Been spending my time practicing keeping myself thinking only about what I DO want, dismissing the thoughts that are contrary.

Suddenly, I realized I only thought I was thinking about what I wanted, but reading the chapter on the Advancing Person, it dawned on mr that what I was really focused on was how I could 'get' what I wanted!

Then I saw clearly that I was focused on actions I should take to get the financial freedom of my cmi, not giving thought to how I would express increase or give the advancing person impression to all I meet.

I realized that unless I maintain the 'more for all, less for none' attitude in all my affairs, I would be stuck in competitive mind, not the create one. Mr. W says I'm to create what I want, not compete for it. And now I see how this sneaky competitive mind keeps me from getting rich!

"What I want for myself, I want for everyone!"

Anya

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I was wondering why. I think now it is because my competitive mind is comparing her,

If I really considered her a 'friend', I'd ask myself what I liked about her & why I became friends with her in the first place. If the answers were positive, I'd know for sure that this was a friendship I valued, then I'd think only about the good thing about the friendship, not comparing her to myself.

Hope this helps,
Anya

I have gotten alot out of this thread. My cometitive mind does rear it ugly head from time to time. I can acknowledge this now and check myself.

I have noticed that when I am around a certain friend that I get edgey and anxious. Thinking about going to see her now gives me upset feeling in my stomach.

I was wondering why. I think now it is because my competitive mind is comparing her, her family, and all they are doing to my family. And I just don;t measure up! Their son plays competitive hockey, mine doesn't theirs plays competitive soccer, mine not. Maybe it is a parenting issue but still because I feel somewhat inferior and of course I always ask how her family does and she tells me all that they do/win/ without much reciprocation. My husband says... stay away from her if she makes you feel that way.

Should I move on ?

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.. if you don't like the feelings, then change the words 'til you do.

Change the words,change the feelings. Guess that's part of Mr. W's advice to 'guard your speech'. This certain way is really becoming a lot of fun!

Anya

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I have actually been playing the "wouldn't it be great if ..." game for a while. I love it and it feels good

Me, too! It's the FEELING that matters, so just notice the feelings generated by the language you use and if you don't like the feelings, then change the words 'til you do.

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Up till now I was thinking "wouldn't it be nice if..." Thanks for reminding me to think like I have it already.

Taking another point of view, I have actually been playing the "wouldn't it be great if ..." game for a while. I love it and it feels good - and I use it as a tool to help me focus on "having it".

I can see where someone might focus on "not having it" while doing this though. If that is the case then you should choose another way of looking at it.

If you really listen to your feelings they will tell you where your thoughts are. Taking a line from Rebecca: play with all of this and have fun with it. For me, I enjoy thinking about "wouldn't it be great if...".

My point being, I wouldn't dismiss playing "wouldn't it be nice if..." without taking a pulse on how it makes you feel!

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Remember to change your 'want' into 'having' or else you'll always want and never manifest.

Up till now I was thinking "wouldn't it be nice if..." Thanks for reminding me to think like I have it already.

Anya

Remember to change your 'want' into 'having' or else you'll always want and never manifest. While you are in the 'wanting' you are giving the feeling of not having. The want spurs the desire and then you achieve the feeling of actually experiencing that which is coming to you.

Hi Anya

yes the competitive mind can sneak up to me almost unnoticed

I intended to start a thread on this, anyway, i had a aha moment just a day ago

I realize that competitive mind is really insistent on staying if we resist it. When we struggle against any thought,idea,feeling, we are in actual fact asking for more of it! Sometimes it seems really simple to understand, and other times, it really needs what Wally would say to us, to guard our thoughts before these thoughts find a home in our minds

It is quite amusing when I think of it, because I can readily recognize some bad feeling I have, and the thoughts of what I DON't want. But competitive can be really insistent, just humming into my ears if I allow..."this is not it...this is not it...this is not it" When I sit up and observe, it's really a ridiculous trait when my mind simply insist on feeling bad!

Well, I tell my mind then, relax...what is it then? What is it that I desire to be happy,joyful,free? Relax means letting go ANY struggle, because ANY thought that freezes you up and makes you feel not so good, is in fact competitive mind "tricking" you to asking more of the same.

I know Rebecca has written so much about this, but nothing like a real aha moment! to "get it"