This morning I went out to feed my pet chickens to find that a fox, or similar, has dug under their pen and all my chickens are “gone”. Although I’m feeling better now than I did when I first found them missing; I'm still struggling with raising my feelings... my “vibration”. I know many at this forum will understand what it’s like to hand raise animals. They become part of you... almost family.

Although this is the catalyst for me writing this post it’s not my topic. While struggling with not falling into an old familiar pattern of depression and despair; I remained very aware of the teachings I've gained from this site, as well as, the huge number of books, CD’s etc I've now read on the subject of law of attraction. Ironically, the book I was reading this morning said “holding a better feeling vibration is often easier said than done”. As I sit here despondent within my recent loss, I have been searching without ceasing to grab onto everything and anything to help raise my vibration. The irony continues in that one of my “feel good” activities was to sit and just watch my chickens doing what chickens do.

My question for the forum is this: what do you do in those moments where you’re feeling “not happy”? What do you do to raise your “vibration”? What works for you when things just aren’t going “according to plan”? I’m certain you know what I mean.

Remaining teachable,

Phil.

PS: apologies; I understand this question has probably been asked in the forum before it’s just where I'm at today. Hope you understand.

Phil.

Phil, two things.
First, it would be abnormal to be happy hi ho in your situation. Allow yourself some space to grieve.

Here's what I do when I want to feel better. I seek input that lifts my spirit. A mail from tut.com, some good music, and when I feel really bad, I just increase the dosage. My positive diet has worked for me in the past and I have a good collection of positive thoughts, online and offline.

Take good care of yourself. Times like these, are good times to be a bit "selfish".

God bless you,

Caroline
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Thanks Caroline.

Yes, I did forget that grieving is a normal and natural emotion. Seems stupid though grieving over some silly little farmyard animals. I have a friend that says her cats are her children. Today I have a greater understanding of what she’s saying.

A public thank you to my friend Jennifer. Without your numerous text messages, yesterday would have been a whole lot longer.

Worth a thought: Feeling like poo is not a place any of us wants to be but sometimes “stuff-happens” and we find ourselves flat on our backs... again. Equipped with the new strategies and beliefs I've learned as a direct result of my “stumbling” upon this site, I was able to remain mindful and refused to tumble headfirst into that old familiar bottomless black pit of despair. I believe in my heart of hearts that I will never again suffer from depression.

As I continue on my never ending journey to the centre of myself I just want to finish by saying the philosophy of SOGR and The Law of Attraction really does have the potential to change people’s lives.

I remain teachable.

Phil.

Hi Phil,

quote:

As I continue on my never ending journey to the centre of myself I just want to finish by saying the philosophy of SOGR and The Law of Attraction really does have the potential to change people’s lives.

I can attest that SOGR is an exact science; not only does it have the potential to changes people's lives but if the principles in the book by Wally and the course by Rebecca people's lives WILL be changed!

BTW; I love animals also; take your time to greave their loss.

Hi Phil,

I am sorry to hear about your chickens. There is nothing wrong with feeling warmly towards animals and they gave you a lot of pleasure.

I find gratitude helps. I can't say my reaction to adversity is to thank the universe for that .... maybe some day. But, it does help to be grateful for all the good things the chickens gave you and that you had that in your life....and to remember that is why you feel the loss so keenly now.

I am reminded of a movie about C.S.Lewis called Shadowlands. His wife, who was a friend and reader,and he married to let her stay in England (she was American) became very sick with cancer. He moved her from her place in London with her little son, into his house in the country that he shared with his brother. He was falling in love with her but was afraid because she was dying. He was afraid of getting close because he was anticipating the loss to come. In the movie she said they are wrapped up together. The loss is more painful if you give your heart fully, but if you don't out of fear then you don't experience the love fully. I have always remembered that.

So, good for you that you had an loved and appreciated some beautiful creatures. OK there is always a risk that a fox will come, and he has to eat too, but this hasn't prevented you from enjoying the bond.

In my more enlightened moments with shocks and difficulties I observe and that can help also. I say to myself - interesting....let's see how long this pain lasts and where it goes in the body.... let's see what else comes after that - usually something happy and wonderous and often something we never thought of. (I have to say this is rare for me too and I instead fall into despair - only human).

Be gentle with yourself, talk to friends, watch soft and inspiring movies, have a bath or a massage ....all those things we need while grieving.

I am sending you much love and support.
Pauline

Lots of love from me too. Chickens are indeed beautiful creatures. As a child, I used to observe them for hours, and sometimes I'd go in the coop and pet them. I loved all the neat sounds they'd make and the way they look at you out of one eye while they clucked and jerked their heads. And they eat almost anything-I loved to watch them peck. My CMI is to have chickens again-they don't allow them where I live, so the next house we buy we'll build a coop after this one sells.

Animals are our friends,in my experience, mine have given me so much love and comfort over the years. Why wouldn't one grieve? It's really cool that humans are realizing that chickens and other farm animals deserve love and respect too, and now you can buy (at least here in the US) free range eggs and meat.

Ditto what Pauline said too, especially being good to your self while grieving.

Much love,
Julia

Hi Paul,

Grieve, cry, kick, scream what ever comes up. I totally understand the sadness you have felt with your little animals. I feel the same way with doggies.

I also had a pig, named Princess, for a while. I just loved how she mimicked the dogs, including running to the fence and barking.

Being enlightened doesn't mean we don't grieve. We just grieve for different reasons. For example, if someone passes in my life I grieve because I will miss them not because I am devastated or have some unfinished business or some hidden fears about them being gone.

I do not try to force myself to feel happy. I allow myself to cry with these experiences.

Appreciation from the Heart,

Richard De Haven