OK, the subject says it all. I do volunteer work, but I have no job and have been quite unsuccessful in obtaining one. My age (58) is the problem in a world where younger is perceived to be better. Without this component, how can I manifest financial rewards that have been held at bay? I have investments that are long past due for one reason or another and I know the money is around me I have to bring it in. Since I've been unsuccessful and my nestegg has been depleted, I find my "fear" just comes upon me and sometimes I just can't shake it no matter how much positive thinking I do. It disappears for a little bit and, there it is again!

Any help would be appreciated. Thank you.

This is my take on your ‘no job’ situation, and I’m 60, and doing what I’m currently doing (accounting) less than 10 years, and without any degree in the field.

First of all, you need to re-frame how you’re looking at your age. You have to see the ADVANTAGES to a potential employer, of hiring someone ‘older’.

First of all, older people tend to be more stable and reliable. You’re more likely to consistently make it to work on time and be more responsible for the work you do than a younger person.

Also, it’s likely that you have many insights that younger people do not, regarding how to work effectively, or learn new tasks, get along with others, manage and resolve problems, etc., than younger people.

The more you realize and focus on the advantages that come with hiring you, the more you will make it easier for potential employers to see (and act on it) too.

Another thing that would help your mindset and mood regarding work (and most of your success or failure will be due to your mindset and mood) is, think of ANYTHING you do, that others – somewhere – are paying others to do. For example, this could include:

Keeping a household orderly.
Paying bills on time.
Balancing a check book.
Keeping the frig stocked with the right items.
Driving.
Typing.
How to use a computer, word process, use an electronic spreadsheet (e.g., MS Excel), search the Internet.
Specific knowledge, e.g., knowing what it takes to stay fit, or a great way to travel Europe, or how to cook tasty inexpensive meals, or great places to hang out in a certain city, etc.
How to manage your emotions.
How to handle co-workers not getting along.
How to learn something new.

Here’s something you might not have realized: Virtually everything you know how to do or have knowledge of, somewhere, somebody is paying someone else to do these things, albeit they may be arranged differently (e.g., my typing and word and spreadsheet processing skills dovetail very nicely into me being able to do my current accounting job; my driving and people insights and skills allowed me to work as a cab driver for 6 months when I couldn’t find other work. My understanding of emotions has allowed me to work smoothly with a diverse range of people, which has helped me obtain a few supervisorial or management positions, etc., etc.).

You are a virtual WEALTH storehouse of skills, knowledge, insights and attitudes, that just needs to find the employer who recognizes and values what you have to offer. (But then, it helps if YOU first realize what you have to offer.)

Organize your thoughts around what you ALREADY have to offer – discipline, knowledge, skills, attitudes, willingness to learn something new or a new approach, etc. -- that could at least serve as a basis for you being a great employee to the right employer.

Just a thought.

When YOU really know (and feel) that you’d make a great employee to the right employer, you become magnetic to that combination manifesting in your life experience.

Become A Manifesting Magnet

Endeavor to FEEL how you would feel, if every part of your life was working out the way you wanted it to be. Become an emotional MATCH to what you want. You’ve heard of the Law of Karma. It’s also called the Law Of Reaping And Sowing, and when you become an emotional match to what you want you are actually making your Karma. You are Reaping vibrationally, and you will Sow what you reap.

Take Action

Take action towards any and all parts of your idealized vision of your life. If something occurs to you to do towards any of your goals, especially if it’s fun and easy, then act on that idea and do the thing.

Phil

Hi Weezie,

Phil has given some really great advise!

I am now 69 and getting into the Personal Training Business! Part of my CMI is to be a Student and a Teacher for the rest of my life, my subjects are Peace, Health and Prosperty.

Thanks. I've done exactly what you said in your post, Phil. Tom, I expect success each and every time I send out my resume.

I've even offered to work on a temp basis before being put on the payroll. By the way, I have no problem with my age. I look about 15-20 years younger and I've taken care of myself. I can keep up with those much younger and, when I HAVE worked and they want a team player, I usually end up being the whole team. I can work circles around alot of those who sit back and let others do the work. I have no problem rolling up my sleeves and doing whatever it takes to get the wheelbarrow on top of the flagpole.

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I've done exactly what you said in your post, Phil.

Then, the gist of your everyday experience is very good, right? Everyday you’re feeling plenty of good feelings, right? You’re feeling at peace with yourself. You’re feeling at peace with others. You’re feeling at peace with your circumstances, appreciating it all but also looking forward to what’s to come, because your focus is on everything working out fine, right?

