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Originally posted by annievt:
But kissing nice smelling men isn't gonna bring wealth. Darn.

Annie,
As always, your entire post is interesting to me. But I'm going to focus on this part because it's the most obvious.

There is an entire class of women who believe (and in their case, sort of rightly) that "kissing nice smelling men" is the ONLY thing that will bring them wealth.

I'm not suggesting that you become a gold digger. I'm just pointing out that you are automatically assuming that it's not possible, when it most demonstrably and clearly IS possible. Is this how you live your whole life? (I want to insert here that I am NOT suggesting that you use men as your path to wealth. I don't think that type of manipulation is compatible with SOGR. Plus, YOU have so many issues with relationships that I'm sure you hate the idea anyway. Please don't think I'm recommending anything of the kind. I am suggesting that the automatic reactions of "can't, won't, shouldn't, wouldn't," whatever are SELF limitations -- not ultimate truths.)

This is what people mean by having faith: It means allowing possibilities to exist in your mind. Start with the idea "what if?" Never mind that what popped into your mind is impossible impractical or ridiculous. What if it could happen anyway?

I imagine that wonderful opportunities present themselves in your life every day. You just don't see them because you are so sure that what you want is out of reach. You're not even looking.

The only way this SOGR stuff works is if we are less attached to our idea of what's possible than we are to our CMIs. Argue for your limitations and you get to keep them. Most of us don't think that's such a great bargain. That's why we're here.

You deserve to have all that you want and need RIGHT NOW. The only thing you have to do is pull it to you with good feelings (joy is power) then reach... out... and... take it.

Love and blessings,
Rachel

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Originally posted by Phil:
I think of this A-H quote in this regard:

“This is what we see as an ideal relationship: Someone who has a majority of things (especially inner attitudes and/or ways of being) that I easily feel at ease with. Things I like. Not someone who satisfies me on every single level because expansion is fun, but someone with whom I can easily be comfortable. Someone, who like me, understands that they are an expanding being, who is eager about life, and eager about expanding and willing to keep up with who they are becoming.”


Phil

Unfortunately, that's not my relationship. Mine is nothing but clash. I am always wanting to expand, learn new things and grow, but my partner is content to remain the same and focus on the past. She requires so much attention that I can't even get five minutes to think about what I want to do, should do or need to do to improve our lives. Even if I go out of the room, to try and have a moment, she follows me.

When we lived in a house with a bunch of other people, it was not like this, probably because she could spend plenty of time hanging with the other people there. Unfortunately, because of clashes with some of those people, she was always under heavy stress and wanted to leave. Life was easy for me there.

She can't understand my thinking. She can't fathom how I can "let people be." If she sees someone saying or doing something she considers "wrong" she has to fix it, or fix them. Thus she wants me to be confrontational, she wants me to be argumentative, and no matter how much I try to explain that life will be easier if we just allow those people to be who they are, and grow in their own way, she can't see that. So we clash and clash and clash.

If I was in my right mind, I would never have gotten into any relationship in the first place. Now I know that. There's plenty of time for that after I reach some of my goals. I'd rather be alone, and spend the next ten years creating an awesome body of work, and building my fortune, before I worry about relationships again. Right now, they take far too much time and energy and I'm not getting anything done.

Also, if outer circumstances have nothing to do with out happiness, then I don't need a relationship to be happy. I thought I did at the time, but that was a mistake.

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Also, if outer circumstances have nothing to do with out happiness, then I don't need a relationship to be happy.

That’s kinda funny to me, because, I think you’ve read quite a few of my posts, and I have been saying this, month after month, in one way or another, for at least the last FOUR YEARS.

“We create our own heaven or hell. Your thoughts can imprison you or set you free. Complications, conditions or people do not upset you, but the way you think about them causes your upset. Freedom is not possible until we discipline and retrain our minds.” - p. 124 of Choose To Live Peacefully by Susan Smith Jones, Ph.D.

“If you say, “I just can’t help the way I feel,” you will only make yourself a victim of your misery ~ and you’ll be fooling yourself, because you can change the way you feel.
If you want to feel better, you must realize that your thoughts and attitudes--not external events--create your feelings. You can learn to change the way your think, feel, and behave in the here-and-now.” - from The Feeling Good Handbook by Dr. David Burns

“When you feel frustrated or upset by a person or a situation, remember that you are not reacting to the person or the situation, but to your feelings [beliefs] about the person or the situation.” - from The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success by Deepak Chopra

“Other people can neither make us miserable nor make us happy.” - p.3 of Choice Theory by William Glasser, M.D.

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If I was in my right mind, I would never have gotten into any relationship in the first place.

I disagree. I believe, if you were in your right mind, you would have still gotten into relationships. You would have just gotten into more fulfilling ones, where you are both independently happy, and when you got together (whether it’s with an intimate relationship, or a social, business or other relationship) it would simply be mostly two or more happy people getting together, sharing their happinesses and interests.

