I wrote a few days ago about thinking something may be going awry with the sale of my business...and not knowing what it is because I could not locate the buyer.

One of the responses to this was perhaps I had not been in clear communication with her, maybe I was in her life for a reason, maybe I should help her and I both, etc... .

We discovered yesterday at 7 am what had happened. She told my former clients that I mislead her(it couldn't be further from the truth) and that she was closing and backing out of the deal. Thing is, she signed a legal document/bill of sale saying Exactly what she was buying etc.. .WE recieved a call from her attorney that says She said we misrepresented ourselves. I won't go into details of that, just know that it's like something she pulled out of the air.

We discussed the situation with our attorney and(at least for the moment)it would take a lot more to fight her in court that what she owed us.Part of this sale was her taking over the last 2 years of a lease. We had beenlead to believed it was signed and we were signed out.

It had not, we are now still responsible for this.I have had the rug pulled out from under me in such a fashion that it has brought back my ole' PTSD symptoms...and I am supposed to fucntion now anyway...instead of healing at home. It seems she will get off scot-free and the damage she has done to our reputation along with Now having to re-instate all the utilities, pay rent etc...that I cannot see how we can do it.

I have mentle disabilities and had applied a while back for SSI and I am Not supposed to be working. I've now been forced back into a situation that could very well ruin my chances for this, along with make me ill again.

so....does anyone here believe the same responses as before ? I wished her a fabulous success with the biz, was excited for her, Did help her to get started etc.. . So I didn't ever wish her ill-will. *I* did not create this situation, but I don't Why it is happening, something that will have far-reaching damage to our lives.

Also, what does the SOGR say about disabilities that are genuine ? I am Not a Victim, but even with my medicine and trying my best for YEARS to change things .... and the medicine will only do so much. This is my Physiology.

I am devastated, exhausted...

Brandy Hatfield(Amazing)

Dear Brandy

I sympathise with your situation and wish you a speedy way to resolve it. All I can do is share some of my own experiences and you can make of them what you will.

A couple of years ago I was in a business partnership and friendship which collapsed. A lot of effort had gone into this relationship and it ended up filled with bitterness, anger and betrayal. Sadly it took me a long time to get over it. During that period I lost my mental power, my confidence, much sleep and my physical health suffered too. What did I learn from this experience:

1) Anger resolves nothing. Arguing angrily over the matter just causes the other party to dig in more and both sides are right in their own mind.
2) I don't know how the other character dealt with it (I suspect not very well) but I suffered greatly due to my own feelings.
3) To listen to my instincts. I had known for a long time that this partnership had not been working but I over-ruled my instincts with my head. Leaving it so long just escalated the situation.
4) I had caused the situation. I could have listend to my instincts and got out earlier in a more equitable manner. I could have approached the final discussions in a more co-operative way. Funny thing was my friend pretty much did everything I expected him to do. He fulfilled the angry picture I had of him in my mind.
5)The greatest balm during the sleepless nights was to take a pen and paper and write down my ideal life, just focusing on where I wanted to be. I discovered this before I discovered SOGR, its part of the reason I believe.
... I could go on but these are the key points!

What do you think happend next?

I got some work and for the next 9 months sat next to a wonderful man. He witnessed some of the latter part of the break up and was full of wonderful advice. In particular, one day he said "What do you want to get from this?", "What is your desired outcome?". The truth was I had already achieved my ideal outcome, I had broken from the relationship which was not an equal partnership. I was a free agent again.

He next proceeded to show me how our joint venture could never have worked. During the 9 months we had been working on the project a lot of similar products had entered the market. In all honesty although we had done our best, many of these other products were better thought out and implemented. They also had more desirable pricing and licencing models than my partner would allow.

Just by being with this man every day I learnt a different approach to life. A better approach, a more relaxed approach. He was truly an angel.

I now read the story of Chang Wei-Kung and I see myself in this story.

Since this time I have regaied my power, I have regained my enthusiasm, I have regained my health, I have regained my sleep.

Brandy, in all sincerity I do not wish you to go through what I went though, it was very painful. I urge you NOW to REFOCUS your mind. Sit down and ask yourself "What do YOU want to get from this situation?" and "What is YOUR desired outcome?".