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By the way, I have no problem with my age. I look about 15-20 years younger and I've taken care of myself.

That’s great. To me, that’s a big plus because, regardless of the fact that people say otherwise, appearances do matter, and people who look fit and healthy get better treatment than those who don’t.

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when I HAVE worked and they want a team player, I usually end up being the whole team.

That statement bothers me. I’m guessing that if the other team members ever heard of it they would feel slighted. (What if every thought and feeling you have about others is getting communicated to them somehow? Would you change how you think?) It doesn’t sound like you’re a team player. (Hopefully I’m wrong.) It sounds like you’re trying to be the quarter back, the half back, the linemen, the guards, the pitcher, the catcher, the outfielder and shortstop, and maybe even the coach and owner, all rolled into one.

It sounds to me like you have a bit of a competitive, ‘me against them’ or an “I’ll show them who’s best,” attitude, as opposed to a cooperative and an “I care about the people I work with” attitude.

Of course, I could be wrong. But I mention this because I’ve seen people compete in the job place, only to compete their selves right out the door, especially when it came to ‘lay off’ time. (btw, this includes me, in times past.) And also, I believe a lot of people can sense another’s attitude, even if they try to hide it behind personality.

Bottom line, to me is, the whole Universe is responding to our every belief and attitude, as well as our actions. So, if something’s not working out for us, we are wise to take a better look at ourselves to see if our attitudes or beliefs are working against us.

“If things go wrong in my world, something is wrong in me. Therefore, if I am sensible, I shall put myself right first.” Carl Jung

I believe that, somehow or someway, we’re creating everything we experience. So, if something doesn’t seem to be working out like we want then, we need to check ourselves out and see if we’re really aligned with things working out.

This doesn’t mean that a person can’t attain some success without all the right attitudes. I have a brother who makes 6 figures a year, and he had a belief that there are inferior and superior people (and, of course, he was one of the superior ones). But he also had a marriage that lasted less than two months. And he’s told me of run-ins with co-workers and even ex-co-workers that have made his work life a pretty rocky experience at times. He’s also alienated some life-long friends. (Not that that’s always a bad thing.)

Btw, you might wonder if I’d care if my brother read what I just wrote about him. (Sort of, ‘Do I walk my talk?) In fact, I’d welcome it. I’ve even mentioned some of it to him. He may not be peachy, but he can handle criticism if he thinks it’s constructive. (One of the reasons he’s done well in work.)

Phil

Wrong, wrong and...WRONG!

Weezie

We've ALL been where you are at some point in time and so the advice you're being given is true and it DOES work, in exact proportion to the amount of honest effort given to the task.

Stop focusing on the reality you see yourself in and start 'daydreaming' of the reality you would like to enjoy. Go into it fantasizing that if you could have anything your imagination could dream up, what would it look like. Feel the enjoyment. In your dream world, anything is possible. So create it and enjoy what you've created.

Utility bills too high? See them as a pittance. Is it possible? Why not? Car insurance too high? See yourself finding a better deal. Groceries too high? See yourself finding great deals at the market or finding money (bills) on the ground or maybe a neighbor bringing you groceries for whatever the reason or maybe a few bags showing up on your doorstep. Whatever is draining your money reserves, see them as less or nonexistent.

The main thing is to stop dwelling on where you are and put your energy on where you want to be.

Its real easy to read self help material. The hard part is actually sitting down and writing what needs to be written or sitting back and imagining what you want in the future and not allowing old habitual thoughts, worries and fears to dominate you mind.

A question I heard often when I was first learning all this was.... what is the worst thing that could happen?

Well I'll tell you the worst thing that could happen would be to die not living the life I want. Since no one is going to get it for me and whether I have it or not depends solely upon me, then I better get out of my own way and do what works.

Nothing is impossible Weezie, nothing. If its hard its because we're making it hard. If we think things are impossible that thinking will make it impossible.

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Wrong, wrong and...WRONG!

OK. Then let me try to go back to your original post in this thread. You said:

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I have no job and have been quite unsuccessful in obtaining one. My age (58) is the problem in a world where younger is perceived to be better.

Is this really true?

Is everyone out of work over the age of fifty doomed?

Phil

Weezie, welcome here!

Phil already did a great job here. You say that you do volunteer work.

Which means we have two things in common. I am currently unemployed and I have two volunteering jobs. What I do is apply Wally's advice. To more than fill my current place. I am doing the best job that I possibly can.

