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I have been dating someone who is really closed and shut down and won’t let anyone in.

Why?

Rebecca the only answer I have for that is that I started caring for her and then I realized how closed and shut down.

I understand your point though and I guess that is part of the issue I feel the fear of being alone agian or I havnt found a way to make the whole dating process fun yet lol.

Your answer was simple and an eye opener. One thing I have grown to really love about you is your cander.

actually i got out of bed to add to this cause I was thinking about it. I made a CMI that I found someone a person who loves me and cares for me. I then met her so I was thinking this is what the fromless brought me and it must be for my greater good some how.

I believe she cares there is just alot of baggage on both sides.

I agree Rachel. Parenting is a breeze without out the social expectations... I was i heaven til I got involved with the schools and the coaches and the other parents. I did an excellent job of ignoring everyone else til then. We played. We read. We created. We ran around naked (figuratively) and free. It was awesome.

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I was thinking this is what the fromless brought me and it must be for my greater good some how.

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I believe she cares there is just alot of baggage on both sides.

Well, here's the thing: When you feel less-than, unworthy, or whatever else it is you are believing about yourself, you can only attract someone who is a match to that.

So what I've learned -- after a few "pianos" dropped on my head! -- is that it is MUCH better to focus on getting happy and peaceful BEFORE giving a lot of thought to a partner. We really have to BE what we want to attract and attracting another painful relationship is pointless, IMHO.

Plus, just because someone shows up and fits SOME of your idea/CMI doesn't mean you have to pounce. When we do that, when we get all focused on this ONE person or thing or whatever it is, then we become blind to all the other opportunities. And so we jump right back into the cycle of getting less than we really want and feeling bad.

All the REAL change happens inside US. So it really pays to give our best attention to that. When we get into that place of thinking that someone else can fill the emptiness or that someone else can make us happy, we are setting ourselves up for misery.

And we -- and YOU -- are worthy of so much more, so much better.

I thought I was ready to move in that direction. I had worked my way to feeling really good. I thought it was the answer to my CMI and then differant feelings showed up and I guess I wasnt as ready as I thought.

Over the past few days I have been contemplating my single life and recent dating experiences.

Then I did something crazy.

I let my mind run wild.

Imagined I had exactly the partner I was looking for.

Instantly, I pictured the scene of my honey coming home. My eyes started to shine and I gave him a big kiss and told him how great it was to see him again.

and. it. felt. great.

Guess this is my new CMI. Feeling great is quite wonderful

God bless you,

Caroline
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Originally posted by Caroline_:
Feeling great is quite wonderful

And, from what I understand, it’s practically a requirement for creating the kind of life experience(s) we really want.

As SOGR says, “Enter at once into full enjoyment of the things you want,…” and certainly, wonderful relationships is one of the things.

“Your feelings create the pattern from which your world is fashioned, and a change of feeling is a change of pattern. The subconscious never fails to express that which has been impressed upon it. The moment it receives an impression it begins to work out the ways of its expression. It accepts the feeling impressed upon it, your feeling, as a fact existing within itself and immediately sets about to produce in the outer or objective world the exact likeness of that feeling. The subconscious never alters the accepted beliefs of man – it out-pictures them to the last detail whether or not they are beneficial.

To impress the subconscious with the desirable state you must assume the feeling that would be yours had you already realized your wish. In defining your objective you must be concerned only with the objective itself. The manner of expression or the difficulties involved are not to be considered by you. To think feelingly on any state impresses it on the subconscious.” Neville Goddard in ‘Feeling is the Secret’

“We must vibrate in the SAME frequency, or in synchronicity with that which we want to attract/experience.” Wellington Rodriques, Mental Science & Prosperity Teacher

Lately, I’ve been finding it very gratifying and satisfying simply to focus on feeling good, on experiencing a good feeling, no matter what I’m doing, or where I am, or who is around. It’s an interesting experience of not only feeling more good feelings, but of feeling more empowered. There is, it seems to me, a feeling of being powerful that accompanies deliberately feeling good, as I realize I can, more than I’d realized before, feel a very good feeling, no matter what.

Phil

I am finding it more and more difficult to maintain a happy feeling. Having so many outside influences that shouldn’t impact how you feel but still does is making it difficult.

Do you think that entering into full enjoyment with the things you want will work with people as well? For example if you relationship is strained with your son if you feel a good happy healthy relationship with you son will it help?



Captjack

CaptJack,

You already know this. Of course, ANY good feeling about ANYTHING is a wonderful process for helping you be and feel like the person you want to be. On a mechanical level, I think that imagining (with feeling) a wonderful relationship is the most powerful way of creating that relationship.

HOWEVER, you can only change yourself -- your thoughts and feelings. You CAN NOT change or control the other person. And even if you could, you wouldn't be able to accept or even notice that they had changed until your attitude changed first anyway.

So, you see, It's all about YOU finding a way to be happy REGARDLESS of the way anyone else behaves.

For goodness sake, find something, ANYTHING that makes you happy and doesn't rely on anyone else. You have been doing so well at nurturing yourself. Don't go back to expecting other people to make you happy. They can't.

LOVE and blessings,
Rachel

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Do you think that entering into full enjoyment with the things you want will work with people as well?

I believe...haven't got proof

I think you can use methods like BLAST and EFT and the methods on Vitale's cd's to clear and cleanse yourself making it possible for relationships to change.