Whenever you are feeling bitter about this woman, put the thoughts out of your mind, love her and see her doing the right thing. Use her name too (not here but when you think of her). Otherwise it would be very easy to de-humanise her and for her to become that so and so.

If you focus on the other party, this will take you away from your desires. Sit down and write YOUR ideal life, YOUR health, YOUR wealth and so on. Trust that the Universe will send the appropriate people accross your path who will help you get to where you want to be. They will help you and you will help them get to where they want to be. You are already in the right place, you will get much support in these forums from many people who will have a different understanding and approach to your situation.

Finally recognise that YOU have the POWER to guide this situation to YOUR DESIRED OUTCOME. Find your goal, aim at your goal and you will surely get there.

I must thank you for reminding me how far I have moved on over the last year.

Blessings to you Brandy, you WILL get past this little hiccup to a much better place.

Adrian

Dear Brandy,

Hello from another Seattleite!(Did I spell that correctly?)

I can't say it any more beautifully than Adrian has. (Thanks Adrian for your moving story.) I'd only add that you might benefit from reading The Science of Being Well to explore your question about dealing with your disabilities. Mr. Wattles has lots to say there that's not in SOGR.

You can get your free copy of the ebook at The Science of Being Well Network

Many blessings to you and of course,
Be well!
Alexandra

Thank you..thank you..all. One day at a time.
This has helped me all day: "God(ess) grant me the serenity to change the things I can,accept the things I can't, and the wisdom to know the difference." I Will do as suggested and get back to journalling about this.

Does anybody know the Saint Francis of Assisi's prayer? I know it's beautiful and humbling, too...but I cannot remember it.

Good night,

Brandy

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Originally posted by Amazing44:
Thank you..thank you..all. One day at a time.
This has helped me all day: "God(ess) grant me the serenity to change the things I can,accept the things I can't, and the wisdom to know the difference." I Will do as suggested and get back to journalling about this.

Does anybody know the Saint Francis of Assisi's prayer? I know it's beautiful and humbling, too...but I cannot remember it.

Good night,

Brandy

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Brandy,

You ask and I desire to give to you as the Universe does to us all:

http://www.yenra.com/catholic/prayers/francisofassisi.html

That link has all of the St. Francis Of Assisi's prayers you are looking for.

Also, you can create what you desire, Brandy, I know you can do this. We all have this ability! Keep on, you shall receive what you desire!

--Robb

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Does anybody know the Saint Francis of Assisi's prayer?

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Have a feeling this is the one you're looking for, Brandy:

Lord, make me an instrument of your peace.
Where there is hatred . . . let me sow love
Where there is injury . . . pardon
Where there is doubt . . . faith
Where there is despair . . .hope
Where there is darkness . . . light
Where there is sadness . . .joy
Divine Master,
grant that i may not so much seek
To be consoled . . .as to console
To be understood . . .as to understand,
To be loved . . . as to love
For it is in giving . . .that we receive,
It is in pardoning, that we are pardoned,
It is in dying . . .that we are born to eternal life.

Also, how about this version of that "Serenity Prayer" you quoted in your post?

Grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change,
the courage to change the person I can,
and the wisdom to know that person is ME.

Thank you, Brandy, for starting this wonderful thread. It's a blessing to have you in this forum.

Adrian, your story touched and inspired me. Thank you for sharing.

Rebecca, over the years I've said the Serenity Prayer more times than I can count. I like your take on it much, much better. Thank you.

Laurie

Thank you all once again..Robb and Rebecca (I cried when I read that prayer again. It really gets to me.

Today was my first day back at my business. My dogs acted like I'd never left and were really happy to see me. Some clients were demonstrative in their love for me, others were leary.

Anyway, I wanted to ask : exactly How does one ASK the source what you want to manifest in your life ? Do I simply visualize what is representative of my God...then state desires in the present etc.. ?

I used to do this in Wicccan ritual, call the quarters, clear the space,on the full moon(like tonight) I would Ask for my desires, or world peace(example), on Sabbath's we celebrate that
holiday..paying hommage to particular gods and goddeses.