I don't know if that will ever result in something like a paying job. But I had pleasant conversations with colleagues and customers. I have walked out of those buildings with a great feeling of pride and accomplishment. I am helping to make the lives of a few other people a little easier. They are happy and grateful for it.

But the best part is how I feel about myself. I won't be ending the war in Irak but I am doing my little bit in my little corner here. I trust that God will bless us all for it. Even if He has to put up with me all the time because after every single shift, it is His job to heal my back. Good thing that God never tires of His volunteering duties.

So be proud of your work. That is a positive emotion and employers would recognize that in you.

God bless you,

Caroline
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Phil already did a great job here.

Weezie,

As much as I’d like to think that were true, I think there is at least two people in the world who don’t think it is. (You and me.) So, let me try another thought.

“Fear not, little flock, for it is your Father’s good pleasure to give you the kingdom.” Luke 12:32

It seems to me, fear is the real problem. So, maybe you could wrap your mind around the idea that the Universe is actually wanting you to experience a good solution. If you could, I think your fears would dissipate, simply because whatever we don’t focus on loses power.

Along this line, I have the following quote:

“The way to handle fear is to turn your thoughts away from it. To think of what you fear only gives it energy and fuels it, thus, by spiritual law, attracts it. When you are afraid turn your thoughts to peace and images and ideas of constructive resolutions.

If, for whatever reasons, you can not take your attention off of what you fear, then diffuse it. What do I mean? I mean, remove its emotional content. Take away the emotion you give it. How? By de-rationalizing it. You see, the thing that empowers your fear is the way YOU empower it, by how you think about it. If you change how you think about what you fear you dissolve how you feel about it.

By itself, the thing you fear has no emotional content. Only YOU can give it emotional content, and therefore, only you can take it away, resolve or dissolve it.” Author Unknown

Sometimes we hold onto a fear because we think we don’t deserve better. That’s an idea that can be de-rationalized. We need to get in touch with the idea that we are actually far more worthy and deserving than we normally think we are.

"The creative power within us makes us into the image of that to which we give our attention." From Chapter 7 of The Science Of Getting Rich by W. Wattles

Here is an image that might be worth your greater attention:

“If you were listening to the hypnotic voice of your Source, you'd be constantly hearing the drum beating that says, "You are loved, and you are worthy, and you are valued and life is supposed to be good for you. You are worthy, you are valued, you are loved and life is supposed to be good for you.” Abraham-Hicks

Phil

Weezie,

I’m going to toss this idea out, although, to me, I imagine you’ve already done it. I’m just tossing it out, just in case you haven’t.

You said a part of your current discomfort is due to the fact that you’re dipping into your nest egg.

Have you signed up with several Temp Employment Agencies? And, if so, have you let them know that you will work a variety of jobs, and not just the one you most want? You also get to set other parameters, like how far you're willing to commute, or the least you'll work for, etc.

I’ve worked many temp assignments, when I didn’t have a permanent position. Sometimes the money wasn’t great, but most of the time it was enough coming in so that I didn’t have to dip into my savings.

Also, I’ve found that it would also help if I called my temp agencies every couple of days. I found they will tend to ‘grease the squeaky wheel’ when it comes to who they put to work. (Of course, I made it a point to never be overbearing. I would just call in every couple days and pleasantly them who I was and ask again if anything had come in.

And, if I had to call in after another couple days, I’d add some new reason for my call, so I didn’t seem like I was just pestering them. I might call in and say, I wanted to add that I’m also willing to work for $11 an hour instead of $12. Or, that I also have done some special word processing, or answered phones, or taken inventory, etc., etc., in case that kind of assignment comes up.

In other words, I’d start off signing up with them, seeking mostly what I ideally wanted. But if time went on without any bites, I'd gradually let them know I was open to less than ideal assignments. (I think the worst it got was an assignment where I worked in this stuffy room with one other guy, and we went thru tons of little file drawers to remove index cards dated over ten years old. But, even this one paid better than minimum wage, and the guy I worked with was pleasant and funny. Sometimes, someone would come to us and add a stipulation for us, like also pull cards for the vendor “XYZ Services”, and he would smile at them and say, “You’re way, right away,” and look at me and say, “It’s the Burger King motto.” Funny guy. I imagine he could make cleaning toilets a pleasant pasttime.)

