I have recently had two days where all kinds of things "went wrong". I chose to look for reasons why these could be good and they were all over the place! Yesterday it meant we could visit with friends we hadn't seen in quite a while. Then further delay enabled me to install a computer program I need for my voice over work. This had several errors that I needed help from Techicnal support to fix. This took over an hour, time I wouldn't have had if the delay hadn't continued. The Tech was great, and I am so grateful for him and the finished product that is a workable program.

Last week I forgot my purse and had to turn around to get it. When I got home there was a job on the fax machine for a distant area my husband was at. I called him and he was able to do it then and not have to make a return trip. Then I forgot to take my cell phone with me when I got in the car and had to go in again. As I got in, the phone rang and a client needed me to read something to her off a document we had faxed her earlier. If I hadn't forgotten the phone, I would not have been able to help her instantly. So, I am continuing to not react when things "go wrong" and look for why this is good. It certainly has helped me to be happier, more productive and continue toward having my vision become reality.

Thanks to Rebecca, the course and all of you. You have helped me to come this far and the best is yet to come!

Isn't it great when you forget about not being disappointed and angry cos things 'didn't go your way' and decide that whatever happened is for the greater good?!
I got a job last year that was meant to start in June but three weeks before I was due to start they decided they didn't need me anymore. Initally I was devastated but I resolved to move on because this meant there was something much better coming up. Turned out it wasn't really the 'dream' job that I had asked for. Six months down the track, my 'dream' job opportunties are starting to arrive. I'm so grateful i was cut from that job because it made me see and realise that I will get what I've asked for and not a second rate version.

Heres to looking for the good side of everything!

Shannon

Thanks Shannon you stated it SO well. When I decide to leave out the "why" and "how" life certainly gets better and better.

Thanks for this thread. It is a nice reminder. Gramma, I love your anecdotes.

I had a bad day today - the one thing I did notice, in the midst of the trauma, was that when someone said to me: Its an unlucky day for you.

I replied by saying: Not necessarily, its not over yet. It could turn lucky any minute now.

(Excuse me I am typing in an Italian keyboard and I cant find the apostrophe! or the quotation marks.)

Anyway, yesterday I was speaking with someone about something and they sad to me: What bad luck!

I replied: Not at all. It has nothing to do with bad luck. In both situations I made choices to give things an opportunity to happen, and in both situations, it didnt happen. That is probably very lucky because what I though I wanted to happen was probably not very good.

Again, I recognise a whole new mind set. My life is still not the way I think I want it, but I no longer see a lot of things in the same way I used to, and in the way many people see them.

Right now, the biggest change I see in my life is in this way of thinking.

I am also experiencing a new level of opportunity. Many many fantastic opportunities are flowing to me. Some are opportunities I have never even dreamed of. Life is so exciting. I cant wait to see the fruit these opportunities bear.

The one thing I am reminded are the words in the book, about how as we progress in the certain way, increasing numbers of opportunities will come our way, and we must play close attention to staying in a place of gratitude.

This is hardest for me when I encounter discrimination or judgemental behaviour from others. I realise I must be grateful for these people because they teachme how very important it is to be tolerant of one anothers differences.

Wow, ME, you really nailed it!

As for those discriminatory people, I'm finding the less anxious I feel about them and the more love and compassion I sent to them, the more their prejudices seem to melt away.

quote:

Originally posted by ME:
This is hardest for me when I encounter discrimination or judgemental behaviour from others. I realise I must be grateful for these people because they teachme how very important it is to be tolerant of one anothers differences.

Another reason to be grateful is that they show you quite clearly how changed your thinking has become. I sometimes find myself quite bewildered by peoples' interesting or negative responses to various situations, because it is quite far removed from what I was feeling at the time and from what I now consider to be normal, but it reminds me that I too used to think that way sometimes and I am very grateful that I no longer do, most of the time anyway. I am also grateful that these encounters are relatively far apart so as that I DO find it bewildering, which means that by and large I am associating with like-minded people, for which I am also grateful.

I know that it is sometimes hard but when things are going wrong they could not be more right. Gratefulness is one of the keys to SOGR. We control our thoughts in that I do not think anything goes wrong.

We do not worry about emergencies as we will have the faculties to deal with at the time. I am learning these lessons and I am ingraining them in my sub-conscious.

quote:

This is hardest for me when I encounter discrimination or judgemental behaviour from others.

Might as well be angry at the rain for falling. They're just doing what is in their nature to do...for now.

Might as well be angry at the barbarians for having overtaken the Roman Empire. It's in the past. Everything we perceive is in the past because it takes us time to register the perception. Not thousands of years, of course, only a tenth of a second...but it's still the past.