I recently received the book last week. So I am new in the forum.
First: Sorry for my english, I am and live in Bogota, Colombia.
Next: My hopes with the book and this community:
To be short, I have did in my life according with what I belived were my choices.
But, five years ago, (I own a small factory of products to construction industry), I started working supplying goods to a big (multinational)corporate in that field because of an ex mate of mine from one post study in a college here, high executive there.

Althought there were not a romantic involve with him, better he adopts a brotherly attitude, along with the increasing working, the issues with them were toward an alliance, supported for long meetings that never went to any written contract.
The important for that conversations, was some exclusive relationship (both ways). Of course, while time past, besides the works grew, I lost all contact with those other companies.

Maybe, some of yours can think what happened. They took all our Know-How, offered job to my people working there and stop buying. It was two years ago.

Althought I said I could overcome that with a good image and hard working, my attitude was to being complaining all day, start hatting everybody there, spend complete days blaming them and myself, so I could not get in the market on time. After that my incomes were down, bills got unpaid, good people retired, overwork grew and money lacked.

Unless i still have the factory, i can say I am already in bankrupcy. As you can see, althought i know the mistakes, I still spend time in talking about and enjoy being a victim.

I am highly compromise to change all of that. I took an overreading of the book and know i started reading it slow and doing all. I Know i should not blame any one else, I took me where i am and only i could end in a better way. I hope i could controle my mind.

Bye and wish me luck.

M.

Dear Rebecca:

Maybe the way to express Caroline´s idea was somehow wrong, but sometimes, when someone sympatices with you, someone that understands your feelings and your problems, gives you some relief. Maybe you can think that al least you are not that silly in letting that those things happened to you, because I think that no one do anything to you, but what you let them to.

Anyway, I thanks Caroline for her intention and to you, because your message is again and with good reason, NOT TO FOCCUS IN THOSE THINGS. The right advise, of course.

The problem is that their consecuences are here rigth now and I have to deal with them, unless I would not like even thinking of them.

Thanks again, bye,

ML.

Oops! you are right, Rebecca. Old habits

So many good lessons from this experience.
How paper can be good especially in business dealings.

My recent "bad" was that I "lost my job". Actually, I could have stayed a bit longer but I decided to take myself away from a lose-lose situation. And one month later, I found something new to do. I enjoy doing it. And am making money with it.

And last week, I got another idea about an extra source of income that I can put back into action. The new thought was, you know what? I do not EVER want to be anyone's employee again. Exploring new territory

Entrepreneur Caroline
Have You Watched The Video?

quote:

I am sorry that these bad things happened to you and your company.

Nothing bad has happened!

(And I know you know that, Caroline. It's just that we've all been so well trained to "sympathize" -- which usually means to AGREE with someone focusing on what's NOT wanted.)

We just stop to "take stock" too soon most of the time and call something bad (and "It's Nothing at All 'til We Call It").

But think of all the times we later say, "Oh, that turned out to be such a blessing. That turned out to be one of the best things that ever happened to me."

So knowing how often THAT happens (ALL the time, if we let it), we can choose NOW NOT to think of it as bad. Just unfinished.

Let's hold THAT kind of vision for each other and not EVER agree that anything bad has happened. It's just too soon to call it.

M. Lucia,

Welcome to the forum! I am sorry that these bad things happened to you and your company.
But I am happy that you are here and learning the good lessons.

Time and language may be a challenge but with strong will, I know you can do it.

Blessings to you and your successful future!

Caroline
Have You Watched The Video?

Thanks again for your comments and the resources you sent to me. My problem to follow all this useful things are time and lenguaje.

Time, because at work unless the current things, I have to do the work that before were doing a few people.

And lenguaje, because I read very slow and several times to get the right idea.

So I have not read all the material yet.

Thanks again.

M. Lucia

Greetings M. Lucia,
I appreciate your efforts and I am grateful for this chance to share on this wonderful forum:

- we gradually form a new thinking habit, in minimum 21-30 days, by repetition, involving emotions - feelings; replacing old bad habits with new, prosperous SOGR habits, do slowly all SOGR PG lessons & exercises, and redo them again slowly! ...

- keep good company only, be very selective, surrounding yourself with successful SOGR friends, don't complain becase that way you only attract more crap (being a crap magnet ... )

PS: I did send you, with private message, resources regarding subconscious mind & autosugestion, enjoy! ...

I want to thank the advises I received. How difficult is it to stop the tape (the inner one!)
At this time I think I almost do not think in my past issues. But while trying to not to do, I counted down how many times that took my thoughts in a day, before i noticed. Saturday it was almost 15 times. Imagine, if that is when I think I almost did not, how was it 2 years ago, when I know that was my favorite talk and think.

I know that keep those thoughts out is the most difficult, because besides, they are joined with the financial concerns, which right now I have to manage all day.

M.L.

A Warm Welcome M. Lucia,

Thanks for sharing, as we learn a lot from each other. I would kindly suggest also doing and re-doing SOGR PG Course & Lessons.

As you over-think, re-live and rotate the same
drama with strong feelings & emotions over and over again in your mind, you simply attract more of that, it's on automatic pilot, the law of attraction at work all the time ...

so, relax and STOP, with this wonderful forum's help, support, suggestions plus SOGR PG Course & Lessons you will gradually change your old inner self-talk to Much Better! ...

Break the sad thinking pattern, laugh more,
do what you really enjoy,

can you, will you? ...

Hi M Lucia:
I completely understand how you feel, I went through a similar situation and I was angry, dissapointed, felt guilty and all of those negative emotions, but as you did I found Wally and Rebecca and things are looking a lot better, I recomend you take the course becuse it will help you to understand the book a lot better, start acting the certain way and things will change and good things are going to start happening, let the anger go, you had a succesful business once you can do it again, they say is like riding a bike you never forget. Be grateful for every moment and I can assure you this happen to you to open a new horizon in your life, you may no see it now but you will.
You are in the right track, you found this site.

Good luck and lots of love to you

Luz Maria