To be honest, Don is about to find himself separated. I thought I really got through to him last night, but today he is playing the victim again.

There is only so much a person can take. I've been supportive and as loving as I can be. I told him that too.

Today, I offered a solution to our, excuse me, his financial situation. I suggested we sell our truck, which, by the way, is not running anymore and is just taking up space. I have found an opportunity that will take care of a lot of his stress. His response was, "We've got all these bills to pay and you just want me to give the money away? Then he made the oddest statement. He said he is just a dumb white boy with not even a high school education.

As soon as he said that about the bills, I thought, I'm going to have to come up with it myself.

So, dear friends, it is what I'm going to be working on. There has to be some way. I just know it. I'm so close, and I'm not going to let anything or anyone back me down or keep me from realizing my dreams. I'm sorry. That came from a competitive thought. But I have as much right to them as anyone else.

Last night, he said he resents my computer because he lost something some time ago, like six years now. Past belongs in the past. Yes. I was responsible for it, but I, most certainly, did not have any animosity towards him. I only had concern for lives involved, including his.

When does a person stop paying for mistakes they make, errors in judgment, not heart?

I feel like I'm on a roller coaster with him. Up one minute and down the next. I never know what he's going to be like, but, like I said, he seems to be getting, increasingly, angrier.

I even offered to go on down the line, but he didn't seem to want that either. I'm sorry. I've gone off on a rant, and that is not what these forums are for. All I know is I'm tired of having my heart torn out at every turn. Like I said, maybe I should start a blog.

Clairetta, so sorry to hear about this...at the moment just sending you love, light and blessings.

big hug too.

Tosca, he admitted he was being unfair and said I had gotten the brunt of his anger. He made this statement to the guys staying with us.

He told me, last night and today, if Travis doesn't come back with any money, he is going to tell him he can't carry him anymore and tell him to leave. I don't know how well that's going to go over with Travis. Obviously, he will start commanding that we remember how he's done things around here and brought in some food.

But between him and his buddy, we now hardly have any food left. We also have been told our electric has to be paid by next week or they are shutting us off. I managed, today, to pay them something to keep our electric on. We have until Monday to get this done.

I don't know how Father is going to do it, but I know He is never late. I trust Him explicitly to take care of us and our needs. I still have some things to sell. I've had interest but no real commitment yet.

Either way, I'm hanging in there. I've also started reading SOGR again. I also started reading Napolean Hill's Think and Grow Rich.

Don is feeling down, but I know something will work out. IT always does. Prayers would be welcome too.

I think Don will feel at least a little in control again if he lays the rules clearer to Travis and Co. And certainly apologizing to you is a very good step...this can only have a positive effect toward solving the problems and showing good intent (to 'the Power that Be').

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Obviously, he will start commanding that we remember how he's done things around here and brought in some food.

Well, as far as I see it this is the utter minimum a 'guest' should do. But the original intention was not to have a guest/s but a 'roommate' of sorts and Travis needs to be reminded of this. Does what he has done and the little food contributed equate to 24 hours of shelter, free use of all utilities plus most likely more food consumed than contributed? Probably not.

He needs to be reminded that although it was appreciated (what he has done so far) it doesn't pay the bills. He needs to be reminded that Don's intentions were honest ones - to help...but that neither you nor Don intended nor need a permanent house guest.

It sounds hard but from my view (from the distance) the solution is what Don intends or changing your house rules to the Italian lady's solution...that way Travis and Co. are forced to 'be out there' during the day using their creative ability to find some kind of income rather than just puttering around your home 'doing a few things around the house'. You don't need company, you need your bills paid.

I'll light a candle for you and send my thoughts.

Hi Clairetta

I don't know how I've missed you posting here, but just want to add my prayers to your situation.

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I've also started reading SOGR again. I also started reading Napolean Hill's Think and Grow Rich.

I have read Think and Grow Rich a number of times (up 'til SOGR). I enjoyed it. I am reminded of the phrase "don't change horses in the middle of the stream".

Mr. Wattles has some great "matter of fact" and certainly direct comments on this:

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Another thing. We assert that this book gives in detail the principles of the science of getting rich, and if that is true, you do not need to read any other book upon the subject. This may sound narrow and egotistical, but consider: There is no more scientific method of computation in mathematics than by addition, subtraction, multiplication, and division; no other method is possible. There can be but one shortest distance between two points. There is only one way to think scientifically, and that is to think in the way that leads by the most direct and simple route to the goal. No one has yet formulated a briefer or less complex system than the one set forth here. It has been stripped of all non essentials. When you commence on this, lay all others aside. Put them out of your mind altogether.

Read this book every day. Keep it with you. Commit it to memory, and do not think about other systems and theories. If you do, you will begin to have doubts and to be uncertain and wavering in your thought, and then you will begin to make failures. After you have made good and become rich, you may study other systems as much as you please.

Reading SOGR again is wonderful. I read a chapter a day and listen to it on CD. I have lost count how many times I have been through it. To this day, I always pick up something additional. I read or hear it differently based on my current thoughts / situations. I seem to keep uncovering more and more gold nuggets of value. Have you considered doing the PG course again?

Bold Mine:

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Originally posted by penwright1029:
He told me, last night and today, if Travis doesn't come back with any money, he is going to tell him he can't carry him anymore and tell him to leave. I don't know how well that's going to go over with Travis. Obviously, he will start commanding that we remember how he's done things around here and brought in some food.

Probably. You've thought this so therefore attracting Travis's reaction.

