I've read the book many times. I believe everything in this book is true, and it can only help me to be a better person. But I have a question that been on my mind. How do I receive negative statement from coworkers? Do I just let it go or can is say so thing smart back and not feel bad about it? I know that if I'm asking this question it means that I'm not understanding all of the book. Please help!!!

Thank You!! I am so grateful for everyone and everything.

KB

How do I receive negative statement from coworkers? tell them too go eat grass !!!!
not really if all the people beleived all things there would be no wars,murder so on.
I keep this to myself. most of who you come in contact with already have a mind-set they are happy with.
( the mind control of the common church )
I will only share tid-bits with anyone if they act as if they like it. I will share again.
I show by my action not my words.
Besides who give's a crap what someone else thinks ! keep up with your work here and leave them too their own pile of robot speak your free of that now.
now you can think for yourself you are no longer told what too think.who to pray to,
this is an old way of thinking,it is crust that YOU no longer have,
LIKE I SAID KEEP IT TO YOUR SELF
let them wonder at your new found freedom

Dear KB,

Good question regarding a problem that just about everyone studying these principles encounters sooner or later. The key, I think, is just to remind yourself inwardly that whatever truth someone else may be speaking is not your truth and you don't accept it. If you walk outside, umbrella in hand, and it begins to rain, you simply open the umbrella and you are instantly protected from getting wet.

Compare the principles you are learning in SOGR to an umbrella. Just because others are raining negativity down on you, doesn't mean you have to get wet. Open up the umbrella of positive truths and tell yourself silently that just because they are saying it, doesn't mean you have to accept it, and then as gracefully and as unpretentiously as possible, make your exit.

You don't have to say a word, and you certainly do not have to argue against others negative remarks. When it is raining, you don't open up the umbrella and then start shouting about how it is protecting you and arguing that your umbrella is stronger and better than the rain. You simply open it up and go on with your tasks knowing you are protected. Do the same by opening up your mind to the principles you know. You can do this without opening your mouth.

The one thing as a new member that you may not realize yet, is that the negative people around you are there because you have drawn them there through your previous thinking. As your inner vibration changes and clears, these negative party-poopers will no longer be attracted to you, at least when they are in a negative mindset, and so you will experience less and less negativity around you as you go stronger in your new beliefs.

If you adhere to the teachings you find in SOGR and persist in making certain that the dominant trend of your thinking is upon that which is good, and beautiful and abundant, then within a very short time that which is good and beautiful and abundant will be that which comes to you, and all else will be like chaff that just drops away in the refinement process.

In the beginning, however, just remember that no matter what anyone says, it is your choice as to whether or not you join in.

My two scents: (lemongrass and rosemary) :-)

Bliss and blessings,

Kate

Kate and Earl, wonderful posts as always {{hugs}}

I'd just like to add something, because it's been my experience today. I find SOGR is a bit of an up and down experience. You do the work, you start to see results, then .... WOOMPH! something happens and you feel like you're back at square one. Today, I've had a lot of negativity, including a loooong phone call with someone telling me there's no work around (she does the same sort of thing as me), everyone wants low prices and nothing else, etc. I realised that this happened because I was feeling tired and rather worried about putting in a proposal for some business - with a realistic price tag on it.

So I have reframed today - when these things happen now, I tell myself it's just that another layer is being peeled away and if I change my 'normal' reaction to it, then that is efficient action. So don't feel bad if things look like they are going wrong - as Rebecca says, they are just going. You are not back at square one, you are just being given a chance to change your thinking!

Kate, as ever I loved your post!

Dear Cal,

I loved your post, too. You go girl!

Blissful blessings galore,

Kate

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Hi KB,
I agree with all that has been said in previous posts. Great posts everyone!

I just wanted to add one more thing; when people are being negative, it is usually about them and not you. They are afraid, frustrated, feeling down or any other negative emotion they're going through.

You know who you are and what your belief system is. I would just smile to my coworker and say nothing then go on about my business.
They will think twice before being negative again since you did not give them the reaction they expected and eventually they will stop.

All teh best.

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I find SOGR is a bit of an up and down experience. You do the work, you start to see results, then .... WOOMPH! something happens and you feel like you're back at square one. Today, I've had a lot of negativity, including a loooong phone call with someone telling me there's no work around (she does the same sort of thing as me), everyone wants low prices and nothing else, etc.

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FEELING like you're back at square one is different from BEING back at square one.

Let's imagine that personal growth is a stairway to heaven. As we climb, any perceived setback is still higher than where we started. Once consciousness is raised, there is no going back to the bottom of the stairs.

At every level of that staircase, we have a wondrous gift to share. The person who calls to complain is an opportunity for us to help them up the stairs.

I asked a custodian at my office how his day was going and he described his frustration over what happened to him that morning. He used his debit card to buy breakfast and get $10 cash at a fast food joint. He realized after he got to work that the clerk didn't give him the cash. Ten dollars is a lot of money to this man, so he called the restaurant and spoke with the manager. People try to scam restaurants all the time, and the manager seemed not to believe that my co-worker was owed any money. If the excess cash was in the drawer at the end of the shift, the manager would call.

My co-worker was convinced his money was gone. I said to him, "You know, I really believe that if you think that way, that's the result you'll get. How about imagining that the manager calls you and gives you your $10 back?"

Later that morning, my coworker came to thank me for helping him think positively. The manager had called to say they'd counted the drawer and had his $10. Yea!

As for those difficult or critical people, there are lots of great books on verbal self-defense. It takes only a very small repetoire of blocking statements to deal with most situations:

- Oh.
- That's interesting.
- Thank you for your honesty.
- What do you mean?
- That's worth thinking about.
- I didn't know you felt that way.
- Can I get back to you on that?

etc., etc. Sometimes I use one of those and then introduce a new subject:

- Is that so? Hey - did you hear about...?

And my personal favorite to get away from a nonstop talker - used only with people who know me VERY well...

- Take a deep breath. (I smile and walk away.)

Enjoy the ride.

Laurie

This subject matter was right on time. I was just going to pose a similar situation. One of my best friends is very negative and before I started reading SOGR I would commissirate with her and empathize and identify with her. I had not spoken to her in the last couple of weeks not because I tried to avoid her, but because I had to go out of town and was really engrossed in reading SOGR. Today she called me at work to start to tell me about some negative stuff and since I was in to middle of doing something could not really talk with her. She indicated she would call me this evening and I just came on line to see if anyone had any suggestions as to how I should handle any negativity. I got my answer. What a blessing.

Thanks I am really grateful.

Jo-

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You know who you are and what your belief system is. I would just smile to my coworker and say nothing then go on about my business.
They will think twice before being negative again since you did not give them the reaction they expected and eventually they will stop.

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mel you are so right with this