The ‘Other Side’ Of The Law Of Attraction.

We attract what we believe, if we believe something strong enough to have a feeling about it. This works great for us, in our favor, when we have positive, good feelings for things. But it works against us when we have poor feelings about things.

Does anything bother you? (“Duh,” I hear you say.)

Being ‘bothered’ about something means we have a fairly strong belief that something bothers us. (“Duh,” I hear you say again.) Well, as impossible as it may sound, I believe the solution lies in creating a belief that ‘it’ (the bothersome thing) no longer bothers us. Let me explain a little more.

Years ago I was working on the road and me and the fellow I was with stayed in a really cheap hotel that was right alongside some railroad tracks. My friend and I would go to sleep about the same time every night, but in the middle of the night a train would come roaring by and not only make a lot of noise but also shake the hotel. Every night my friend would wake with a start.

But what really infuriated him was, he would look over at me every night and be amazed that I would just sleep soundly through it. For whatever reasons, I slept right through it all, every night, and had a very good sleep.

(Every morning he’d be all blurry-eyed and ask me, “Didn’t you hear the train last night?” And I’d tell him I didn’t because I didn’t, and he’d get all exasperated again.)

On the other hand, I used to get upset because my wife used to criticize me very, very regularly, and I used to regularly get upset or annoyed.

Well, after awhile I recognized that my wife’s criticism was not getting me upset at all. It was just my evaluation or perspective of her criticism that got me upset. So, I began teaching myself not to get upset with her criticisms, and guess what? She slowly became less and less critical of me. Coincidence? I don’t think so.

So, what I’m saying is, I think if you can teach yourself to be calm and ok with whatever bothers you, you will then create less bothersome occurrences. Your inner calm will put the Law of Attraction to work in your favor.

Now, I’ll add, I had to overcome my ‘shoulds’ and ‘ought tos’ to get over my belief about spousal criticisms. (I had been telling myself, “She shouldn’t be doing this. She ought to know better,” “She ought to be more loving,” “I shouldn’t have to put up with this,” etc., etc.) All the while, I think I was merely perpetuating her criticisms because I kept justifying my self-righteous beliefs. When I dropped my poor attitude about her criticisms, they bothered me less and less, and she ‘coincidentally’ criticized me less and less.

Somehow, there is a way you can think about almost anything that currently bothers you, so that you will no longer be bothered by it.

Maybe it’s like the old saying, “I used to complain about my crummy shoes, until I saw a man with no feet.”

In any case, to me, the bottom line is, Law of Attraction rules. So long as we are bothered by things, we attract them.

Phil

Phil,

Thank you. I needed to hear this. "When the student is ready, the teacher appears!"

I will put this "Law of Attraction" principle to use in a scenario that I am presently dealing with.

Tom

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Originally posted by Phil:
The ‘Other Side’ Of The Law Of Attraction.

We attract what we believe, if we believe something strong enough to have a feeling about it. This works great for us, in our favor, when we have positive, good feelings for things. But it works against us when we have poor feelings about things.

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On the other hand, I used to get upset because my wife used to criticize me very, very regularly, and I used to regularly get upset or annoyed.

Phil

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This morning I was a bit upset as I kept thinking to myself "MOST people don't like __________ about me." Then I started thinking instead of just reacting and thought that's not true..."SOME people don't like ___________ about me." Then few minutes later I switched it to "I really have no way of knowing but I think a FEW people don't like __________ about me."

Most..Some..Few...minor word change in my thinking led to lessening of the negative thought. Now I'm working on the other end of the thing which is to "increase the positive" since I know it's a negative trait I have so I'd be better off changing it so that "very few people don't like __________ about me."

Which is similar to you and your wife...you were thinking "my wife used to criticize me ALL the time" when in reality you weren't with you wife all the time during the day...so "some times your wife would critize you"...in reality it was a "few moments during the day your wife would criticize you."

Most...some...few minor word changes can be helpful to increase the positive.

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Originally posted by TOM:
Phil,

Thank you. I needed to hear this. "When the student is ready, the teacher appears!"

Tom

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When the student is willing to learn from anybody and everything, the teacher is always present.


Ok it doesn't have the same ring to it as the old saying but what I'm getting at is we can learn from everybody and everything that we see around us if we truly are looking to learn. Of course there are some lessons that some want to teach us that we should reject but then again knowing what to reject is also an important lesson to learn.

There are different "teachers" for different situations. Just like in school.

In Phil's post, he was the "teacher" that appeared concerning a situation that I am dealing with at present. I learned something from his post.

You are right David, we do learn from everything, and everybody that crosses our paths, including lessons that we should reject.

Thank you for your input,
Tom

EXACTLY!

This morning I discovered a "surprise"... a rather large charge on my credit card that I thought was cancelled over a week ago actually went through!

In the meantime, I had made some other purchases, fully expecting the money "saved" from the other item to be there for me... NOT!

Up 'til recently, this would have set me off BIG TIME!

And actually, I did indulge myself in a few minutes of 'Frenzy-time', as I scrambled for ways to cover my butt. Since there was no other immediately convenient way, I tapped into my reserve funds which I usually don't touch under ANY circumstances.

The old me would have fussed and fumed about this for DAYS.

This morning, I practiced being GRATEFUL for having the means to cover myself! And the rest of the day was total joy.

In fact, when I got on the forum tonight, I realized that I had made a couple more valuable connections. One person said, "Send me your story. I'd love to read it."

Another said, "I've been reading your posts and I like what you have to say. Could we be buddies."

Who knows where these, and other pleasant 'coincidences' may lead? All I know is what Phil, Tom and David have already mentioned... you attract EXACTLY what you put out!

Folks, YOU ARE *THE* CAUSE.

Everything around you changes the very second YOU change.

You want another example? This one even has me gasping in awe.

A very close family member is battling drug addiction. As you might imagine, this is a cause for great personal concern. OK... up until recently, IT BOTHERED ME *A LOT*.

Since following SOGR, this situation has bothered me less and less until now I hardly give it any negative energy at all.

All of a sudden, we discovered some REHAB OPTIONS that are completely covered by our provincial health insurance. And the family member is now going on her own to seek help.

Not only that, but she told the councelor that she wanted to QUIT COLD TURKEY... she did not want to withdraw gradually!

Tonight, the signals were all there for a relapse. I smiled and carried on with my evening routine. I calmly but firmly told the family member that she could NOT have any money, nor the car keys, so that she could go out and get her fix.

Normally, a MAJOR FIGHT would have broken out. Instead, tonight she quietly went off to watch TV and about an hour later she was still calm and quiet... (not 100% happy, mind you... but certainly NOT craving and bitchy)

Did I ever tell you about how I got my diagnosis of Leukemia to regress? Remind me some other time, ok?

SOGR veterans already know... IT DOESN'T MATTER what the circumstances are! Finances, Health, Relationships, etc.

*YOU* are the cause
*YOU* are the CURE!

The things you are reading, learning and hopefully, APPLYING from SOGR are SO WORTH IT!