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But between him and his buddy, we now hardly have any food left. We also have been told our electric has to be paid by next week or they are shutting us off. I managed, today, to pay them something to keep our electric on. We have until Monday to get this done.

Your mind has been on Lack, therefore attracting more.

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I don't know how Father is going to do it, but I know He is never late. [B]I trust Him explicitly to take care of us and our needs. {/B]

Here's where your mind could have stayed focused.

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Either way, I'm hanging in there. I've also started reading SOGR again. I also started reading Napolean Hill's Think and Grow Rich.

Good. Those sources will keep your mind from lack for sure. How about adding your favorite Bible verses also.

You're in my prayers and may you be blessed with all things good,
SharonSS

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Originally posted by penwright1029:

But between him and his buddy, we now hardly have any food left. We also have been told our electric has to be paid by next week or they are shutting us off. I managed, today, to pay them something to keep our electric on. We have until Monday to get this done.

Sounds like you are repeating again what you went through at the house before you moved to where you are now. Time to take a good look a see where you are attracting the same lessons over and over again so you can step forward in your life experiences.

Thank you, Dave and Sharon. I'm kind of confused. I have one person telling me one thing, and another telling me another.

Dave, you pointed out that I should only read SOGR. And Sharon, you wrote that it's good I'm reading both SOGR and Think and Grow Rich.

In answer to your question, Dave. Yes. I have considered retaking the course. I'm not sure why I haven't yet.

Sharon, I do have verses I enjoy daily. I have a book called, God's Promises For Your Every Need. I keep it in my bathroom since it's the first place I do when I get up so I can read it on awaking.

Aa far as my focusing on lack, I don't think that is true. I am constantly saying things are going to change and they will be all right. I know they will work out. Maybe that's my problem is that I'm saying they will change?

I appreciate your help on this.

The reason I said what I did about Travis' reaction is because this has been his actions in the past, not only with us but others.

We discovered, from three very reliable resources, that he has done this, and that he has stolen from people who tell him to leave.

Now, I'm not saying he will do this to us, but it has been his behavior. So I'm going by what I know to be his actions. He has OCD also, which determines some of what he does or doesn't do.

And, no, I didn't think this. It is what I've seen and know others have too. And this information was given to us after the fact. Again, maybe I need to change my thinking on this. Either way, Don is still telling him to leave.

Back to my mind being on lack. I'm not the one who thinks this. It is Don who is always saying he never has enough for anything but bills, and then that isn't even enough.

I've spent the better part of my days blessing others and posting items we have for sale. How is it we can have people buy from us if they don't want or need what we have? Isn't it, in some way, controlling people to buy from us? This part I don't understand.

I'm just putting things out there so I can get a better understanding of what I need to do. I know reading SOGR daily is part of it, but what else can or do I need to do? I, personally, have no income.

Thanks for all of your help. I come here so I can get feedback so, not only will I know what to do, but so I can help others.

Hi Clarietta,

I'm sorry you feel confused, but when people are putting things out that may be helpful for you based on their own experience/beliefs, there is bound to be differences. What's important is what works for you!!!

I'm also sorry that I apparently put you somewhat on the defensive. However, my comments were based on your statements. I hope I'm saying this next thing correctly, but you state you're not focusing on lack, that you're constantly saying things are going to change. What works for me is not to be saying things are going to change, rather just 'being' in the present (now) with the knowledge of God's promises and with faith and let it go. I think Kate's video "In the Moment" (or something like that) says it all.

Also, my desktop is the Unity one that says, "Releasing All to God, I prepare to receive my good." I do exactly that.

From someone - me - that described myself in another post as a previous SuperPlanner, I've certainly come a long way. For me, Kate was the frosting on the cake. For others it's going through the course again. See what I mean? We all have our own Certain Way Path and it's up to us what works for each of us. Everybody has just been trying to help you in a caring way.

As far as Travis and his past is concerned, we're suppose to forgive ourselves for past transgressions/mistakes and see ourselves as perfect where we're at and not be judgmental. Remember what Christ said to the thief on the cross.

I have a grandson who just graduated from H.S. and has always been such a butt to his mother (my daughter), but I've just been sending him blessings with him surrounded with God's love, peace, and joy. God will handle it, I needn't concern myself with what Brandon has done in the past.

Hope I have helped and not made it worse.

May you be blessed with all things good,
SharonSS

Sharon, I appreciate you clearing that up for me. I'm sorry. I didn't mean to be defensive. I know what you were saying was true. Since that time, I was going through some old papers and everything I was coming across was reminding me how God is taking care of everything. It was like I was being led to read this material, one right after the other.

I talked to the power company again today. They are saying that they still want a certain amount, but I'm not concerned any more. I know it is all going to work out.

I'm aware I need to stay in the present, and I have seen that movie by Kate. I really enjoyed it and the other ones she offers. I've sent that link to people in my address book. That's how much I was impressed by it's message.

Thank you for caring enough to share what is on your heart. I am so thankful that you and others here are so caring and giving of yourselves. It's no wonder things go so well for you.

I'm going to start concentrating on my writing again. It really is my main passion, and I'm darn good at it. It's about time I started sharing my talent and gift with others. I'm sure things will turn around then. It is what I believe God wants me to do. So I owe it to Him to do what He wants, which is to give of myself and my abilities to bless others. Below is something I wrote a long time ago. I'd like to share it now.

Well, you know what? If we're always afraid to take a step forward, we'll always be running backwards, which means, not only will we not get any place, but we'll be sitting in our past with no where else to go. Clairetta Anderson 2-8-2001