I would like to rid all of my thoughts of poverty. my qustion is were should I hang out,what should I read, what t. v. shows should I watch. WHAT SHOULD I DO. I want to change but how?

Hi Marvin,
I am sure you will get a lot of advise from very good people on your post.

Here is my advise in short:

- Relax and start the course.

- Read the posts, don't judge what you see, soak it up. Most of it you will understand in time.

- As you go ahead with your studies you will change and consequently / automatically, your current "friends" will fade out of your life and wealthy people will be attracted to you. (There might be a time where you might say "I don't have anymore friends", but that is (has been for me) a positive experience, because you do not have to worry about how to "get rid" of those people who "hold you back", who keep you involved in thinking and talking what you want to change.

- Go window-shopping at "expensive" stores and restaurants and don't judge the price-labels as "too expensive", acknowledge that good stuff has it's price and say to yourself: "that's mine, I just don't want it right now, I'll come back. Never think or say "that is too expensive", say instead "I don't want to spend that money right now, I have other priorities for now" or so.

- Go to car-dealers (dress appropriate) look at expensive cars and even ask for a testdrive, because you are in the process of finding the ideal car for you. That is not a lie, because we always are, aren't we? Dress properly and talk totally relaxed, and never ask for the price, like that is absolutely un-important for you, don't engage in discussion about financing-terms, ask for all extras etc., it's best you don't talk too much. You will find that the sales-staff treats you with utmost respect. Say thank you and leave, give them the expression that you are comparing and have all the time in the world with your decision. If they offer you a phantastic price if you decide immediately, let them know that you want the best car for you, not a bargain. (I just did that with Lexus and it was a great experience). (I really believed it myself).

- If you have exclusive Hotels around, go there and spend time in the lobby, as if you were a guest. Nobody will bother you. If somebody asks you if he/she can assist you, say nicely "no thank you". Sit there and watch "rich" people. Try to pretent you are one of them. (I do that all the time, there is no expereince greater than having afternoon tea in the Ritz Carlton!) Go to the bathroom, wash your hands and let the attendant hand you a towel. Be grateful, thank with a smile and don't talk.

- Stop reading the newspaper, stop watching the news on TV, if possible do not watch any TV (except Oprah). What you can do is watch the Golf-Channel or the US-Open for Tennis and feel like one of the winners. (Never judge or comment, just watch).

- Read the book "The Science of getting rich" over and over and let your imagination run wild. Dream! If there are no places around you where you see rich stuff going on, just build it up in your imagination.

- When you see rich people, DO NOT ENVY, bless them and be happy and grateful that they have what they want, be happy for them. If you feel like they are arrogant or so, realize that that is envy and think how you would feel if you were rich and poor people would not like you. We all want to be loved, right? Actually when you are further down this road it does not matter to you anymore if other people like you. You will like you, and that is what counts. A by-product of your "self-love" is that you do not give anybody any reason for not liking you.

That should be enough for today, when you have accomplished these tasks, come back and you'll get more homework.

By the way, I am blessed to live in a "Boating Community" on the Golf of Mexico. When I feel "kind of depressed", I go to the yacht-harbour and sit on the terrace of the clubhouse-restaurant with a cup of coffee or a beer and feel like belonging there. I pick out a yacht which I like and pretend it is mine and feel how other people around me admire me for being such a rich guy. (When I see a yacht or a car which I like, I envision myself in it, while it passes by).

Oh, before I forget: ALWAYS dress as if you are about to get the Nobel-Price in 5 Minutes. Also when you spend a day at home and don't expect visitors. It is of most importance to maintain a feeling (and knowing) of self-worth. You see yourself in the mirror and think, "this guy, not shaved, cheap T-shirt, ugly pants (even if they are your favorite because they are so soft and cosy and barefeet - is really a poor guy!" YOU HAVE TO CONVINCE YOURSELF THAT YOU ARE RICH BEFORE OTHERS CAN SEE IT!!!!!

(I have a homebased business and I am attempted to shave only on Sundays and I had a pair of those terrible ugly pants, which already had two holes and I loved it. [Nobody would see me in my office]. My wife refused to wash or iron it and many times I had to save it from being disposed to the trash. I finally made this important decision in early December to shave and properly dress every day, as if it were the most important day in my life. You cannot believe what a difference that makes in my feeling of being worthy, liked and needed in the world. When answering the phone my voice sounds much more energetic, my face looks so much brighter that I see my smile refelcted in the face of my wife).

