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It is by not understanding this that most people make their failure. Every hour and moment you spend in giving heed to doubts and fears, every hour you spend in worry,
every hour in which your soul is possessed by unbelief, sets a current away from you in the whole domain of intelligent substance.
All the promises are unto them that believe, and unto them only.

Chapter 9:How to Use the Will

A student of this science had set his mind on making a certain business combination which seemed to him at the time to be very
desirable, and he worked for some weeks to bring it about. When the crucial time came, the thing failed in a perfectly inexplicable
way. It was as if some unseen influence had been working secretlyagainst him.
But he was not disappointed. On the contrary, he thanked God that his desire had been overruled, and went steadily on with a
grateful mind. In a few weeks an opportunity so much better came his way that he would not have made the first deal on any account, and he saw that a mind which knew more than he knew
had prevented him from losing the greater good by entangling himself with the lesser.

Chapter 16:Some Cautions and concluding Observations

Greetings Fellow Travelers,
I wanted to share an experience that I had which illustrates this perfectly.
Some months back, a lovely Italian gent from Canada ordered cookware from me-a pot and a skillet. I sent them out, and the pot arrived broken. Even though I was a bit bummed at first, I thought "oh well, no big deal, I'll make a new one, and put in a claim, it will be like selling 2". He unexpectedly paid for shipping and sent me the old pot back-the lip was damaged, but still usable. COOL!

I finally shipped the replacement (and another order that he had) out yesterday, and called the customer to let him know. He mentioned that the pot that he used was wonderful, but that it had "little square stains" on it. At first, I thought, "oh, no, it failed, blah blah blah" but then I did EFT to calm down. I have made and used these pots for years, and never had this issue. Then it dawned on me: I've always cooked beans in my pots, and they don't stain. Perhaps the soup that the customer had had made stained the fine crackling which occurs on the inside as the pot is used, and I just never noticed it.

So this morning I tested my theory on the damaged but usable pot that he had returned, and made black tea in it. I got exactly the result he did, and it cleaned up easily by soaking with a bleach solution.

Well, I was so excited with this positive result that I called the customer to tell him of my findings-and he ordered another pot!! So now I'll have money to pay my friend that is coming over to mow the brush in my yard in 2 weeks. Hey Croz,I sold a "brushpot" WHOOHOO!

Julia I do love to hear these types of stories. I have noticed that in alot of situations that I have had I have some opportunity that would complete my CMI or come so close that I would not have to worry about my financial situation for a long time or perhaps even ever. None of them have panned out. I really do try and have the attitude that my desire was overidden because something better is coming but when? I am doing remarkable with my feelings even though I have spent all my retirement all my savings my pension so there is no money to fall back on and I am short in bills this month by 800.00. I am waiting for a solution to this issue to present it self.


I just have to not give up and feel as good as I possibly can I guess and eventually I will make more than I spend. I just hope I can get through this tuff time soon.

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I just hope I can get through this tuff time soon.

Hi CaptJack,

I truly believe that everything, one way or another always eventually works out perfectly fine.

And, as you probably already know, I also believe that we can help expedite or ease the process of everything working out -- sooner, easier, better, etc. -- by determining how we feel, in our present moments.

And, I believe the more, or the closer we can get to feeling ideal, wonderful feelings -- peace, love, happiness, ease, joy, freedom, being in the flow, wonderful well being, etc. -- the more we expedite our good, whether it be more money, kinder relationships, better health, happiness or whatnot.

With that in mind, if you're interested in looking at another technique to help you feel better, I would like to suggest one that I mentioned on the 'It's All Relative' board.

I like it because it's really simple, and once you get the hang of it, it can be done anywhere. The only admonition I have, at this time, is, if it seems burdensome, or for whatever reason you feel you don't want to give it a go, then don't. It's really just a suggestion.

Liberation Breath Process

In the mean time, I also just suggest you continue to find ways to uplift your moods, and/or also, ease, let go, heal or release any unwanted feelings.

Phil

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I really do try and have the attitude that my desire was overidden because something better is coming but when? I am doing remarkable with my feelings even though I have spent all my retirement all my savings my pension so there is no money to fall back on and I am short in bills this month by 800.00. I am waiting for a solution to this issue to present it self.


I just have to not give up and feel as good as I possibly can I guess and eventually I will make more than I spend. I just hope I can get through this tuff time soon.

Hi Capt'n Jack,
Please do whatever you can to LET GO of the fact that you spent all your retirement money. I use EFT all the time. Otherwise, if you keep telling that story, it will sit and fester in your subconscious mind, and propegate itself. Please do all you can to get okay with where you're at, right now. I pray to the Universe for help with acceptance too, it really works. Try telling a different story. What helped me a lot also was Abraham-Hick's book "The Astonishing Power of Emotions". That book marked a big turning point for me.


When I came to SOGR in 2006, I owed over 10,000.00 in back taxes, and then the next year, my husband got sick with cancer, and the only income was mine. I even faced losing my house to the town! Well, the only income since, until just a month ago (hubbie JUST got a disability stipend) has been mine. And all my back taxes are paid off, and I have $$ every month to pay ALL the bills and eat very well! And I can understand how you feel right now, I was scared S%&TLESS! But you CAN change that. Never give up

Just keep at it, and keep writing, we're here for support.

