end. For example, you said:

“People are people and all a source of anxiety and irritation.”

What AMAZES me is how you can say such a thing, and THEN, scurry right on with whatever point you're trying to make, and you completely MISS the fact that you're trying to make a point that has its basis in OPINION or personal PERSPECTIVE and not objective fact.

To me, people are a source of wonder, delight, inspiration, joy, passion, intrigue, power, pleasure, humor, tenderness, kindness, love, and also heartache, irritation, etc., but ONLY because however I experience them (and I include me in the bunch) gets FILTERED through whatever BELIEFS I have about them (and my relationship to them) that are getting 'triggered' in the moment.

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Can anyone think of an issue I am missing,...

Yes. I think you're missing the fact that it's your BELIEFS that determine how you feel about whatever it is you're experiencing. (People do not CAUSE us to feel one way or another.) So, if you don't like how you're feeling, you need to unearth or bring to light the BELIEF that's causing you to feel however you feel, and improve, discard or 're-write' it.

Phil

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Originally posted by Leslie B:
Another thing I think I'm beginning to see. If I feel - even for a moment - that I don't have enough alone time, I am coming from "lack" and we now know that "lack" is never the truth - always an appearance.

I'm not sure that's correct.

It seems to me, it's very possible to choose to or to create 'not having enough alone time.' Just as it's possible to not have enough water to drink.

I think a lackful idea might be: I can't create the alone time I want and need, and still live a fulfilling life.

And an abundant idea might be: I can create plenty of alone time, and still live a rich, fulfilling, exquisite life.

Phil

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Originally posted by Phil:
I think a lackful idea might be: I can't create the alone time I want and need, and still live a fulfilling life.

And an abundant idea might be: I can create plenty of alone time, and still live a rich, fulfilling, exquisite life.

Phil

Interesting. I like it. I actually like both.

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Can anyone think of an issue I am missing or a truth focus statement that focuses on the virtue I am to be cultivating?

I am of the opinion that courage and temperance would be ideal virtues for you to cultivate. Courage to experience consciously the present moment, instead of writing it off before you ever see it. And temperance to know how much you may reasonably expect of yourself.

If you found a balance between these two, I think you could make progress by leaps and bounds.

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Originally posted by Leslie B:

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Originally posted by Phil:
I think a lackful idea might be: I can't create the alone time I want and need, and still live a fulfilling life.

And an abundant idea might be: I can create plenty of alone time, and still live a rich, fulfilling, exquisite life.

Phil

Interesting. I like it. I actually like both.

I don't understand you. Do you like the lackful idea? Why?

Courage and temperance, it is then. You know I can't even say the word without feeling sick. Off to see if the Wizard

Do keep us informed. Personally, I'm very interested to know how it all goes for you, day by day.

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it seemed selfish just wanting to plow through life doing what I like and feeling good.

Why, because the responsible thing to do is be morose? You're more productive when you're unhappy? Your happiness messes up natural order? Some silly person feels bad when you feel good?

You'd be surprised at the ludicrous foundations our personal dogmas can have.

Courage was too scary. I could hardly focus on the word. Courage feels like it takes effort. I am softening my approach to having trust in God, Source and my own ability to act, think and feel for my highest good no matter where I find myself.

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Originally posted by annievt:
Courage was too scary. I could hardly focus on the word. Courage feels like it takes effort. I am softening my approach to having trust in God, Source and my own ability to act, think and feel for my highest good no matter where I find myself.

From experience, it seems to me that the need for courage can be greatly alleviated or circumvented with UNDERSTANDING. For example,…

At one time I felt or thought there was a need for me to transition from being a full time freelance musician to getting a 'day job.' At first the idea seems like a 'mountain to climb, thus seeming hard or requiring courage.

But, over a little time, as I mulled it over, it occurred to me that MANY people have day jobs. Therefore, I asked "How hard could it really be?" Now, it didn't seem so daunting, or requiring any great effort or much courage.

And then, with this new UNDERSTANDING, i pursued the 'day job' route with much greater inner ease. Steps 'appeared' and I took them, and it led to me fairly easily making the transition.

I've done the same with creating relationships. I have found that new UNDERSTANDINGS (e.g., about how I need to be, to easily and effortlessly create the relationships I want) GREATLY alleviated any angst or discomfort I had, and made the 'task' mostly 'effortless.'

I've applied the same strategy to getting out of debt and building up my net worth, and for improving my physical health, and whatever else concerns me.

So, bottom line, if COURAGE seems too daunting, try gaining greater UNDERSTANDING about what you want

As has been said "Knowledge is power." And UNDERSTANDING gives you quite a bit of that power.

Phil

Annie, in another thread you wrote:

"I dream and have done so since I was young, all about the action adventure chic stuff. I think someone said they thought of Lara Croft when I told them how smart, beautiful, detached and athletic I am in that life. I have never seen the movies, but I looked it up after and I believe they are right."

Maybe it's time to make those dreams come true?

Maybe the reason you dream that specific dream is because that "action hero" identiity is a latent part of you, waiting to blossom?

Yeah My action hero persona doesn't suffer from anxiety. Lol.

Leslie. You make being an introvert sound admirable. It is awesome that our reserve let's us step back and let others be as well. I always thought I gave my kids A lot of space, for example. I like that.