Hi to all,

Its been sometime since I posted here; I have always had situations with my team at office not being supportive / at times, no team to support our objectives!. I am including this in my CMI; just wanted to know if anyone has done this in the past? Just for some encouragement.
Thanks!

No I have not, Shashi, but what a fabulous idea!

(Caroline puts it in her pocket and runs away with it...)

God bless you,

Caroline
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Welcome to the forum, you will enjoy it here!

I always give thanks for having a very supportive team at work, my bosses, my fellow managers and my team of staff. And also for having great customers.

I love the people that I work with and they are totally supportive of me in everything I do. I really couldn't ask for better bosses! I never use to think like that, I saw the unsupportive, pain in the neck side of them and they behaved as per my thoughts about them. I now enjoy going to work because I like working with them so much!

So yes, its a fabulous idea and it works!

Look forward to hearing your results!

Shannon

Shannon,

So you are saying that once you changed your perceptions about them then there attitudes changed?

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So you are saying that once you changed your perceptions about them then there attitudes changed?

Maybe once your perception changes, your attitude, energy, and interactions with them shift which in turn causes them to react differently toward you.

Think about it.

How does it make you feel if someone is rude toward you? How does that cause you to react?

Now if that same person treated you with kindness and Joy, how would that cause you to react?

Appreciation from the Heart,

Richard De Haven

Years ago I worked in a job where we had a departmental manager whom most people loathed. And in truth his behaviour wasn't great and he used his large size (height and large build) to intimidate.

I didn't like him any more than anyone else did, but I did do something a little different from most of the others. I was polite to him and treated him as I wanted to be treated. I've always tried to do that (can't say hand on heart that i've always achieved it ) and I most certainly didn't expect any particular treatment from him. Well, of course I wasn't expecting success but actually I achieved success of sorts because he never gave me a moment's bother. On the one occasion when he took my name in vain I just went to see him quietly and asked what had happened. He just apologised - my colleagues were flabberghasted. So yes, I do think that if we watch how we think of people, it changes our behaviour towards them - and they respond to that.

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Originally posted by CaptJack:
Shannon,

So you are saying that once you changed your perceptions about them then there attitudes changed?

No, just my attitude! I don't pretend to know exactly how this stuff works, I don't think anyone I work with has changed in anyway attitude or behaviour wise, those good traits were always there in them and my job, I just chose not to look in that direction.

Shannon

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How does it make you feel if someone is rude toward you? How does that cause you to react?

Now if that same person treated you with kindness and Joy, how would that cause you to react?

Ah, Richard, I see what you're getting at, AND neither of these actions by another would cause you to react in any way at all. That would be YOUR job.

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AND neither of these actions by another would cause you to react in any way at all. That would be YOUR job.

I concur 100 percent. As I have learned that we are 100 percent responsible for how we react. We can feel joy or feel hurt only by our own thoughts.

Maybe another word to use instead of cause is Motivate or Influence or inspire. Let me ask the questions again and see if that creates a different way of seeing it.

How does it make you feel if someone is rude toward you? How does that motivate or inspire you to react?

Now if that same person treated you with kindness and Joy, how would that motivate or inspire you to react?

One point I am trying to make is a Loving thought inspires Love in others. We still have a choice in how any of us react but the inspiration for love has been set in motion. It has the opportunity to extend itself.

The other point, hopefully, as we grow and learn we realize that both questions should lead to the same reaction. Both questions should inspire Love.

I like exploring these ideas. Thanks Rebecca.

Appreciation from the Heart,

Richard De Haven

Actually, I like the aloneness of this process more and more. I can't influence others to behave the way I want...and I am very specific about the way I want to be treated. LOL...all this time I've been bitching about wanting to be alone, and it turns out thats what it really comes down to. Personal responsibility for your feelings and reactions is an alone thing.

I am alone with me feelings everywhere I go.

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Originally posted by CaptJack:
Shannon,

So you are saying that once you changed your perceptions about them then there attitudes changed?

Over and over again I’ve experienced that when I changed how I perceived people their behavior towards me changed. When my thoughts about them became kinder, they became kinder.

“All of our relationships are a mirror of our own relationship with ourselves; thus spirituality becomes the source of loving one another as God loves us.”
Don Fisher, Director of Life’s Journey

“You must learn to get in touch with the innermost essence of your being. This true essence is beyond the ego. It is fearless; it is free; it is immune to criticism; it does not fear any challenge. It is beneath no one, superior to no one, and full of magic, mystery, and enchantment.
Access to your true essence will also give you insight into the mirror of relationship, because all relationship is a reflection of your relationship with yourself.” from The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success by Deepak Chopra

“When we see men of worth, we should think of equaling them; when we see men of a contrary character, we should turn inward and examine ourselves.” - Confucius

"Any situation that you find yourself in is an outward reflection of your inner state of beingness." -- El Morya

“Life helps us out. Unconsciously, each of us projects our unconscious attributes, fears and wounding onto other people and things. This lets us see our own invisible, repressed programs so we can take ownership of them. For example, if we get upset because someone has deceived us, we can ask how we are deceiving ourselves [or how we are deceiving others].

What typically upsets you? Ask yourself how what is happening externally mirrors what is going on within you. Resolve your inner situation and the outer manifestations will no longer bother you.” -- Author Unknown, from The Inner Journey - higherawareness.com

Capt, I suggest you try reading Rebecca’s 1-18-10 3:15pm post again. It happened to her also. About halfway down this link:

A Rebecca Story

We Reap What We Sow

Phil

One of my Christmas presents was a little 'one a day' tear off calendar, with a quote for each day. Today's quote is:

"We don't see things as they are. We see them as we are" Anais Nin.

I'm keeping that one!

Thanks to everybody for your wonderful replies and observations. would like to say that I have been given some resources on a temp basis! I 'saw' them and they 'appeared' .. Yay!! I love my life!! I would like to add my fav quote - don remember where I read it - Believing is seeing

Congratulations, Shashi_CA! Wonderful!