Blessings on your way,
Horst

Wow Horst, what an awesome reply! A great summary of doing things in a Certain Way, and great suggestions.
Thanks Marvin for asking such a good question.

David G.

Horst--

Very interesting assignments you've given. I agree whole-heartedly about refraining from judging yourself or others when you encounter wealth. This seems key.

My own process has been a bit different. I've been spending the time with myself and a notebook, trying on new attitudes and emotions mentally. For example, the pattern uptilnow has been of canceling appointments and staying in bed. So I've been trying on the thoughts "I am trustworthy, responsible, and more than fill my present place--I am worthy." I don't repeat this mindlessly, but affirm it, and pause to hear what my brain says in response. It's like a conversation starter. I've uncovered and brought to the light several objections (obstacles) I've had, and feel I've made some real headway. I feel like if I can occupy the space in my imagination, then life catches up naturally later.

Your process is similar, come to think of it, but you use "acting" as well as "imagining." I think part of the reason I felt compelled to respond to your message was that I don't see myself as ever acting like a stereotypical rich person. I don't see myself on a yacht, or driving luxury automobiles, or wearing super fancy clothes. I don't think it's bad or wrong, it's simply not part of my value system. With all the money in the world, I don't think I'd be too tempted to do these things. But I recognize that your system does have a lesson I need to learn. I still do look at things I would like--books, say, or pieces of art--and class them as "too expensive." That is something I need to rethink.

Anyway, thanks for the challenge. I'll wrap my mind around it some more and see what I come up with.

Blessings.

Ilana

Good Morning Ilana,
the way you decribe did not work for me because of a)mentalk lazyness and b) because I had problems to be alone with me, to connect to the still place within me, to hear the small voice within me, to get connected to intution. That has changed now. But before I had to act, to get out of my dark-cloud feeling.

Anyway, I think a good mixture is the best receipe. Bobbie woke me up before Christmas and urged me to put the books aside and to go out. I did it before and it helped, so it helped now.

That Yacht-thing, you know, I really don't think I would spend some of my millions for a yacht myself, I would let friends invite me instead. I only use this to get boldly into a different state of mind. I went to a Rolls Royce dealer and placed myself into a Rolls Royce. I loved it. I told the dealer that I did not like this color and he should keep me informed about new delivereies. The result is that I am now on the mailing list of Bentley / Rolls Royce and they send me the expensive Life-style-magazines where all the luxurious stuff is in about clothing, awsome vacations, best hotels etc. I soak it up as I were one of "them". I have a good excuse why I cannot buy a Rolls Royce now, my garage is too small and I don't want that toy in my driveway. So I go to builders showcases and check out the real big houses. I talk to the builders about needing enough guest-rooms and an office with a seperate entrance and a maids-quarter etc. My wife dismisses all the kitchens. Then we go home and envision our own dreamhome, based on what we have seen. When finally the money rolls in, we know what we are going to do with it and what not. We do not have to waste any of it in when trying things out to find the way we don't want.

I believe that is acting in the certain way. Doing things as I were already rich.
Rebecca said in one LL that once she had the money she went to a mall in Montreal and did not feel the need to spend any of it. That is where I will be when the money comes, because I have felt the first excitement long before the cash arrived.

Have a wonderful Sunday,
Horst

Yes! Llana and Horst,

Thanks for sharing your wonderful experiences! So the suggestion about taking a stroll thru the mall with $? in your pocket ....to "be" was not a mere suggestion? Wow! Thats really interesting and would be rather entertaining as well! Gosh, I would love to do just that, go to the dealerships and go to the fancy hotels, go to the homes being built...

And the mental excercises, Llana, that you defined, I want to do. I have had those times when I would stop long enough to reflect and see whatever came up and found it rather enlightening.
But I hadn't done it "consciously or intentionally.." as you have. Thanks for sharing that.

I will utilize both of these experiences. I do see that the more difficult, uptilnow, would have been the store visits...

Thanks again, you guys/gals are DYNAMIC!
Helen