I was wondering if anyone had applied the principles to interpersonal relationships (romantic or otherwise).

Say for example you are interested in a particular member of the opposite sex (or the same - these are enlightened times after all) what would you do to pursue a relationship with them? As the book states you cannot attempt to impress your desires upon others or seek to control them in any way.

Therefore I am inclined to think in such instance you can only impress upon original substance that you wish to be with this person. Anything further is dependent upon the prospect of a relationship with you being desirable to the other person (regardless of whether they had previously considered you in that way). And if the other person is not conducive I'm inclined to think another who is more compatable will be directed towards you in due course. Of course you need to look for the signs I would think.

I personally would not want to create a CMI about a particular person, but rather have a clear mental image about what kind of relationship and what kind of person I want to be with.

When I think of the house I am going to have I do not think of a specific house and say I want that. I think that goes into the area of competition? I seem to remember something in SOGR that says something to that effect. I think about what kind of things I want the house to be like, and more specifically how it will make me feel. There are things about it that are very specific, but there's also a "generality" about it so that I can be open to what is best for me and whatever the universe wants to give me that may be even better than what I had planned.

Anyway, I think having a CMI about a specific person could just be "messy" partly becuase of what you said about not attempting to impress your desires on others and other stuff as well. For one thing, what if you do get in a relationship with that person and find out they're not really the kind of person you really would want after all?

Greetings!

I absolutely agree with Dreams! I picture a CMI that includes the type of relationship that I desire. I can be fairly specific without naming a specific person. When I meet someone that may have the outward appearances of my image (not looks, so much as the type of person) of course I am attracted to him. However, I can be attracted to a person for many reasons that do not progress to the romantic one I hold in my CMI. A person who is the type of person I desire to be with may also not have any of the outward signs. So, I remain open to discovering why my attraction to a person is so strong and resolute in the knowledge that both of us will know when we have found the person who is the specific one. Anything else is trying to change the person, which is not sincere attraction.

I would be a true friend to this person until I knew why I attracted them into my life and then continue to be a true friend while they discover why they attracted me into their life. Contrary to what we see in the movies, there is no hurry, no competition, and you'll know when to take "inspired action".

I would enjoy just getting to know this person.

SpiritArtist

Ya know, now that I think about it there are some movies and tv that show relationship growth better than others.

I don't want to get too far off topic but movies and tv can help or hinder the building of our CMI's. Here are some that have helped me:

When Harry Met Sally: For all of the commentary about how romantic this movie is, I think it shows a progression that allows for both people to grow into a relationship based on friendship.

The X-Files: It behooves a tv series to put many obstacles in the way of two people getting together right away, just to extend the series. However, I think there are some really great relationship lessons in this series as it takes Mulder and Scully several years to work it out.

Even our beloved Star Wars, and I assume you love them as much if not more than I do because of your moniker, shows a growth process for Han and Leia that actually spans over several years while they work alongside each other for a common goal. In some respects, the impetuousness of Anakin and Padme caused them a lot of their problems.

In any case, this is just a fun look at some of the movies/tv that I think have a handle on something true.

Enjoy!
SpiritArtist

When it comes to meeting the love of your life I really think Dreams has some great points - focus on what relationship you want, not with whom.
I'm already in a relationship of many years, and I think sogr has been a great way to improve it. I really feel grateful for my husband, and of course my feelings are reflected on him. Also, because I want our marriage to be happy I do small things (and big things, for that matter) that show him everyday that I love him - when you give love, you get love back.

I agree with Dreams. Think about the kind of person you want to have a relationship with and how you would FEEL in that relationship with that person. What would she look like, what type of character would she have, what would her other qualities be - kind, considerate, loving, intelligent ... ? And how would you be with her ... also kind, etc. ... ? If you are thinking about marriage, would she be? Create the perfect relationship and trust the Universe to deliver.

I wish you the very best.

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