Phil

Decide what you want. You want a job, and not just any job. You want a very decent one. By that I mean it gives you decent pay and the people you work for and with are very decent people. They are a mature and balanced, intelligent, friendly and sometimes funny and good natured group. It’s also very decently located; by that I mean it’s not far away and it’s in a pleasant enough location. You feel good going there and good being there.

Then, imagine you doing very well at this job. Imagine you enjoy it quite a bit and you learn quite easily all you need to know to do it well. Imagine you’re feeling quite good about the whole thing.

Then also, don’t say it can’t be. Don’t say your age bars you from having such a job. I have such a job and I only got hired in it 4 years ago, and I’m sixty now.

Then also, you add or ‘send out’ to the Universe, “This, or something even better,” so as not to feel you’re restricting yourself in any way, from the good that you are worthy of and deserving of. (And, if in any moment you feel you might not be altogether deserving or worthy, stop that idea and consciously replace it with the idea that you ARE deserving and worthy, equally as much as anyone, simply because you are a Child of God.)

Then, whenever you think about work, think about it in such a way as to experience the good feeling; use your imagination to experience the good feelings – the calm, the gratitude, the peace of mind, etc. -- as if you already HAVE the work and pay and conditions you want.

Then, as you develop this feeling within yourself, if you get a hunch to go here or there, or do this or that, do it, especially if it’s easy, though it may not always seem like ‘the’ thing to do.

Consider how these others put it:

“In the mental realm, enter at once into full enjoyment of the things you want.” “See the things you want as if they were actually around you all the time. See yourself as owning and using them. Make use of them in your imagination just as you will use them when they are your tangible possession.” Wallace Wattles, in Chapter 8 of the Science of Getting Rich

"Enter into the joy of the answered prayer and your wish, idea or desire will become God's will, which is the consciousness of having or being what you long to be or possess. This is the consciousness of conviction, which manifests itself in your world as a condition, experience or event." - Joseph Murphy in ‘Traveling With God’1956

“Your part is to intelligently formulate your desire for the things which make for a larger life and to get these desires arranged into a coherent whole, and then to impress the whole desire upon the formless substance which has the power and the will to bring you what you want.” Wallace Wattles, in Chapter 8 of the Science of Getting Rich

"What I am most happy about is that I can zero in on a vision of where I want to be in the future. I can see it so clearly in front of me when I daydream that it's almost a reality. Then I get this easy feeling, and I don't have to be uptight to get there because I already feel like I'm there, that it's just a matter of time." Arnold Schwarzenegger

“,… take some section of your life that seems beyond redemption and rearrange it in your mind's eye. Make it as you would like it to be. Persuade yourself of its truth and wait, because its fulfillment has its own appointed hour. It ripens, it will flower. If it be long, then wait, for it is sure and it will not be late. It will come into your objective world to bear witness to the reality of your assumption.” – Neville Goddard

“The Universe responds to how you feel.” Esther Hicks

Phil

A lot of great information here.

Weezie I noticed you haven’t posted a reply and I just wanted to say take a look at what the responses are and see if they feel right to you. Look at them without any judgment and just see if what they say feels right. They don’t know everything about you or your life all they can go by is what you wrote. Just my 2 cents.

I understand how difficult it is thinking and feeling what you want to feel when you keep getting conflicting results. One thing I do is keep coming back here and reading it helps a lot.

HI,
Phil,I admire your resilience. you did such a great Job, there are several points you mentioned that have benefited me greatly. I appreciate you and the inspiration behind your posts.Thanks.
Weezie, I wish you the best in life as you ponder all those excellent advice and finally start acting in the certain way.

Successfully yours
Abdul.

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“The way to handle fear is to turn your thoughts away from it. To think of what you fear only gives it energy and fuels it, thus, by spiritual law, attracts it. When you are afraid turn your thoughts to peace and images and ideas of constructive resolutions.

Thank you for this advice, . . . I'm new to this sight and appreciate the inspirations.

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Originally posted by Beatrice D:

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“The way to handle fear is to turn your thoughts away from it. To think of what you fear only gives it energy and fuels it, thus, by spiritual law, attracts it. When you are afraid turn your thoughts to peace and images and ideas of constructive resolutions.

Thank you for this advice, . . . I'm new to this sight and appreciate the inspirations.

I suggest you not disregard this piece of the quote:

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If, for whatever reasons, you can not take your attention off of what you fear, then diffuse it. What do I mean? I mean, remove its emotional content. Take away the emotion you give it. How? By de-rationalizing it. You see, the thing that empowers your fear is the way YOU empower it, by how you think about it. If you change how you think about what you fear you dissolve how you feel about it.