I'm glad that my story inspired you too.

(((HUGS))),
Julia

Hi Julia,

Congratulations on selling your first "Brushpot"!
I am smiling which reminds me of Zig Ziglar. I could be like the woman in the audience that he was talking about "she was grinning from ear to ear, her smile so wide she could eat a banana sideways"

Failures are Friends in disguise. Reminds me of a few days ago. I went out to talk to new people and expand my customer base. But I did not meet one single person. They had all gone into hiding I took it in stride and did not allow for any negative thoughts. Because I had been out there with a great attitude and enjoyed my walk.

Nobody followed me and tugged my sleeve... but without any prompting from me, an old customer returned to place an order and a new one appeared in the place where I least expected. I am willing and open to receive through all channels

God bless you,

Caroline
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I know that the answer is to feel as good as you possibly can and I think I am doing a great job of it most of the time.

Julia I have done a good job of not letting it fester that I have spent all that money it is just right now like you were I owe money to State IRS Property tax and my income doesnt quite match my expenses yet.. I have been making progress right now I am on the edge of making enough to cover all the expenses. It has been a difficult year so far and it is hard to always stay on top of feeling good.

My inspired actions which are quite a few just havnt come to pass yet. Even if you look at just the sheer numbers I am bound to have one work lol.

I havnt talked much about this but I did open a second office. I got it rent free for a period of time and only have to pay for phone and internet. I have an agent running it working on commission only. It opened unofficilay Monday of this week. She hasnt sold anything yet but I am sure she will. I really feel like the guy Wally described as having no capital no friends no means but they still can get rich lol. And one of the best parts is I really dont have to do any of the work.

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It has been a difficult year so far and it is hard to always stay on top of feeling good.

If you keep saying that, then it will continue to be. See what I mean? I used to talk like that all the time (Life is hard, this year sucks, money is always tight, I'm always broke,mean people suck etc.) I am not saying to beat yourself up for feeling bad or for having no money-quite the contrary. I have found that when I kept talking that way, I attracted more of the same. I had to really change my story when I talked about myself. I am not suggesting that I lied either, although it FELT like it...at first...when I stopped telling my tales of woe. And I DON'T mean to stuff, deny, or pretend it didn't happen. I found that keeping a gratitude list and writing in it every day really got me out of that habit. And really, telling tales of woe really is a habit-I didn't know that until I got here, and learned the habit of telling a different story, even if it feels really weird.

Here's something written a long time ago by one of our members, Bob Bloom, which I printed out and read whenever I feel down (which is rare these days for me, THANK GOODNESS :

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Initially it may take great effort to get your mind to work the way you want. In time, however, it becomes quite easy as you create new habits of thought. To make this shift a little easier you might try the following five-step process.
1. Pause. Breathe deep a few times and feel yourself relax a bit. (Take a break from thinking)

2. Surrender. Admit that you don't have all the answers and consider that there is a force or intelligence at work in your life that does. (The thinking stuff)

3. Make peace with the way you feel about the situation whether you like the way you feel or not. Meaning, make it okay for yourself to feel what you are feeling. It's okay that you feel hurt, depressed, angry, frustrated, etc.

4. Accept forgiveness for your self and give forgiveness to the situation for being the way it is. To forgive essentially means to "Let go of your judgments." I let go of my judgments against myself and of the situation.

5. Choose again. Open up to see the situation differently. Look for the good in it. Look for the opportunity. Allow yourself to grow and see yourself growing into the person you choose to be. In all things and in all ways life is saying yes. Yes, yes-- yes, yes-- yes, yes, yes, yes---yes, yes, yes, yes-- (Sing to the tune of the Post Raisin Bran Cereal jingle-- It's raisins, that make, Post Raisin Bran so Raisin-e ) Live well! Bob Bob Bloom

A-H also says:

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Don't try to recreate peak experiences. Instead, just accept them as the gift that they are, and don't beat up on yourself for not being able to stay there. Because if you stayed there, they wouldn't be peak experiences. They would be normal, every day in time hum drum boring, experiences. So, savor the peak experiences and compliment yourself upon your achieving of them, and expect more of them, and leave everything else out of the equation.
--- Abraham

Excerpted from the workshop in Tucson, AZ on Tuesday, February 20th, 2001 #471

As for me, I've got more "brushpots" to sell! "Failures" are indeed friends in disguise, thanks for that Caroline.

Julia,

Thank you so much for your very practical advice. I had an experience yesterday in which I had a series of students say no to buying more lessons (their reasons were all so iron clad, I wanted to scream.) I really wanted to complain about it. I wanted to describe what they said, and why it bugged me and wallow in all the frustration. But I KNEW that indulgence of that kind would only bring me MORE of the same. I kept reminding myself that the temporary "fun" of belly-aching was NOT worth the price I would have to pay later.

The breath, surrender, accept, forgive, choose
process is just what I need to help me let go of my former hobby -- complaining.

