I was wondering, for people whose "until now" thinking is hard to get out of, can positive self talk or self-affirmations help? I used to do it a long time ago, but got out of it (husband thinks its corny). could yes affirmations help?

like - I say yes to deserving wealth
I say yes to (something I want)

can that help?

I know it might sound vain to others, Like I like the sound of my own voice or something) but it seems like sometimes its easier to grasp things when talking out loud, since talking is slower than reading and all.

I would love some help or comments on this one. thanx.

If it feels good to you, it couldn't hurt.

If it feels less-than-good to you, let it go.

For example, if it causes you to think, oh, this is vain of me, or that other people will think you're vain, or that there is something wrong with you if you like the sound of your own voice, then it isn't likely to do you any good.

But you don't really need to "get out of" your thinking. You just need to become aware of when it's causing you to feel other than good. No fight, just awareness.

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You know, from the tenor of your recent posts I'm kind of wondering if maybe you aren't trying too hard. There's really nothing to DO, no need to try to force anything to happen. I mean it 100% when I say lighten up and RELAX into all of this.

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I was wondering, for people whose "until now" thinking is hard to get out of, can positive self talk or self-affirmations help? I used to do it a long time ago, but got out of it (husband thinks its corny). could yes affirmations help?

Brenna,

I recently attended a short Briggs-Meyers ‘Personality Evaluation’ seminar. So, I suppose you wondering, “So what?”

So, I learned something interesting re: talking your thoughts out loud. It seems there are several different but fundamental personality types, but of these, the extroverts are those who often like to think out loud. They will even talk out loud if they’re by their selves. Or,… and this was helpful to me,… they will sometimes talk out loud to their selves, while they’re around others.

If you’ve ever entered a room where there’s only one person, and he or she’s talking out loud, they’re probably somewhat of an extrovert personality (or have an extrovert sub-personality).

My wife does that a lot. She will ask questions out loud, not necessarily to me or anyone else around. But, not knowing this, I used to answer her. And sometimes she would look puzzled when I answered her.

One time I even asked her, “Are you talking to me?” And she said, no.

So, why do I mention this? The Briggs-Meyer speaker said different people do their thinking differently. Some people like to talk in their heads. Some people like to talk their thoughts out loud. Some people think more in terms of images or pictures. Some people like to doodle, or hum, or tap, when they think. The point the speaker made was, one method was not better than another.

Different personalities just process things differently, as well as behave differently. To someone who isn’t aware of this (which was me, before attending this seminar) other’s behaviors can seem odd, strange, or even a little wacky.

So, your husband thinking it’s corny might just be because he also isn’t aware of how different personalities express and think differently.

As for me, I just am getting used to the fact that my wife thinks out loud.

Also, as for making positive affirmative statements, you can bet your bananas that PLENTY of successful people do this routinely. Depending on the personality, some do it internally, but some do it out loud, at least in certain circumstances. For instance, some runners or other athletes will ‘encourage’ their selves out loud, as they compete. It seems it just depends on their personality type.

So, like Rebecca said, if it helps you FEEL GOOD, it probably works for you.

Just thought you knowing this might be helpful.

Phil

Hi Brenna,

I'd just like to ad a little to what Rebecca and Phil wrote. I like to think out loud, but I feel embarrassed if anyone hears me. So I usually just do it when I'm alone.

I freely admit that I LOVE re-reading my own writing. I don't care if it's vain. I enjoy reading things I've written more than I like reading almost anything else.

In fact, I recently wrote a stage adaptation of Bram Stoker's Dracula. Initially, I was nervous each time I needed to write out some dialogue that Stoker only implied. After a while, I liked the stuff I wrote even better than some of the original text! I have great respect for Stoker's writing, but I'm no longer afraid to do my part.

So the point is that there is nothing wrong with speaking out loud, or reading your own writing, or anything at all that helps or feels good to you -- or both!

Love and blessings,
Rachel

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I like to think out loud, but I feel embarrassed if anyone hears me. So I usually just do it when I'm alone.

I talk to myself all the time, right out loud. If anyone hears me, he or she is usually just amused. And if anyone makes a comment about it, I just say something like, "Well, I figure there's no one else who understands me better so I'm the perfect one to talk to."

They either smile at that or run screaming in the opposite direction. (Just made up that second option.)

Actually, if they think it's odd, who cares? I like HEARING the ideas "out there" in the "real" world instead of just in my head. It's sort of how I try them on for size.

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They either smile at that or run screaming in the opposite direction. (Just made up that second option.)

Rebecca, this little paragraph reminds me. How we are somehow programmed to worry about what people might think?

I think it was Zig Ziglar who said, you would not worry as much if only you knew how little they do (think about you).

God bless you,

Caroline
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I normally tell others that when I talk to myself I get better answers!

Another benifit is that talking to ourselves develops our speaking ability; great singers and speakers spend a lot of time singing or speaking.

I knew Phil and I weren't the only ones on here who talked to ourselves!

I've always talked out loud to myself. Even as a kid. I had a teacher who told me that it was okay to talk to yourself, it was even ok to answer yourself, but when you started saying pardon me you likely had a problem. Always remembered that one and thought it was so funny. Now when I'm talking out loud and anyone comments on it I just tell like I like intelligent answers, that's why I talk to myself. Always good for a chuckle.

Blessings, Donna

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Originally posted by kbratt:
I've always talked out loud to myself. Even as a kid. I had a teacher who told me that it was okay to talk to yourself, it was even ok to answer yourself, but when you started saying pardon me you likely had a problem. Always remembered that one and thought it was so funny. Now when I'm talking out loud and anyone comments on it I just tell like I like intelligent answers, that's why I talk to myself. Always good for a chuckle.

Blessings, Donna

tahts a good one. i've seen the one, about people sayin that you're jealous cause you don't got voices in your headlol.

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can that help?

I agree with Rebecca's advice below: If it feels good and not like a bother, it can't hurt.

One of the things I had trouble grasping up to now is there really is nothing to "do". There are no prescribed techniques for everyone, no template. For me, I had to let go of thinking about money at all. Might sound weird since for a lot of people, envisioning extra zeroes in their bank statements really helped them. While for me, envisioning anything to do with money itself threw me off, because I feel absolutely nothing when thinking about or seeing money itself, which surprised even me.

Feelings and experiences and surroundings are what shift my attitude to a positive one and keep it there. For example, I've looked at airfares to New York (seriously, they are half the price of what I expected), checked out nice hotels and restaurants there online and so forth - because it helps me feel positive about the future, and this has worked excellently for me in the past with speedy, uncanny results.

Think of a time when something you wanted came to you effortlessly. The answer for what to "do" might me there.

I don't mean to slide off topic here but I love the look on people's faces when I answer their question before they've ask it or I'll laugh and say "now you're wondering....". LOL talk about getting strange looks. You would think my kids would be used to my abilities by now, but it still throws them.

And yes, I do talk to myself too.