By itself, the thing you fear has no emotional content. Only YOU can give it emotional content, and therefore, only you can take it away, resolve or dissolve it.”

In other words, if you fear something, you don’t avoid the ‘attracting’ of it by burying it. You really need to resolve and dissolve any energy (feeling) you associate with it.

There are many ways to do this. ‘De-rationalizing’ it is one, as mentioned in the quote. And, understanding how each of us is always the determiner or creator and perpetuater of any and all of our feelings, helps tremendously (because then we realize that, if we create our feelings, we can also change them).

Here’s how others put it:

“We create our own heaven or hell. Your thoughts can imprison you or set you free. Complications, conditions or people do not upset you, but the way you think about them causes your upset. Freedom is not possible until we discipline and retrain our minds.” - p. 124 of Choose To Live Peacefully by Susan Smith Jones, Ph.D.

“If you say, “I just can’t help the way I feel,” you will only make yourself a victim of your misery ~ and you’ll be fooling yourself, because you can change the way you feel.
If you want to feel better, you must realize that your thoughts and attitudes--not external events--create your feelings. You can learn to change the way your think, feel, and behave in the here-and-now.” - from The Feeling Good Handbook by Dr. David Burns

“If you let the world affect how you feel, what you are saying is, "I do not make my own decisions, I just have a Pavlovian response to anything that may twang my emotions."” Stuart Wilde in ‘Life Was Never Meant To Be A Struggle’

“When you feel frustrated or upset by a person or a situation, remember that you are not reacting to the person or the situation, but to your feelings [beliefs] about the person or the situation.” - from The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success by Deepak Chopra

But I also find that coming to understand that the Universe truly is infinite (and therefore infinitely abundant) goes a very long way to not only quell any fears of lack, but also instill within oneself the feeling of utter abundance.

Phil

Thank you Phil,
You took a lot of time to help me along here. Yes sometimes I lack courage because I cannot see where it all goes. I'm new to this sight and don't know anyone and right now I'm wishing to be faithful so that I may find the right way and path to have my book published , and with it the energy. I thank you warmly for any wisdom and experiences that help me and everyone else on the path. Yes and sometimes I feel rather nervous as it all feels a bit lonesome.
Thank you

Beatrice D

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Thank you Phil,
You took a lot of time to help me along here.

It’s something I like to do. So, it’s my pleasure.

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sometimes I lack courage because I cannot see where it all goes.

I don’t think most of us will ever see “where it all goes.” BUT, it seems to me (after many years of still ongoing study and practice) we CAN come to have confidence in a PROCESS that we can understand and adapt ourselves to.

For me, from all I’ve studied, it seems to come down to being aware of how we FEEL, and always be intending to feel as good as we possibly can. Of course, in order to become ‘masters of our feelings’ we need to understand that each of us actually HAS the power to determine how we feel. In other words, we need to come to understand that each of us is responsible for our own feelings (and why that’s a very GOOD thing) and, that it’s never ‘the economy,’ or some other person, or some condition that ‘causes’ us to feel however we do. (It’s simply how each of us thinks or believes about conditions, others, ourselves, etc., that CAUSES how we feel.)

I think Neville Goddard put it well when he said, “Feeling is the secret.”

“The Universe responds to how we feel.” Esther Hicks

Well, that’s it for now. I hope it helps.

Phil

Something else you might consider: Feeling very good allows you to COMPREHEND things that you most often can NOT comprehend when you are experiencing painful feelings (anger, disappointment, fear, irritation, worry, etc.). Feeling good allows you to grasp the value of things which we are hard to grasp or recognize when we’re not feeling good.

So, feeling good – besides being a subjectively pleasant experience – is almost the state that is necessary for a person to take advantage of or even recognize opportunities as they appear (whether the opportunity is some external occurrence, or whether it’s an idea that comes to mind).

Take a simple example: Suppose someone says to you, “You’re a beautiful person.” How do you respond? Doesn’t it depend on how you feel at the moment? If you don’t feel well, you might indeed be looking beautiful, but you won’t really appreciate and internalize the compliment. Whereas, if you’re feeling good, and someone says you’re beautiful, you are much more able to appreciate, internalize and be positively affected by the compliment.

In my own life, I have had wonderful ideas come to my mind, but because I wasn’t in a great mood I dismissed them, or rationalized them away. Only to find out later on that had I responded positively to the idea it might have allowed me some great good fortune.

Phil