I used to say that one of the privileges of having a job is that you get to complain about it. I knew it was an indulgence even then. I just didn't know how powerful it was. Now that I know that I get what I feel, I do ALL I can to feel as good as possible all the time.

Also, thanks for the A-H quote about peak experiences. I was a little worried that the super excitement that I felt when I first started this course had worn off a little. I guess that's okay.

Anyway Julia, you are an inspiration. Thanks again for all your great posts!

Love and Blessings,
Rachel

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Anyway Julia, you are an inspiration. Thanks again for all your great posts!

Amen! And thank you Julia for a wonderful post.

There are a few things in my current situation that I would like to see differently. Taking full responsibility that my decisions of the past are what brought me here. And my weak spot is not so much complaining (ok though I have my pity party 2-3 times a year LOL) but self accusation. If only I had been perfect and never made a mistake or poor choice.

That is not a helpful thought. And it does not make me feel good. If I have a bad day, I allow myself to feel bad for a day. Then start with a better thought on the new day. Or sooner.

Most of the time, I pretend none of it ever happpened. What is the use? I have analyzed the past and the present and world history and economy and social structure and what have you so no more need to do more of that

I am here today. I am fit and healthy and happy. Yes I am grateful that I can choose to be happy even when there are things that I wish to change. Because I believe in God and I believe in me. Have done some pretty awesome things during my life and so I can do them again.
I know what I want even if that is a flexible thing. All those fun new things that my brain keeps thinking of.
Now all I need to remember is to leave the How to Someone Else

God bless you,

Caroline
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Well I don’t always feel that way. When I do I do my best to shift I was just sharing that it has been difficult. I guess even when I talk about it here it keeps me somewhat in that mindset.

Last night I had a good work out made a steak to eat watched a comedy on TV I was laughing and I felt extremely good. While I was feeling good I called my kids and my wife answered and we had a pleasant conversation first one in months.

I am running my office all by myself and yesterday I received an opportunity to move into another agents office and we would share companies and he plan on retiring in a year or so and I would be able to coach football in the fall. I am not sure I want to close my current office and I have a lease till next March but at least I am being given more options!

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When I do I do my best to shift I was just sharing that it has been difficult. I guess even when I talk about it here it keeps me somewhat in that mindset.

You're right- at first , it sure can be! I thought I was going to have a meltdown...and actually, I did, in a GOOD way. Wally even says it here:

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There is no labor from which most people shrink as they do from that of sustained and consecutive thought. It is the hardest work in the world. This is especially true when truth is contrary to appearances.

But you're doing it! Right on! And that's great news about the office.

Hi Julia

Fantastic post. Your insights are really helpful and supportive. Thank you.

Love

Rohan

This is excatly what I needed to hear today, thank you Julia. I am having a moment similar to Capt Jack and it's 4.30am in Dubai and I cannot sleep. My mind is having constant battles between what I want and surrendering (I think it's a draw so far so I need to keep my vision fighting through. I am on session 6 and while i was tossing and turning in bed I kept on thinking about EFT - I don't know what it is or how to apply it. I think I have read from some posts that its helps with the fear and anxiety (like gratitude). Is it too early for me to learm this or am I doing something that Wally tells me not to do by bringing it up (ie do not mix theories)

Thanks

Much love xxx

p.s I put out there at the beginning of this week that I would make my first sale this week, the week is not over yet...

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I don't know what it is or how to apply it. I think I have read from some posts that its helps with the fear and anxiety (like gratitude). Is it too early for me to learm this or am I doing something that Wally tells me not to do by bringing it up (ie do not mix theories)

Hi Buddhist Chick,
I don't think that this will interfere with Wally's book, but rather, enhance it, because it's not another money making science. It also helps clear subconscious resistance and old Scare-City programming BIGTIME-can't say enough about it. You can check it out HERE: EFT Universe:Gary Craig
Namaste!

I wouldn't call it a money making science although it certainly can be used to do that. I would call it a stress relief technique that can be used to relieve stress in any and every area of your life. Stressful thoughts, feelings, symptoms, emotions, experiences, etc.

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I wouldn't call it a money making science although it certainly can be used to do that. I would call it a stress relief technique that can be used to relieve stress in any and every area of your life. Stressful thoughts, feelings, symptoms, emotions, experiences, etc.

Good point Dawn, really more like the science of abundance and allowing.

Just thought I'd add that my customer wrote me back telling me how happy he was that with a little bleach left overnight that the pot was in perfect condition.

Julia, I've been off the forums for a few days, so I just noticed your new picture.

Wow! I love it. You are one beautiful lady!

Love and blessings,
Rachel

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Originally posted by Rachel:
Julia, I've been off the forums for a few days, so I just noticed your new picture.

Wow! I love it. You are one beautiful lady!

Love and blessings,
Rachel

AWWW, thanks Rachel! I'm showing off my new salwar kameez and contact lenses.

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The Astonishing Power of Emotions

where do you buy your salwar kameez?

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Originally posted by Ancient Soul:

Good point Dawn, really more like the science of abundance and allowing.

Just thought I'd add that my customer wrote me back telling me how happy he was that with a little bleach left overnight that the pot was in perfect condition.

Yeah! Success.