Want to know what my biggest fear is?

Failure.

Plain and simple, it's failure.

I fear that if I practice SOGR principles with dedication, gratitutde, and every good word you can think of in the dictionary, there is still the element of failure involved.

What if I practice Mr. Wattles' principles, only to be taken aback by disappointments?

This is my main FEAR, and I can't get over it. I want to.

Please advise.

Since you are in control of your thoughts, you can elect to stop thinking about fear of failure and begin daily to have faith in success.
See yourself as you wish to be, not as things appear to be. All is well

Hello Sjang,

I agree with Sigafoose as to the beginning of training your mind to focus on success rather than fear. However, we are all human, and if none of us had any fear I think that we would all be absolute in our faith and we would all be sitting there smiling and reaping the rewards.

Mr. Wattles gives us the direction in which to head. He doesn't say DO THIS in a commanding way, he says that if we live our lives in a ‘certain way’, then this is how we will be totally successful. So, because living in the Certain Way is not all a certain thing with us all - All the time -- then I think this is where our little niggling fears come in --- one slip and although we learn to forgive ourselves, we have the feeling of fear, no matter how slight, and this is possibly why we are not successful in reaping in the abundant rewards, in all areas of our lives, ALL the time.

These are my thoughts only and they may not be absolutely correct, so you must speak with your inner-self to find the real answer.

Sometimes we are so wrapped up in receiving the TOTAL, that if we get a little less we think we have failed. Try please to work out what failure is for YOU. Is success for you "success in the eyes of your friends and your family" or is it what you really need for yourself. What I mean is - if you failed in something you really wanted to achieve and there was not a living soul to know about it -- no-one knew what you had wanted to achieve, and no one knew if you achieved it or not -- if that were the case, would you feel like a failure just the same? I think not.

We strive most of our lives to be accepted by others. Guess what! Those others are people just like you - no different -- not bigger and better -- just like you. They sleep part of each 24 hours just as you do. They remove waste from their bodies every day just as you do. They refuel their bodies each day just as you do. They pretend to be something they are not (but probably wish they were) every now and then to impress someone else, just as you do. They make mistakes just as you do. They get it right sometimes just as you do.

The thing is Sjang, when you fail (as you put it), the reality is, in their eyes, you make them happy - not because you didn't ‘make it to the top’, but because you have proved you are just like they are.

I don't know if you are male or female, but have you ever had your house in a mess when someone came visiting? Do you feel uncomfortable? Do you wish to heaven they had given you notice or they had been there yesterday when you didn't have it in such a mess? And have you ever gone to the home of someone who had a mess in their house, because you didn't give them notice and time to hurriedly tidy up? How did you feel? Relieved? Relieved that here was a normal person - now you wouldn't have to be absolutely perfect in everything you do in front of them, because they are human too - now you can be yourself, knowing that you are normally tidy, and even if you are not sometimes, and this person calls, you will not feel so bad. They are now easy to be with.

By not having a perfectly successful life in front of your friends, you make them feel better; they can then live with their own 'failures' knowing that they are normal. When we think people look down on us for not succeeding, we may be quite wrong - they want success just as much as you do - and it would be good to support each other rather than be afraid of letting them see what you are intending to succeed at. Let go of the fear, don’t worry about others, just DO what you plan to be better at so you can have more.

Just like the narrow road along the Certain Way, we will stand up and sometimes trip over our feet, but we must make sure that we pick ourselves up again with pride, and persist until we proudly shout about what we have done, what we have achieved. There is no failure and nothing to fear. Giving up because of what others may think is a loss, but giving up and not striving to better yourself, no-matter what the outcome may be, is a bigger loss - not a sin and not a failure but a sad sad loss.

Someone said to me this very morning, referring to all the times I had put my heart and soul and faith into things I'd tried to achieve, "You know Robyne, of all the people I know, I admire you the most, because you will not lie down and say die - you give me encouragement by your own persistence". Boy that was something! I was so thrilled to thing that my 'failures' had encouraged someone else to 'have a go'.

And this month – this wonderful beginning to this incredible year, 2003, I’m starting to build a new MLM business, one which I have admired for a long time – and one which I WILL SUCCEED IN – for myself!

Sjang, I hope this helps you in some way.

Warmly,
Robyne

Hi Sjang,

I didn't used to like failure much either but after you've done it a couple of times it doesn't bother you nearly as much.

Try it and see.

There's something I'm MUCH more afraid of and that is
not giving something a go.

I can live with failure a lot easier than I can live with not trying.

love
Ann

ps. I'll let you into a big secret. There are HEAPS of failures like me doing the course down under.

pss. Yep, it works!

Sjang, consider how many failures Edison had in inventing the lightbulb, but he did not consider it failures, it was thousands of ways not to get the right results.

Had he given up of fear he would fail, I would now blindly tap on my keyboard in the dark,

do it!
Horst

Dear Sjang, et al,

I am reminded of three principles from Chapter 17, the Summary: Mr. Wattles mentions "the men and women who #1--PRACTICE the foregoing instructions will certainly get rich" ....."and the riches will be in the exact proportion of the..(and here are two more principles that are exactly OPPOSITE of being stuck in fear of failure)....

#2 -- Steadiness of their faith and

#3 -- Depth of their gratitude

I am trying to remember the quote that goes something like that. Courage is just fear with gloves on. In other words, fear may remain.... and it is the PRACTICE which will minimize it, coupled with steady faith and continual gratitude no matter what!

How disappointed will you be if you dwell in teh fear of failure and the fear of disappointment?

As the saying goes, What You Think About Grows.

Start growing Faith, Gratitude and Practical, Consistent and Efficient Action.

We're with you, Sjang.

With Passionate Gratitude,

Julie Jordan Scott

Dare to Discover Your Passion, Decide to Live Your Destiny http://www.5passions.com