Sanhaim (Halloween) is approaching soon(my 45th birthday) and it is the Wiccan New Year. I need to write down what I want to do for that.

But for now, could anyone answer that earlier question for me ?

I am shaky, I am breathing, I am loved, it's all good.

Brandy(amazing)

Amazing44,

It is all good, all the time everytime, at least I believe so! If you believe so it shall be for you too! There are many ways to ask the source for what you desire to manifest in your life. You may manifest things in the way of affirmations. Repeat to yourself over and over during the day or periodically what it is you desire. For example, I tell myself periodically I am safe all the time. The world is a safe place. Humans are naturally good. For desires I envision what it is I desire. For my record company I envision a 10 story building and what exactly it looks like inside my office and in the building. For me choosing to create my monetary wealth through the lottery I envision right down to the bone, the ticket, numbers I will receive, and how much I will receive. May some of this information be of help to you too Amazing. Stay strong, I know you will get what you desire.

--Robb

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How does one ASK the source what you want to manifest in your life?

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- Speak
- Write
- Act it out
- Visualize
- Pray
- Draw
- Think
- Meditate
- Dance

etc. Any and all forms of expression/communication are effective.

In my experience, the more positive and intense my thoughts and feelings are while I am contemplating/expressing my desires, the better are my results. Frequent expression helps too.

Brandy, I am so excited for you. I'm looking forward to hearing about your adventures as your future unfolds.

Laurie

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Anyway, I wanted to ask : exactly How does one ASK the source what you want to manifest in your life ? Do I simply visualize what is representative of my God...then state desires in the present etc.. ?

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Brandy, it's not about rituals, really. You are ASKING constantly, impressing your "clear mental image" by your thoughts and feelings.

Those thoughts you are holding with intensity of emotion are being impressed; you are ASKING for those images to become real in your life.

This is exactly why it's so important to become conscious of this and to consciously choose to which thoughts we give our focus, faith, and feeling.

(And pay special attention to "I am" statements because any time you use that statement followed by ANY description, you are "asking" for that to be true, making it true. "I am" is just about the most powerful statement you can make -- and it's no coincidence that it is also one of the many names of God.)

And ... happy birthday to you -- in a couple of days. Know what? Today is MY birthday and I'm now getting off this board and going off to PLAY!

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Know what? Today is MY birthday and I'm now getting off this board and going off to PLAY!

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Make it a most wonderful birthday, Grand Poobah !
And thank you once again for this great SOGR initiative! I notice every day how much need there is for these valuable messages.

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Originally posted by Rebecca:
You are ASKING constantly, impressing your "clear mental image" by your thoughts and feelings.

Those thoughts you are holding with intensity of emotion are being impressed; you are ASKING for those images to become real in your life.

This is exactly why it's so important to become conscious of this and to consciously choose to which thoughts we give our focus, faith, and feeling.

(And pay special attention to "I am" statements because any time you use that statement followed by ANY description, you are "asking" for that to be true, making it true. "I am" is just about the most powerful statement you can make -- and it's no coincidence that it is also one of the many names of God.)

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Thank you, Rebecca, for this simple and yet so powerful message. It's so important to be reminded of this over and over again. The challenge is to stay aware of it. Maybe that can be trained into a kind of reflex.

I love the poem, well all of them actually.

Brandy I just thought I'd share I used to do ceremonies over the 8-fold year, though I've lapsed over the last couple of years.

I want to second Rebecca (Belated Happy Birthday Blessings). I've been to many ceremonies and they are wonderful and powerful things but the real key is to act constantly in a certain way. Being a Christian on Sundays, or Pagan at festival time is not enough.

Also thought I'd share "by coincidence, if there is such a thing" or at least under no concious coercion by myself, my company was registered at the Spring Equinox, and was registered for sales tax on Beltane.

Your original post really brought all that back to me and I must thank you again because I have not really pulled my thoughts together on those events. I really feel that I have closure on that experience now. I can now say when I read the story of Chang Wei-Kung, I see my past.

You will probably be busy tommorrow, have a wonderful festival filled with power.

You are Amazing!

Adrian