To me, this all kind of gives new meaning to the title of this thread:

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Could I be missing something?

Also, btw, though I've known about this for years, I invariably 'forget' every single day, at least a few times. Everyday, things will occur and I'll lose my calm, and then remind myself, it's all only my thoughts about what's occurring.

Phil

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Originally posted by Phil:

Also, btw, though I've known about this for years, I invariably 'forget' every single day, at least a few times. Everyday, things will occur and I'll lose my calm, and then remind myself, it's all only my thoughts about what's occurring.

Phil

I remember reading somewhere it said that relationships are a chance for us to become more self aware. I have been trying to use that for some time now. When something happens that upsets, or would upset me, I use it as an opportunity to reflect on what I am thinking or judging that causes that feeling, and then take the time to consider the contrast of the vision and life I am wanting.

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When something happens that upsets, or would upset me,...

May I suggest, notice how you put things.

Nothing another person does (or some circumstance or event) ever upsets us. It's only how we think about things that causes us to get upset.

Why do I think this matters SO much? Because of thoughts like the following:

"The Universe responds to how we feel." Esther Hicks

"Feeling is the secret." Neville Goddard

Btw, with regards to getting to Japan, I believe Neville would say, imagine some event that would happen 'after the fact' that would mean you have accomplished your goal (you are in Japan) in the way you WANT it to happen (peacefully, happily, etc.).

Then, make that imaginary experience so real you can feel it as if it were real. And then, just assume the 'easy' happy feeling as you go about living your life in the mean time,
allowing' the details for it to come about and/or come to you. This is how we can cause such things to come about.

"What I am most happy about is that I can zero in on a vision of where I want to be in the future. I can see it so clearly in front of me when I daydream that it's almost a reality. Then I get this easy feeling, and I don't have to be uptight to get there because I already feel like I'm there, that it's just a matter of time." Arnold Schwarzenegger

“Your part is to intelligently formulate your desire for the things which make for a larger life and to get these desires arranged into a coherent whole, and then to impress the whole desire upon the formless substance which has the power and the will to bring you what you want.” Wallace Wattles, in Chapter 8 of the Science of Getting Rich

"Enter into the joy of the answered prayer and your wish, idea or desire will become God's will, which is the consciousness of having or being what you long to be or possess. This is the consciousness of conviction, which manifests itself in your world as a condition, experience or event." - Joseph Murphy in ‘Traveling With God’1956

“The important thing is that you actively put yourself in the vibration you must for your desired outcome to be created.” - Multimillionaire John Assaraf, from p. 168 of his book ‘The Street Kid’s Guide To Having It All’

“All you have to do is get into vibrational harmony with your desire, and your desire must be given to you - and the Universe will find endless ways of bringing it to you.” Abraham-Hicks

“In order to obtain what we want,... we must continuously and persistently affirm our oneness with the thing we want.” - from ‘How To Attract Success’ by F. W. Sears, written in 1914

Phil

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Originally posted by Rachel:

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Originally posted by annievt:
But kissing nice smelling men isn't gonna bring wealth. Darn.

There is an entire class of women who believe (and in their case, sort of rightly) that "kissing nice smelling men" is the ONLY thing that will bring them wealth.

I'm not suggesting that you become a gold digger. (I want to insert here that I am NOT suggesting that you use men as your path to wealth. I don't think that type of manipulation is compatible with SOGR.
Rachel

Rachel, there is an assumption on your part that women who think the only path to wealth is nice smelling men, are gold diggers. That may (and often is) or may not be true. And it is not necessarily incompatible with SOGR.

In fact, with the exception of relationship issues, it seems very compatible with the rest of Annie's CMI. I mean if a young or old woman wants to live a life of leisure the easiest way possible, why not create a CMI with the perfect man with money? Sounds compatible to me.

I stand corrected.

Rachel

i am missing something and i'm not sure what is is. i have read the Abraham -Hicks and watched, listend to and read The Secret. I visualize and talk out loud and write and yet i am still missing the point. granted i just joine d here and have not yet learned enough to reply constructivly, except to tell that i have kissed many good smelling men that actually stunk!! I am coming around to being happy alone, and interestingly enough I have spent most of my adult life living alone. At this juncture I would probably regret taking on a relationship not being fully who I want me to be.

dwinnemmen, welcome to the forum!

Isn't it wonderful that we do not have to kiss any men unless we choose to? And we can still be filled with joy and happiness

You came to the right place, so toss all those worries out of the window. You won't need them anymore. Unless you enjoy worrying, of course.

I don't know if you joined the Practical Geniuses Online Course yet, if not, I highly recommend it because it is very helpful in how to apply all the wisdom of the Science Of Getting Rich into your own life.

And if by any chance, you want to change your mind about kissing men, ha! that is allowed

God bless you,

Caroline
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